I really need advice.. that doesn't have to do with fitness

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  • Tangerine302
    Tangerine302 Posts: 1,509 Member
    I know that since you were used to being able to text a lot and it stopped, that is why you feel this way. The first impression I get is that if he is working from 10 am- 1:30 am, that's 15 1/2 hrs per day. If he can not take 3 seconds to text a message to you then there is a different problem going on. He surely has to use use the restroom during that spand of time.
    I wish you the best.
  • ar1ms
    ar1ms Posts: 98 Member
    I tottttttally know what you mean! My bf is Korean which means his society has this image of a man having to provide solely for his family and him having to work his butt off. He is ALWAYS thinking about work and being stressed about money and he says he needs me to support him. I try to be as supportive as I can but...sometimes it is just too much. He rarely calls me, doesn't know at all what I am doing in my life, never asks me about it...and when I complain, he says I should be supportive bcs he has to work a lot. Like I don't work and study at the same time!!!!! But of course men always think their job is harder than a woman's. And yeah I do have my own life and hobbies but are we in a relationship or are we just neighbours living next to each other? If you share your life with someone then you should SHARE it, and not just meet a couple of times....anyway...my bf doesn't really like his job but yours does, which means he really wants to do it well and succeed, which means double as much effort and less time for you.

    I would tell you to be supportive and all that but there is only so much we can handle or endure. I am to be honest sick and tired of women always having to be supportive of their man and not getting anything back. Yeah, yeah, work but don't waste your life with working and then wonder why you will come home to an empty house later....you know what I mean?

    By the way, have you tried talking about this with him?

    This is exactly it, He has no time for me at all and i feel completely lonely and he doesn't understand. and He says, that he has to work and i understand that but it really does hurt me so much that he just doesn't have time for me anymore. Like things just completely switched for me. I can't tell him about my day, I can't tell him anything, its horrible i just want my best friend back. Yes I have talked to him but he is so stressed out that he is just tired of hearing it because he thinks i should be supportive but i really am trying because i want him to be happy. And when I am with him, ALL he does is talk about work, literally all he does.:cry:
  • loveanyway
    loveanyway Posts: 13
    that's the nature of the business.. very long hours, especially if it's a new restaurant. all I can say is, time will tell... yes, there should be compromise, but if your lifestyles remain so incompatible that it leaves you feeling constantly unhappy, you will have to come to a decision. matters of the heart are never easy..
    but I HOPE it turns out the way you wish- good luck :)

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