For the ladies, what do you do about creepers at the gym?

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  • nixism
    nixism Posts: 258 Member
    So do tell - did the ear phones work? Has Creeper creeped you since telling him to leave you alone..
  • bikhi
    bikhi Posts: 175
    whenever someone tells me to smile i just tell them, "this is my happy face. you should see me when i'm pissed."
  • MizKittyB
    MizKittyB Posts: 47 Member
    There was a guy at my gym who literally got in my space, repeatedly, to say "hi" and talk, etc. It's one thing to step into line-of-sight because of headphones, or constantly go for the machine right next to yours (when there are 20 open ones) - annoying as heck, but not impossible to deal with. It's another thing entirely to try going nose-to-nose with someone in the middle of a workout on a machine or bumping my shoulders while trying to hold plank pose. A very (VERY) loud "Not in the mood, buddy" that had everyone else in the room looking our way got him to at least keep his distance after that, though the last time I saw him, he was pulling the kicked puppy routine. When he asked me about it ("What's with you?"), I told him he didn't understand personal space. (One of the other people in the room agreed with me, while another guy laughed it off. I know who to trust, now. o.O: ) Since then, I've just made a point of keeping my 'Renner Resting Face' in place and my headphones on, and the most interaction I've had with other people is the passing smile/nod sorts of acknowledgements.

    On the bright side, I've started going in the early morning and every last person I've seen in the building before 8 am is there with one purpose - getting in and out before the daily work grind. It's a refreshing change of pace. :P I haven't run into any creepers yet, thankfully.
  • MizKittyB
    MizKittyB Posts: 47 Member
    whenever someone tells me to smile i just tell them, "this is my happy face. you should see me when i'm pissed."

    "This is just my resting face."

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  • supermodelchic
    supermodelchic Posts: 550 Member
    Yes tell the manager to talk to him directly about gym rules ect that should make him feel uneasy enough to leave you alone.goodluck:)
  • DJ2120
    DJ2120 Posts: 407 Member
    is he cute?

    if not then i find "f*** off" works really well. you dont need to explain yourself just tell that fool to be gone

    i think 99% of the time when ladies have these type problems it's because they are too worried about being seen as a b*tch. it's ok to tell people NO outright without having to look cute and be coy about it. for many guys anything less than being straightforward about not being interested gives him hope that you may be interested.

    Sure in an old enough to be my Daddy kind of way lol!
  • DJ2120
    DJ2120 Posts: 407 Member
    whenever someone tells me to smile i just tell them, "this is my happy face. you should see me when i'm pissed."

    "This is just my resting face."

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    OMG I love that! Using that from now on! Haha!
  • DJ2120
    DJ2120 Posts: 407 Member
    There was a guy at my gym who literally got in my space, repeatedly, to say "hi" and talk, etc. It's one thing to step into line-of-sight because of headphones, or constantly go for the machine right next to yours (when there are 20 open ones) - annoying as heck, but not impossible to deal with. It's another thing entirely to try going nose-to-nose with someone in the middle of a workout on a machine or bumping my shoulders while trying to hold plank pose. A very (VERY) loud "Not in the mood, buddy" that had everyone else in the room looking our way got him to at least keep his distance after that, though the last time I saw him, he was pulling the kicked puppy routine. When he asked me about it ("What's with you?"), I told him he didn't understand personal space. (One of the other people in the room agreed with me, while another guy laughed it off. I know who to trust, now. o.O: ) Since then, I've just made a point of keeping my 'Renner Resting Face' in place and my headphones on, and the most interaction I've had with other people is the passing smile/nod sorts of acknowledgements.

    On the bright side, I've started going in the early morning and every last person I've seen in the building before 8 am is there with one purpose - getting in and out before the daily work grind. It's a refreshing change of pace. :P I haven't run into any creepers yet, thankfully.

    That's exactly why I go so early, to get my work out done & get the rest of my day started. I figured if I avoided the gym at night & on weekends I wouldn't be bothered much. I see a lot of the same people and they know I'm quiet and keep to myself so they just give me a passing nod & I give them the same. Oh & I'm loving the renner resting face, intense!
  • DJ2120
    DJ2120 Posts: 407 Member
    Be as loud as you can and tell him i m not interested lol
    I mean I know that is rude but he is been rude to you! you know?

    Good point.
  • DJ2120
    DJ2120 Posts: 407 Member
    So do tell - did the ear phones work? Has Creeper creeped you since telling him to leave you alone..

    We shall see if he is there tomorrow....
  • DJ2120
    DJ2120 Posts: 407 Member
    Thanks everyone for the great advice and the laughs! I'll update in a couple days and let you know how the fake headphones work :wink:
  • blakejohn
    blakejohn Posts: 1,129 Member
    take some boxing and punch them in the noise
  • citygirl04
    citygirl04 Posts: 286 Member
    I quit going to the gym. I work out at home.
  • kcoftx
    kcoftx Posts: 765 Member
    If you are afraid of dropping your phone, you can buy an armband for it.
  • loveanyway
    loveanyway Posts: 13
    ipod/earbuds... that won't stop the losers from hovering behind you while you're on the elliptical or treadmill though.. & they wonder why we act like "*****es".. it's because the second you show any kindness they think it's a giant "green light" to hit on you. I'm working on putting a gym in at home where I can lift & run & stretch all I want without creepers watching.. can't wait :)
  • Sojaided34
    Sojaided34 Posts: 113
    Just try not to go when you know he's going to be there. But I wouldn't pass it off. I would bring it to the attention of the managers. I'm just glad my gym has a women's only section separate from the main gym. No guys allowed.
  • Sojaided34
    Sojaided34 Posts: 113
    Just try not to go when you know he's going to be there. But I wouldn't pass it off. I would bring it to the attention of the managers. I'm just glad my gym has a women's only section separate from the main gym. No guys allowed.
  • blakejohn
    blakejohn Posts: 1,129 Member
    can I say just because I talk to a woman at the gym doesn't mean I'm trying to get her in the sack, the gym does not have to be a hostile.
  • SoDamnHungry
    SoDamnHungry Posts: 6,998 Member
    Tell him to get lost, and if he doesn't, you should officially report him.
  • DJ2120
    DJ2120 Posts: 407 Member
    ipod/earbuds... that won't stop the losers from hovering behind you while you're on the elliptical or treadmill though.. & they wonder why we act like "*****es".. it's because the second you show any kindness they think it's a giant "green light" to hit on you. I'm working on putting a gym in at home where I can lift & run & stretch all I want without creepers watching.. can't wait :)

    I would love to have a home gym! I do have an elliptical at home which is where I do all my cardio so that it's less time that I have to be in the gym. It's my dream to have a good basic home gym one day :smile:
  • DJ2120
    DJ2120 Posts: 407 Member
    can I say just because I talk to a woman at the gym doesn't mean I'm trying to get her in the sack, the gym does not have to be a hostile.

    Well that's great for you. And if you find some women that like chatting it up with you that's awesome! The world is full of friendly people, I'm just not one of them. And if I give someone the vibe that I don't want to be bothered & they continue to try to interact with me, that's when I have an issue with them. I'm a don't bother me & I won't bother you type of person, always have been, always will be. Doesn't matter if I'm at the gym or just out in public running errands, don't talk to me, don't bother me.
  • DJ2120
    DJ2120 Posts: 407 Member
    Just try not to go when you know he's going to be there. But I wouldn't pass it off. I would bring it to the attention of the managers. I'm just glad my gym has a women's only section separate from the main gym. No guys allowed.

    I think the next time I join a gym I'm going to look for one like this. Either Women's only or one with a section just for the ladies.
  • thebigcb
    thebigcb Posts: 2,210 Member
    Jaysus I've been in my gym for well over a year and I dont think I've spoken to a female that I didn;t know.

    Some strange people out there

    THeres a change of gyms in Ireland called Curves, strictly females only( i know i;ve tried so hard)
  • Juliejustsaying
    Juliejustsaying Posts: 2,332 Member
    I just sleep with them

    ahahahahahahahah
  • cbear017
    cbear017 Posts: 345 Member
    If he's not taking your hints seriously and the fake headphones don't work, just tell him point blank that you're there to work out and not to socialize.

    Just be forewarned that if he's the creepy type he might get nasty. If that's the case, report him to the front desk.
  • jcstanton
    jcstanton Posts: 1,849 Member
    He must see you as a challenge.'

    Honestly unless he's doing something really offensive like touching you, making lewd gestures or anything like that I wouldn't complain to management just because he's trying to talk to you. Maybe just flat out tell him that you're not there to socialize and could he please leave you alone.

    This is my thought as well.

    ^^^This! Took the words right out of my mouth! You didn't ever specifically say, "I'm here to work out, not to socialize. Please don't try to talk to me." You just said, "I'm not a smiley type of person," but he heard, "I dare you to try to make me smile." So, if/when he approaches you again, just come right out and say, "Look, when I told you I'm not the smiley type, that was my way of gently telling you that I'm not interested in socializing. Since you didn't get that, allow me to be more direct. Please stop trying to talk to me."
  • laurenw1992
    laurenw1992 Posts: 62
    Hopefully he'll get the idea soon, some great tips! There's nothing more annoying than people lurking behind you on the elliptical! It's especially awkward when you don't have headphones in and you can hear the whole weight section filled with men talking about your behind...!
  • embercakez
    embercakez Posts: 141
    I don't deal with any creepers...I always have my grrrr face on so everyone pretty much leaves me alone.
  • thebigcb
    thebigcb Posts: 2,210 Member
    I don't deal with any creepers...I always have my grrrr face on so everyone pretty much leaves me alone.

    thats only cause I ain;t a member in your gym
  • DJ2120
    DJ2120 Posts: 407 Member
    I don't deal with any creepers...I always have my grrrr face on so everyone pretty much leaves me alone.

    I stay with a nasty look on my face, doesn't seem to bother this guy lol! Luckily, he wasn't at the gym today :smile:

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