I hate this, this always happens

JazzyMarie · February 2010

aaaaaaaaaah
one whole week i ate nothing but crap food and now im trying to get back on track and i cant!?
I seem to get almost obsessed with it that when i break my diet im just like, 'to hell with it' because iv been bad....
i cant pick myself up quick enough so i dont put on the weight i lost which i have done so NOW i'm back to square 1! And just feel like giving up because i obviously have some stupid food problem.
I know this sounds bad but eating unhealthy stuff actually makes me feel complete. When i eat healthy for a whole day i feel empty and sort of bored! How can i change this? :S
HELP HELP HELP HELP!
What do you guys do when you go off track for a week or so?

please and thank you
from confused overweight pig with no will power
x

catherine1979 · February 2010

You have to want it bad enough to make the change.

ccdo · February 2010

what i do is allow one day for crap food and the rest of the week healthy foods u could try this and this should help u :flowerforyou:

BassBoneBabe · February 2010

Maybe the healthy foods your are eating are boring. Maybe try some new recipes? I pulling for you. If you want, you will get there!

TamaraRR · February 2010

you need to deicde if its worth it
Is it worth feeling like crap about yourself
Is it worth having nights like this when you feel like you can never do it
Is it worth it not to love your body and feel awsome about what you can do with it

To me the joy of eating like crap all the time is not as good as feeling awsome about my body and how hard I work. I am proud of myself and am proud of what ive accomplished cake, chips n chocolate are yummy for like 5 minutes, n then you want more.

If it makes you feel complete its more than a food thing

you need to tell yourself your worth it

TamaraRR · February 2010

btw I have bad days, or bad weekends

claire76bear · February 2010

ah babe dont give up .... it all happens to us at some time.
Like any long journey you go on your bound to stray from the path but it doesn't mean you should give up and watch the others pass you by, there are plenty of friends on her who will pick you up and motivate you a long the way. read some posts.

xxx

losk4 · February 2010

Some people say that the subconcious mind is very literal in what it recieves. Waking up in the morning and repeating to yourself messages about how you are on track today, and that you will be on track all day can perhaps start you off in the right direction. BE Kind to yourself above all in everything you say and do. Remind yourself of the goal that you will be, and why that will be good for you and those around you. In short affirm yourself and your choosen program. Peace Les

AllisonMS · February 2010

from confused overweight pig with no will power
x

I felt so sad when I read this! I burst out, "Awwwwwwwwww."

Watch out what you call yourself....an "overweight pig" is a terrible, cruel way to think of yourself!

I hope you can try to be much kinder to yourself.

JazzyMarie · February 2010

Yer i suppose but im always too concious of what im eating then i sort of get sick of worrying and splurge...i sort of need to refocus my whole idea on food because losing weight is all i think about, and thats whats making me break my diet if you understand?
Do you guys do anything to motivate yourself? I.E Inspirational quotes, songs, diary, notes around house etc

TamaraRR · February 2010

you gotta think of it as a life thing, and not just a temporary diet thing. If you look at it with the big picture i find it is easier.
Like if you want deep fried french fries and pizza, there is hundreds of days to have one of these things. I try not to eat more then one crappy thing a day, if that.

If there someone you look up to body wise. I have a picture of kate hudson, and i signed up for womens health magazine, it keeps me in check. also finding a friend who will do it with you is an amazing help

red01angel · February 2010

#1 Don't call yourself a pig. You're a lovely girl.

I've been there, done that a million times; especially the bit about eating to feel complete. Do you have a hobby? I started playing video games when I'm bored or lonely (my husband travels a lot for work), and it seems to help pass the time and cure my boredom. Take up something that keeps your hands and your mind occupied. Popping a piece of sugar free gum can help too.

Maybe it'd be easier for you to change your diet a little at a time? For instance, on week 1: keep one of your daily snacks under 100 calories, week 2: continue with your week 1 change, and change 1 more behavior...and so on and so on.

It also may help you (like it has me) to take the "rehab" approach to dieting: One day at a time. Choose to eat healthy today. Don't worry about tomorrow, don't beat yourself up over yesterday. Just focus on today. You're worth the effort it takes to have a healthy future.

*hugs* Message me if you ever need to vent. Swearing doesn't bother me :-P

auntbliz · February 2010

I have a pair of tight jeans that I keep with the pants I wear every day, when my tight jeans get loose, I put a smaller pair of jeans in the drawer, and so on. I try them on periodically, and that helps me to see, "Hey, I've lost in my butt, but I've still got a ways to go in my tummy." like that. I don't buy jeans for this either, I have jeans all the way from my goal size to the size I was 30 pounds ago. It takes awhile, I put them in the drawer before I can even zip them, but man, it makes me feel good when I can finally squeeze into them and zip them up and see the progress based on how easy or hard it is to get those jeans on. Anyway, not exactly a note around the house, but it's a little help anyway.

Laceylala · February 2010

- Take a look at websites like www.foodgawker.com for food that interests you and then try making them. I find that if I don't keep my food choices constantly new I get bored, stop cooking and say eff it. Poor planning is the number one cause in weight gain for me.
- I agree with others..you have to want it enough to make the RIGHT changes and stick to it. It sucks. It gets old. It is massive amounts of planning and work and constant "on your mind" stuff, but worth it in the end.
- Rather than saying eff it and not eating right the rest of the day or rest of the week, say "*kitten*, I messed up, but I am going to get right back to my eating plan the very next meal. The Very Next Meal.
- And don't beat yourself up about it. It happens to the best of us.

lkharris · February 2010

I agree with others here - don't call yourself those names! And know that we ALL slip and you really have to allow that for yourself. Just keep plugging away and yes, it is a long term thing, not a diet. And when you have a good day congratulate yourself on that - you WILL have them!

JazzyMarie · February 2010

Thank you to all of you, its so nice to share and talk to people who really understand what im going through. This is why this site is just so darn good! I know im not a pig but i do wonder why i seem to fall off the wagon so much!
OK
So im going to print off my aspiring body << I'm thinking Annalynn Mccord
Today is going to be a healthy day, dont think about tomorrow just yet
Also going to go to the gym and book weekly classes
Take lunch with me
Make my jeans a focusing goal!!
Focus on work rather than food, watch less tv (because i eat then!!)
I always have this burst of motivation, just sticking to it that i need to work on...oh and Patience!!
You guys are awesome, i really needed this...you've definately helped me

xxx

will4change · February 2010

You did remember to get back up!!!!. That is a great thing so please don't get discouraged. If you call yourself that way imaggine what the rest of the world think of you. Don't let one wk or one day define who you are.... Start today and it will be well!!!!

freffenwolfe · February 2010

You look like a beautiful girl to me who isn't even overweight!

Try EFT (Emotional Freedom Tapping - check David Childerley's channel on YouTube), and positive affirmations eg: "I am a beautiful woman who has the ability to achieve whatever my heart desires". Read an inspirational book like 'the law of attraction' or get diet magazines with loads of success stories - I find them the most helpful and inspirational.

I know what you mean though, I also have days where I could go completely off the rails but I try to be strict with myself as the only person I am cheating is me.

Good luck xx

arfletcher · February 2010

Yer i suppose but im always too concious of what im eating then i sort of get sick of worrying and splurge...i sort of need to refocus my whole idea on food because losing weight is all i think about, and thats whats making me break my diet if you understand?

This may not help at all but here it is - I have been fat all my life - I come from a fat family (I'm not being mean - just truthful) - all my aunts and cousins are fat. My whole life I had a guilt complex surrounding food. Secound helpings were a sin - dessert was a sin - cheese was a sin. And so as a result I O-V-E-R A-T-E!! To the point that I could have been considered to have a eating disorder. I moved out of my house and met some new friends and my current partner. With the help of those people I got through alot of my food issues. The BIGGEST thing for me was learning that no food was an enemy. Food is our friend and we need it to survive. I stopped letting myself feel guilty for having dessert and taking secound helpings, and I started letting myself truly enjoy food. And I mean actually enjoy it - no guilt - no counting of cals or fat, just pure enjoyment of the food that I eat. I believe that this, beyond anything else, has helped me lose weight. I have also found that as I let myself enjoy food, the types of food that I enjoy has changed. I actually rarely crave things like potato chips when after highschool I was regularily sitting down and eating a full tube of pringles - pretty much daily. I find myself craving things like salads instead.

Now you are trying to "diet" - gawd I hate that word! - so it does make food more difficult. For me again it has been a change in my though process. I have tried to stop thinking of meals as "something good that I am going to try to make healthy" and instead am trying to think of meals as "fuel for my body, and lets see how good we can make this!" It has helped, at least for me.

I also have problems with the "same ol'" thing day in and out. There are SOOOO many good websites out there for food ideas. My favorite is VegWeb.com... I'm not a vegitarian but tend to eat almost all vegitarian dishes as they are cheaper! :bigsmile:

Keep at it - keep trying to change your relationship with food, it can be done. It does take time! But just because you've had a bad week doesnt mean that all is lost. And for me I couldnt see it as starting at ground zero - that would depress me too much - think of it as a speed bump that you are now past!

and you can totaly feel free to message me - I also have no issues with you venting and ranting! I understand!

Ashybeth · February 2010

What I do is have one "bad day" a week.. I set up a day, usually a day of the weekend. That way its like a little incentive. So on Monday I say to myself, "okay, Saturday is my bad day this week." And during the week when I am dying to pig out or just to eat something bad, I remind myself that Saturday is not too far away and I can wait a little longer to indulge in something bad. But the catch is that on your bad day, you cant just go to the store and buy everything you possibly can and eat it all, because you will feel terrible. Just do not overdo it and it wont make a difference once that day is over. You will be satisfied that you were able to eat some fries or a candy bar and know that a week is not that long to wait to eat it again. Like I said: INCENTIVE.

melgibson · February 2010

JazzyMarie!!

Don't feel bad - We all do it.
And definitely don't give up.
You can always start again tomorrow.

)

When I get like that i find myself in a what I call 'carb cycle' - Seems as soon as the last carbs are being used I'm craving more?!?! And I'm never satisfied!!!
Does this happen to you too?

I only discovered that these cravings do actually go away after a few weeks when i did the Atkins diet.
That really shows how many carbs and bad carbs I love to eat!

I now do a 4 day detox diet every month and then stick to 1100 cals a day in between, little less than recommened but otherwise the weight creeps back.

I have learned so much about food nutrition and how the body works over the years that I think I can advise myself better than anyone else.
Let's not forget that 'Food' is a massive money making industry and they design food to be moreish and in some cases addictive - MSG etc. So the odds are stacked against us from the start.
Don't feel bad, get angry with them for falling into their trap, bit of fighting spirit!!

I don't want to promote Atkins as I dont think it's healthy (-at first at least) but I would say look at your simple carb intake and replace 3/4 with complex carbs or better still lean protein. Has worked wonders for me.
You'll find that once your body is 'fed' properly it does crave all the other rubbish.

It is hard to resist tempation sometimes but the benefits of feeling good and being proud of yourself out weigh anything else. I'd be happy to help with any tips if you need. Good luck and once again don't give up

)
Mel xxx

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Hollycat · February 2010

I had 3 bad PMS days this past week too. Gained a pound. Felt crummy and it took 3 days to actually get back on track fully. How is this different from other times where I've just given up completely? Well, I'm highly motivated. I've been at this 'fat' thing for 25 odd years. I'm good at it. Too good. Tried everything, been there, done that, go the t-shirt. But never stuck with it long enough to change significantly. When I 'failed', my self-negative talk took over and that was that, until I worked up the focus to change my attitude toward 'trying' again. Sometimes that was a very long time.

So...why am I highly motivated this time? Well, as I said. I'm very good at this being fat thing. I saw myself as fat. I saw myself as genetically predisposed (which I am - my most famous relative was Rolund the Rotund) and I also have hypothyroidism which contributes to my negative self-image. I got so good at the 'being fat' thing that I got to the point where I began experiencing chest pain before Christmas. At 47. Now, my attitude is completely different. I really don't have a choice anymore. The choice whether or not to continue 'trying' was taken from me. If I want to SURVIVE, I MUST make the choice every day to eat right and exercise. Am I going to make that choice every single day? Is it worth it to wallow in a minor failure for weeks on end before I pick myself up again? Maybe, but now I don't really have the CHOICE. I MUST pick myself up and do this thing I sub-consciously, don't really want to do. I'm hard-wired to not want to do this. I believe strongly that our survival instincts are programmed to either 1) eat to survive and avoid starvation or 2) have the ability to run very fast to avoid being eaten. Fat folks are switched on to 1 and Thin are switched on to 2. I believe it is possible to re-program yourself to 2. By practising. That means exercise and plenty of it. Every day. Not 3 times a week... maybe if I feel like it...but every single day - at least a half hour. This is also something I no longer believe I have a choice in.

Not sure it that's helpful for someone facing a lifetime of feeling fat, because it's hard to see ahead into your future when you're young - never in my wildest dreams did I EVER think I would weigh 250, but if I had to do it over again, I would have stopped giving myself the choice decades ago. We CAN resist the primal urge to avoid starvation, but rather, to practise running from predators, with consistent practise. It's hard, but it can be done.

Hollycat

sdwelk11 · February 2010

OK... I KNOW ITS AN OLD SAYING BUT IT IS SO TRUE AND IF YOU CAN GET INTO THE MINDSET OF WHAT THE WORDS MEAN THEN YOU WILL SUCCEED. WE ALL HAVE "CRAP" FOOD DAYS AND IF ANYONE TELLS YOU THAT THEY DONT THEN THEY ARE LYING TO THEMSELVES AND YOU! SORRY FOR THE CAPS! I HAVE TO USE THEM FOR WORK AND FORGOT TO TAKE THEM OFF... ANYWAYS HERE IT IS

EAT TO LIVE DON'T LIVE TO EAT

WHEN YOU REALIZE HOW BAD YOU WANT THIS CHANGE FOR YOURSELF THEN YOU WILL SUCCEED... ITS ALL ABOUT PREPARING MENTALLY FOR THE PHYSICAL CHANGE THAT IS COMING.. GOOD LUCK! I AM CHEERING FOR YOU!

Motleybird · February 2010

How do I stay motivated? Chocolate, pizza, occasionally a donut, Carl's Jr hamburgers....

Right now I'm just focusing on calories. I don't have a cheat day. I don't need to have a whole day to cheat when I work it in and keep track of it. The Carl's Jr is probably the worst thing on that list. I cut it in half, and still end up full because it's big. Portion size is everything! I know I should work more veggies in to the mix, but I'm training myself with one thing at a time. I don't normally feel deprived.

Hint: The bicycle in my living room helps immensely when I need more wiggle room for yummy things!

incircles_lp2 · February 2010

You are far from alone. I am very much the same as you described when it comes to overeating and having to start from square one. I found this book to be very beneficial: The End of Overeating by David Kessler. It is EXTREMELY helpful. Good luck.

HealthyChanges2010 · February 2010

Bumpin to check back:flowerforyou:

Great inspiration Gang

JazzyMarie · February 2010

Im printing this thread out and sticking it on my wall to remind myself of the fustration i had when i overate!!
Thank you to all
x

popplylily · May 2010

hmmm, i do this all the time.... the biggest thing ive learnt is.... its actually your determination for the next day that matters.. we all have bad days wks or months or yrs, but its the waking up and thinking i still want to lose weight and eat healthy... the good days will outweigh the bad inthe end its just starting the day with the intention that matters. sounds stupid but its true. the better you feel about yourself the less bad days youll have. if your half half even thats an achievement.. in a yr or so youll find the bad days are the minority and thats all that matters, your vision.. xxx

emmaldownie · May 2010

Don't become obsessed with the fact that you've slipped and must get back on course.

We have all slipped at someone point whether its an extra glass of wine with dinner or a binge on a take away. Its how you go back to it that counts.

Try and remain positive. If I shot myself down everytime I slipped, I'd be nothing but bullet holes now!

lesley1981 · May 2010

I find that if I restrict myself by not having chips/chocolate/(enter other naughty foods here) I'll want them all the more and will eventually give up on the diet! By allowing myself to have that piece of cake or take-out IN MODERATION I don't binge on it anymore

Paul76 · May 2010

You can't undo what is is done, i.e., you can't go back and do anything about a bad week. All you can control is what you do today, right now, in THIS moment. It's about choices - what will you choose to eat today? Will you choose to exercise today? You have all the control and power to make today what it is you want it to be.

My own little motto - make today great.

I hate this, this always happens

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