WHY AM I GIVING UP :(

If you give up, you definitely won't see the results you want to see. I know it's not happening as fast as you'd like it to, but you WILL see results if you're on the right track.

Hi There Kiddo...Change takes time!!! You have to focus on one meal at a time, one day at a time and one pound at a time!!! When your look at the big picture it can be quite overwhelming!!! I needed to lose 120 pounds just to get to a place called "NORMAL". Talk about quitting before I even got started!!! I broke that down into 10% goals. I could handle working on losing 12 pounds much easier than 120!!! I knew that my body refused to give up the weight and I had to learn what worked for me. I gave myself 3 months to make my first goal and was shocked that in 3 months I had lost 27 pounds, As of today, I have lost a total of 86 pounds and have been able to maintain it with no problem. If I can do this so can you, trust me,,,it's not easy, but it is possible!!

I still eat all the foods I love, but in moderation. I have finally accepted brown rice instead of white rice...but that has been very hard with my part Japanese heritage and lving 8 years in Hawaii, where sticky white rice is served with everything!!! Lean how to add lean proteins and veggies that you like to your pasta so that you get satisfied with good stuff.

Are you exercising? I am a cardio junkie, I enjoy Kickboxing, Zumba, Hip Hop, Step and even Jogging...but my greatest changes came when I combined strength training with my cardio. Find a group a friends to support you...it makes all the difference in the world!!! My freinds know, if they want to spend time with me, they can find me at my local gym!! Consequently...some of them have joined my gym and Boot Camp...and we are getting sexy together!! It has made this experience much easier and quitting is not an option!!!

Until then, we are here to support you and encourage you!! Trust me...I have cried plenty of tears over this 2 years!! I was a size 24 and now I am a size 12/14. My goal is a size 10, and I am really close. I remember feeling just like you have described...and I will also share this: Being overweight for my whole life stretched my skin terribly. With all the weight that I have lost, I have the loose flabby skin at my thighs, tummy and my arms look like wings!! I hate to look at my body, but in my clothes...no one sees that stuff!! All they see is a new sexy me, and my friends are so proud of me. I have been approved by my insurance to have have the skin removed, but I am motivated to try and tighten it up as much as I can without surgery. That will be a last resort...but it is an option to help me achieve what I have worked so hard for.

DON'T GIVE UP!!!

You can't expect lasting results over night... I know it's tough, every day is a challenge but stick to it and you will see your hard work pay off.
Don't quit carbs ( I can't quit them either lol ) instead eat less of them and know at what time of the day to eat them (avoid night time). It's easier to make yourself accustomed to a new lifestyle if you don't try to ban all things you really love, instead learn when to have them and how much of it is good.
I am a chocaholic, I don't think I can ever quit chocolate. Instead of having milk chocolate, I opt for dark chocolate and if I'm going to treat myself to it, I eat less of it and earlier in the day.

Interesting that you just posted this. I posted a blog a few hours ago about not quitting.

I hope this helps!



YOU SHOULD NOT QUIT BECAUSE:

3. Quitting becomes a habit.

4. You will find relief but experience regression.

5. You will give the devil the glory instead of God.

6. You've come to far to turn back now.

7. You will cause others to give up and lose respect for you.

8. Your future is still unfolding and your life is not over yet.

10. You may feel alone but you're not alone.

12. You will lose your place and your reward.



I applaud the efforts of everyone that reads this post and hope these few words of encouragement helps someone.

~Fred

Love these Fred Thanku!!!

I have given up a thousand times over the years and the weight just crept higher. It is a marathon, not a sprint. I am still waiting to find out why 6 oz of M& M's will put 2 pounds on my belly. It always takes longer to remove weight than put in on and sometimes you look worse in spots while you are losing than when you had the fat plumping them out. It is doable but man, it is hard when your family is not supportive. Have you tried taping a picture to the refrigerator of a garment you want to be able wear that you can't get into yet? I personally have a favorite pair of jeans hanging in a prominent place, egging me on to lose back into them. The poor things are dusty from waiting so long. But I am hoping this is the place to be to get it done. When you fall off the wagon, get back up and dust yourself off and climb back on. Like AA says, one day at a time. Food cravings are the same.

I don't think there is any scientific evidence to it taking twice as long to lose it than it does to gain it. It has not been true in my case. I was able to lose 65 lbs in a year back when I was 21/22. I went from 225 to 160. I ended up gaining most of it back, but it took years. Lets see, I got married a little over a year after I reached my lowest of 160 and I weighed 175 on my wedding day. That's about 15 lbs that I gained in one year. Hmmmm, lost 60 lbs in a year, then gained 15 in a year. Sounds like I gained slower than I lost, doesn't it? Well, I got pregnant 7 months after I got married, and by then I weight 183, so that's another 8 lbs in 7 months. Then it was all downhill after getting pregnant. No use in even keeping track of that. But My point is that when you really do the math, you actually gain weight rather slowly. It just sneaks up on us b/c we're not paying attention when it's happening. On the flip side, when we're losing weight we're usually obsessing about it, which make it seem to take longer.

Let me ask you this, how long did it take you to put this weight on?

Times that by 2. That is how long you should expect it to take to come off. You need to enjoy this whole process and the fact you are becoming a healthier person! Don't just think about the scale. Think about the pounds of pressure you are removing from your knees, or the years you are adding to your life!

Took me 16 years to put it all on. It will take me 32 years to take it off?!?!?!?!?!? :noway:

Took me 38 years to put it all on, so apparently, if I keep at this, 76 years from now when I'm 114 years old (assuming I live that long), I'll have a SMOKIN body!

If 1300 hundred is pigging out for you, how much are you normally eating a day? Eating such a low amount of calories is probably going to make you miserable, slow weight loss down eventually, and cause you to binge from feeling deprived all the time.

^^This.

How bad do you want it?

Depending on how much you have to lose, you may not see big changes at 10lbs. It is unrealistic to think that you lost 10lbs and your whole body should look different.

It's called the dieters mirage, everyone expects to see wholesale changes in a short period or with a small loss (again depending on how much you have to lose).

When I started, I didn't notice a difference with a 20lb loss...now I am over 40 and everyone sees the difference.

Keep at it, set realistic size and weight goals intermittently and work towards those shorter goals. Your body will change and people will notice, but only if you stick with it.