Big Boned??

Heyman09
Heyman09 Posts: 184
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I was talking to a lady from church who was congratulating me on my weight loss so far...She asked me what my goal weight was and I told her 130 lbs (Starting weight was 250 and currently I'm 189)......She looked at me in shock which I find as a challenge but then she said that I was big boned and that I needed to take that into account....I personally don't think bone structure has anything to do with weight but I could be wrong...What are you thoughts?
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  • vtmoon
    vtmoon Posts: 3,436 Member
    There is no such thing as big boned.
  • CyeRyn
    CyeRyn Posts: 389 Member
    There was a guy on here that had a rant about this. You can't be big boned. It's all about frame size and height.
  • vtmoon
    vtmoon Posts: 3,436 Member
    myth-i-am-just-big-boned.jpg
  • astrampe
    astrampe Posts: 2,169 Member
    Of course bone structure have a lot to do with weight - if you have bigger and longer bones (frame size and height) you will weigh more than somebody with tiny bones and 4 feet tall.....
    But...don't get hung up on a spesific number on the scale - rather work on body fat % and body comp - that works for everyone, no matter if you have bones like a dinosaur or a bird.....
  • virichi08
    virichi08 Posts: 465 Member
    LOL..........I HEAR THIS AND LAUGH.

    Umm, there are people who have biggER bones then other people (like someone is tallER than someone else) but there's no such thing as someone is BIG BONED and they need to have an EXTRA hundred pounds on them to be ok.
  • Heyman09
    Heyman09 Posts: 184
    myth-i-am-just-big-boned.jpg


    That's awesome and it helps alot to be able to see it!!
  • maricash
    maricash Posts: 280 Member
    People do have different frame sizes, that's one reason the healthy weight range is a range and not a specific number. For example, a healthy weight for a woman my height is 115 to 155 pounds. Someone my height with a small frame might look and be overweight at 150, while someone else might look starved and be underweight at 120. There are some places online that will give you an ideal weight for your frame (based on elbow breadth and/or wrist circumference).

    Obviously, no matter how big your frame, there is a number at which you are overweight. At 260 pounds I was obviously overweight, large frame or no. But I can't imagine I would look or be healthy at 115, since my frame is fairly large. That's why I set my initial goal weight to 150. I might lose more after that, but I won't know until I get there what's natural for me.
  • holly1283
    holly1283 Posts: 741 Member
    Definition please. What is the difference between big boned and frame size? Your skeleton is your frame which is made of bones. For as short as I am my bone structure is large however fat is fat on these bones.
  • melbatoast917
    melbatoast917 Posts: 370 Member
    Big boned is horse****; however, you can be "muscular" and weigh more than you look. At my smallest I was 158 pounds and wore an 8. I was not fat, just built like a brick ****house.
  • Presleyforpresident
    Presleyforpresident Posts: 172
    http://www.medindia.net/patients/calculators/framesize1.asp

    ^^check it.
    i have a very small frame size, whereas my aunt has a very large frame size.
    i weigh 159 lbs as of now and i'm a size 14/15. my aunt weighs 155 lbs (as of last month, lol) and she is a size 11/12.
    we're both 5'3.
  • MCNWifey
    MCNWifey Posts: 31
    myth-i-am-just-big-boned.jpg

    LOVE IT!
  • nevadablinggoose
    nevadablinggoose Posts: 2
    See this post..

    http://www.myfitnesspal.com/topics/show/376387-ha-large-frame-bmi-i-knew-it-o

    Having a large frame does matter. Not everyone fits into the regular BMI categories. You can measure your wrists to find out if you are small, medium, or large framed. If you have a large frame, your bones are bigger.
  • Aviva92
    Aviva92 Posts: 2,333 Member
    See this post..

    http://www.myfitnesspal.com/topics/show/376387-ha-large-frame-bmi-i-knew-it-o

    Having a large frame does matter. Not everyone fits into the regular BMI categories. You can measure your wrists to find out if you are small, medium, or large framed. If you have a large frame, your bones are bigger.

    I don't think that measuring your wrists is a valid way to determine this. You could have small wrists, but bigger bones in other areas. For example, I have small wrists, but will always have wider hips than average at any weight.
  • chcltroses
    chcltroses Posts: 5
    I never understood this myself. the elders in my family meant well by telling me i was big boned so it was ok to be a little chunky.
    But growing up as a girl that developed a little too quick, this hurt. I wanted to look like the smaller girls, it took me a good while to realise there is no such thing as big boned.

    I know i have a large frame, being short makes everything look bigger. I dont need that label, i am a thick madam, lol. sounds a little better, but this won't stop me from getting back to what i was before i was pregnant
  • dmpizza
    dmpizza Posts: 3,321 Member
    Obviously different people have different sized frames, but this accounts for less than 15 pounds for most people of the same height.
    So... cross that bridge when you get there.
    See how you look as you progress.

    Good Luck and congrats.
  • lveh8lve
    lveh8lve Posts: 162 Member
    I know I have a larger frame then others. In college I was 115 lbs, 5'11", with under 5% body fat and the smallest jeans I could ever fit in was a size 6.

    Just because you are "big boned" doesn't mean you can't still be skinny!!!!
  • LeggyAmericanGirl
    LeggyAmericanGirl Posts: 285 Member
    I was talking to a lady from church who was congratulating me on my weight loss so far...She asked me what my goal weight was and I told her 130 lbs (Starting weight was 250 and currently I'm 189)......She looked at me in shock which I find as a challenge but then she said that I was big boned and that I needed to take that into account....I personally don't think bone structure has anything to do with weight but I could be wrong...What are you thoughts?

    translation: big boned = im really jealous of your accomplishments, please stop so i stop feeling bad bout myself. Amen
  • Simone_King
    Simone_King Posts: 467 Member
    I would have to agree however, the term must be changed. I am the same way. I am short and stalkly. I once thought I need to be around 130 pounds.

    But after talking to my parents we considered 160.

    So now my plan is to get to that weight. Maintain for a while and if I feel I need to lose more I can. Yet, it's up to you.

    I just want to be at a healthy weight and have the mucsles.

    I am five one...

    Add a few inches with shoes.
  • Gallowmere1984
    Gallowmere1984 Posts: 6,626 Member
    Big boned, eh? Have you ever seen a fat skeleton?
  • cfregon
    cfregon Posts: 147
    myth-i-am-just-big-boned.jpg

    First, as someone who studies bones, I have to note that in this picture, one of them is male, the other is female, which accounts for a bit of difference...just sayin...

    But your bones are the same (or within a small range of thickness, mostly due to health, sometimes to stressors during development, etc...density also varies, usually due to age and/or deterioration) no matter who you are. Your build- the assemblage, variations in length, posture, muscle:fat, etc all play a part in how we *carry* our weight. This accounts for differences. Someone would say I might have big bones/big frame, simply because I have always looked like I weight much less than I actually do (many people put me at about 180-190 when I was 230). This is because of my muscle mass, my bone structure, etc.
  • guardian419
    guardian419 Posts: 391 Member
    It's an excuse fat lazy people use for their being... fat and lazy.

    Having a large frame is something different.
  • swarovski75
    swarovski75 Posts: 195 Member
    Okay, I use the expression "big boned" to describe myself because I have a massive frame. I truly look like a linebacker when I stand beside my very petite-framed mother, even thought we're about the same height, and she carries a lot more excess weight than I do (% body fat). When I use it I mean that when I am at the bottom end of my BMI, my hip bones protrude, my ribs stick out, my collarbones protrude... I don't use it as an excuse, but I do take it into account, and know for a fact that I look way better and more feminine at the high end of my range. I can be toned and tight, muscular and totally sexy at 5'6.5" and 158 lbs. So when you talk about having a bigger frame, yeah, i think it can correspond to being more suited to the top end of your healthy range...
  • Cbarrese86
    Cbarrese86 Posts: 37
    translation: big boned = im really jealous of your accomplishments, please stop so i stop feeling bad bout myself. Amen.[/quote]

    THIS^^^
    I had a girl (husbands cousins gf) tell me that I was too big boned for my goal weight, and then actually told me that I needed to stop losing weight, because I was, "making her look like a fat pig"!!!!! It's jealousy at it's finest. Don't sweat it hunny. Some people are just rude like that. Next time when someone asks what your goal weight is, just tell them you aren't sure, you just want to be healthier. Works for me!
  • EnchantedEvening
    EnchantedEvening Posts: 671 Member
    Your doctor can give you a pretty good idea of your frame size and a weight to aim for. Mine measured my bones in various areas using caliper-type instruments and said that even though 140 is the minimum for my height/frame, 150-ish is a better weight for me. Since I was 165 in high school and looked pretty good, just a little pudgy, I have to agree with him.

    At 5'6", 154 pounds puts me into the "normal" BMI range, so that's my goal.
  • LLaceFace
    LLaceFace Posts: 101 Member
    I always love to hear this! I completely understand where you are coming from. I started MFP at 227 (my biggest was 250) I am down to 147 and I can tell that I only have another 10-15 that I can lose and the smallest pant size I will ever be able to wear is a size 7-8. This doesnt mean my "bones" are bigger, but rather my "bone structure" is different than others. I have wide hips which even if I starved myself sick I would never get in a size 0. I think people mistaken the size of their bones for the stucture of their bodies.
    If you are anything like me I think 130 will look amazing on you! I know that is right where I will be comfortable. Keep at it :) your doing wonderful!
  • macaya5
    macaya5 Posts: 75
    I am not big boned. I am big assed. I have a lot of weight to lose, more than 100lbs. I could give a rat's furry behind what someone else thinks I should weigh. Lots of people have opinions and want to tell me how to eat and blah blah blah...it took me a lifetime to get this way, it's gonna take a minute to get it off. I'm at least headed in the right direction.
  • lilpoindexter
    lilpoindexter Posts: 1,122 Member
    I used to think I was big and tall...and full of muscles...but I realized I was just a tall fat guy. I'm 5' 11"...but depending on the maker of the clothes I can wear medium or Large...I realize that my shirts were "too short" because so much material got used up covering my big *kitten* belly.
    People will make whatever excuse they can pull out of their *kitten* to avoid hard work and moving out of their comfort zone.
  • pg3ibew
    pg3ibew Posts: 1,026 Member
    See this post..

    http://www.myfitnesspal.com/topics/show/376387-ha-large-frame-bmi-i-knew-it-o

    Having a large frame does matter. Not everyone fits into the regular BMI categories. You can measure your wrists to find out if you are small, medium, or large framed. If you have a large frame, your bones are bigger.

    When I was 250 pounds my WRIST watches fit me fine. I lost 88 pounds and had to get multiple links removed from my WRIST watches. I guess I went from being BIG boned to SMALL boned.

    Measuring your wrist or anything else when you are 88 pounds over weight is HORSESH#T in trying to determine if you are big boned.
  • Mcgrawhaha
    Mcgrawhaha Posts: 1,596 Member
    Okay, I use the expression "big boned" to describe myself because I have a massive frame. I truly look like a linebacker when I stand beside my very petite-framed mother, even thought we're about the same height, and she carries a lot more excess weight than I do (% body fat). When I use it I mean that when I am at the bottom end of my BMI, my hip bones protrude, my ribs stick out, my collarbones protrude... I don't use it as an excuse, but I do take it into account, and know for a fact that I look way better and more feminine at the high end of my range. I can be toned and tight, muscular and totally sexy at 5'6.5" and 158 lbs. So when you talk about having a bigger frame, yeah, i think it can correspond to being more suited to the top end of your healthy range...

    fully agree! at 150 pounds, i look sick, or like a drug addict. my sister, who is also 5 foot 10, weighs 130 and looks so cute and dainty. right now, i am 193 pounds, and only plan on going down to 160, any lighter, and i dont look good! my frame is much larger than my sisters, even though we are the same general height. im sure when people say big boned, they are referring to thier frames, which would include bone structure.
  • dlmcgo
    dlmcgo Posts: 41 Member
    Big boned is an old expression for someone with a big frame. I am 6 ft tall with broad shoulders and wide hips and was always classified as "big boned". When I ws in my twenties I weighed 130 lbs which was too small for my frame - I looked bony. I used to joke that I couldn't put my hips in a vice even though I really wanted to... with the broadness of my hips I;ve never been in a single digit pair of pants. I know now that I need to stay on the upper side of my weight range.

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