Help?! Need some relationship advice!

Well he is always telling me how much he cares and its like h has good intentions to be there but its always some excuse, he doesnt feel good, he is in pain, hes tired. IDk maybe its me.

And if it is just sex- why not just say that?

He probably thinks it will hurt you and doesn't want to ruin a good thing...seriously, get out if you want a real relationship, cuz this isn't one.

If a man cares he makes an effort. Plain and simple. If he isn't making an effort to spend time with you then he doesn't want to spend time with you. Just my opinion.

Well he is always telling me how much he cares and its like h has good intentions to be there but its always some excuse, he doesnt feel good, he is in pain, hes tired. IDk maybe its me.

And if it is just sex- why not just say that?

Because he's not sure if you'd stick around if he came out and said that.

Actions speak louder than words, hon - maybe you should look at what he's doing, and not listening to what he's saying.

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And bin him find someone who cares about you for real!

Well he is always telling me how much he cares and its like h has good intentions to be there but its always some excuse, he doesnt feel good, he is in pain, hes tired. IDk maybe its me.

And if it is just sex- why not just say that?

Because he's not sure if you'd stick around if he came out and said that.

Actions speak louder than words, hon - maybe you should look at what he's doing, and not listening to what he's saying.

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This!

If a man cares he makes an effort. Plain and simple. If he isn't making an effort to spend time with you then he doesn't want to spend time with you. Just my opinion.

this is pretty much it.

relationships end. it sounds like this one has ended except that he's getting free sex once a week with no other obligations. he'll keep that going as long as he can, but it's just sex to him at this point. tell him "no more sex" unless you spend time together.

talk to him. tell him you think the relationship is on thin ice. ask him if he feels the same way. go from there. DO NOT start paying his bills or giving him free rent though .

You have to put your son's best interest first, then your own. This guy doesn't sound like good role model material. Your better than that

this. is he good for your boy? because that's most important.
so, he lives with his parents and is getting ready to move in with you? is that right? but your current relationship is texting and sex. you may want to make sure he's not just swapping caretakers.

Hmm, it is near freakin' impossible to know what is going on in someone else's mind, especially with so little info, so all you can really do is go with your gut. My husband (of 11 years) does some crappy-assed selfish things, but don't we all? And what my Mom told me early on, and I stick by, is you have to weigh the bad against the good, and if he makes you happy 90% of the time, and only pisses you off occasionally, you probably have a good thing. If it starts to shift too far in the other direction, and you're miserable more often then happy, then you have some hard decisions to make. Because at the end of the day, its all about how he makes you feel.

As for your specific question, though...some guys need/love their rituals. Wanting to watch football at his buddy's might just be one of those things. Or maybe he loves you but has a fear of commitment and so won't invest too much. Or it could be the much worse things that others have suggested...but that's where your gut comes in.

Good luck with it! Hugs.

yeah i think im just gonna sit him down and talk with him. When we are together its really great. And like i said hes there for my little one when i ask. I guess im just being needy and i need to tell him that.

it doesnt sound like your being needy at all, but you do need to know where you stand and in any relationship regardless of the level of seriousness there should always be communication x

Communication is the most important part of any committed or uncommitted relationship!

First, need to establish what it is that you want in the relationship. Always, be honest with yourself & with whomever you are in a relationship with what exactly is your expectations & needs are in a relationship. Whether it is a casual or serious intentions.
Then, a real heart to heart talk is mandattory!
Is it a real true committed relationship?
OR a relationship with sex and no question asked?
If all you want & are willing to settle for is a once a week late night visit...Then, do what you need to satisfy you & your needs. But, if this what you want in a relationship and let the guy know that is all you want from him. Don't expect anything more like watching football on the weekends.
Do you want a man or a boy?
In my opinion & my past experience....A real Man is not going to treat you like this!
A Boy.....Who is attracted to your independance & is looking for someone to just give him the freedom and maybe just wanting to get out from under his parents house.

He maybe just looking for a "Sugar MOMMA". Don't let him move in your home if the relationship is not a serious relationship. The drama & heartbreak is inevitable & not worth it!

If it were me I would not disclose that your "Needy". Don't settle just because your lonely & needy!

Wishing you the Best in the outcome!

Be Blessed in Health, Healing and Wholeness!