Are they right or sabotaging me?

I have a friend, she isnt fat, but she is abit larger then average, not alot.

Anyways, when I think about her being skinny I just imagine she will look so weird, she is extremly beautiful the way she is now.
Maybe thats what they meant?

They are just complimenting you. They cannot possibly know how you will look in the future at any weight. Plus, it sucks when your friends get thinner than you. :laugh: so pf course they do not want that. Just lie and say you're done. Then do what you want.

A lot of people who have only seen someone heavy, cant picture someone being thin and think its not normal for you. Just ignore it...they will get used to the new thin you eventually.

When I met certain folks I weighed 206, now weigh 180 and still want to lose more. I really want to weigh like 140 eventually but when people ask I tell them at least 20 more pounds...they all tell me I will "look weird" be too skinny and Im already small enough. I have plenty to lose and I dont think 160 lbs would be skinny! Am I crazy?

Yes, because you pay too much attention to other people instead of yourself.

If it turns out that 160 really is too skinny for you (I seriously doubt it) - you can always gain some back. I bet you'll look awesome and feel even more confident.

My husband looks like a freakish meth head when he's skinny... he's built to be big. However, I am not. I tell people my max weight which was 228, 234 when I was pregnant but I don't count that. I was 228 about 6 months ago. No one even believes I'm still over 200. Some people carry their weight well, I'm proud to be one of them and you should too! I'm 5'2 and was SKINNY at 150 lbs. I had a lot of muscle, big boobs, it was pretty awesome, hope to get that way again.

just dont tell them..

be vague.

Say.. i want to lose a little bit more.. and don't mention an amount.

It's hard to say, since I can't really see much from your pictures, but I'm guessing they're just being pooperheads.

I don't think people are trying to sabotage you. People get used to things and people as they know them and a lot of people are resistant to change. Keep working toward your goal, your doing an amazing job so far!

I have received shocked looks and comments when I have said I need to lose weight in the past. I am tall (5'11'') so I am able to "hide" my weight a little easier than if I was shorter. So at my peak weight when I said I had about 50 lbs to lose, people looked shocked and would argue saying that was way to much. Twenty pounds down though the same people were saying I look great and they can tell I have more energy (and when I say I have 30 more to go, now there is no argument),

Only you know your body and what your needs are. While you need to beware of losing too much weight, don't let others discourage you from what you know is right. I know, my doctors know, and those close to me know that I need to lose some weight so you just have to ignore comments from those who try to discourage you.

And as much as I hate to admit it, I know that some of the people that discouraged me did so because they haven't been able to succeed themselves. You have to decide what you want and GO FOR IT! All the pieces of the puzzle will fall into place as time passes and your true friends will encourage you along the way! Good luck!

Keep going, they just don't want you to weigh less than them. It's always the same, people that don't have the motivation or discipline to do it themselves want to feel better for not exercising or dieting. 120-130 is perfect for a woman.

People are weirded out by change. I know that I can't visualize myself at my goal weight, so I can understand if people would also have a hard time with it. But, the alternative is me staying how I am and I just cannot do that for both mental and health reasons. So, we will all just have to deal with me being thin when it happens

TL;DR- change is scary, but it's worth it.

edit- there's also a chance that they don't know what healthy thin looks like. My BF got really bothered when I told him my goal weight (160-ish; I'm 5'8") because he thought I'd be scary skinny.

People are weirded out by change. I know that I can't visualize myself at my goal weight, so I can understand if people would also have a hard time with it. But, the alternative is me staying how I am and I just cannot do that for both mental and health reasons. So, we will all just have to deal with me being thin when it happens

TL;DR- change is scary, but it's worth it.

Totally, just look at Jonah Hill, that dude looked way weird after dropping the poundage, but I'm getting used to it.

Oh, snap. I didn't realize he had lost all that weight! Go him!

There is really not enough information here to determine who is correct. There are a few possibilities here.

1. If you have included heavy weight training, as you should, in your regimen then it is possible that your ideal weight range will actually increase due to an increase in muscle mass. Not that you would create bulky muscles or anything but a cubic inch of trained muscle is significantly heavier than a cubic inch of flabby fat. I have found that I actually weigh 233 right now but wear the same size clothes as I did when I was 170 lbs... Now, perhaps that is a bit extreme (and yes I recognize that those clothes don't fit quite the same as they did then but there is a significant difference in build.

2. It may be that your friends have a bit of an unhealthy idea of what "normal" is. Most do. On the flip side, it is possible that you may have an unrealistic ideal in your mind as well.

3. Even with the BMI scale (which does not include muscle mass), height matters. I am not sure of your height. If you are like 6'0" then 180 really would be within your ideal range. I would use BMI as a guide and try to get sort of close to what it says. In my case, my Goal weight is actually 25 lbs above the top end of my weight class.. again, this is due to my current lean body mass.

4. The best way to determine where to stop is by making a determination of what you WANT to look like and then making a quality decision as to how you are going to get there... I like to focus more on my body fat percentage than my weight.

For women, your table goes something like this
10-12% -- essential fat... Yeah, it is there for a reason.. can't get rid of all of it and survive.

14%-20%-- Athletic build -- I would not want to be on the low end of this range for long if at all... I would make it a goal to keep at least 17-20% (female)

21%-24% -- Fitness build -- Not a bad build and probably what most women would prefer.

25-31% -- Acceptable... this is a healthy build but most likely somebody who was really interested in looking their best would feel a bit uncomfortable with this level -- except at the lower end.

32%+ -- Obese... Nuff said.

There are online tools used to estimate your level of fat content but the best way is to go to a gym where a trainer will take your anthropometric measurements and give you a good idea of where to go. Many gyms will do this initially for free... The YMCA in my area does it up to a couple of times per year.. which is probably all you would need. Just gives you an idea of where you are and would really want to be. I think it is the best method overall....

best wishes on your journey... In the end, you and your doctor will be best able to make a determination for what is right for you.

They may just be worried about you losing too much weight because they care about you. People who love you think your beautiful how you are, so its best just to not tell them that you are trying to lose.