What's your deal breaker?

cdpark617
cdpark617 Posts: 316 Member
I could never date a smoker, what's yours?
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  • emaren
    emaren Posts: 934 Member
    Bad Kisser
    No sense of humor
    No sense of the ridiculous
    Horrible in bed
    No self respect
    Bad with money
    Bad driver

    in other words anyone with a passing resemblance to my ex-wife...
  • cdpark617
    cdpark617 Posts: 316 Member
    Bad Kisser
    No sense of humor
    No sense of the ridiculous
    Horrible in bed
    No self respect
    Bad with money
    Bad driver

    in other words anyone with a passing resemblance to my ex-wife...
    LMAO, nice :-)
  • nickyfm
    nickyfm Posts: 1,214 Member
    - Dumb
    - No personality
    - Shorter than 5"10
    - Insults me (some guys do this as a form of flirting. I do not respond to it.)
    - Flirts with other women in front of me
    - Doesn't like dogs
    - Tries to change me
    - No sense of humour
  • MaryJane_8810002
    MaryJane_8810002 Posts: 2,082 Member
    Married People
    "Hood" dudes
    Saggy Pants (when i can see your boxers)
    Bad Tippers
    Texting while driving
    Facebook Fanatics

    and I mean this in a dating sense,
  • goldair23
    goldair23 Posts: 160
    - Stupidity, I like my men with a brain.
    - No sense of humour, I like boys that are cheeky & funny.
    - Wearing jeans and running shoes together and unless he's beyond perfect , I don't like guys under 6ft.
    - And has to be a good hugger & kisser! Because I love kisses & hugs more than anything x
  • MariaMariaM
    MariaMariaM Posts: 1,322 Member
    Bad hygiene
    Bad teeth
    Smoker
    Dumb (no long term intellectual stimulation)
    Rude to others
    I am sure there are many others
  • WendyTerry420
    WendyTerry420 Posts: 13,274 Member
    a snitch or a wimp
  • Peaches516
    Peaches516 Posts: 104 Member
    This is going to sound nuts, but I actually have an Excel spreadsheet made up of 107 qualities a guy must have (for me). I came up with it when I was single, because I was tired of dating guys who I should have known earlier would not be a good match. Not all 107 qualities are deal breakers, but here are some that are:

    - smoker
    - can't make me laugh
    - doesn't get along with my family or friends
    - does drugs
    - doesn't like to travel
    - gambles
    - has significant debt/money problems
  • SmartWhatever
    SmartWhatever Posts: 718 Member
    Stupidity
    Close minded
    Laziness
    Boring
  • Crochetluvr
    Crochetluvr Posts: 3,330 Member
    Smoker is definitely on the list. Also lack of intelligence.

    Can't be obese. Was engaged to an obese man....he died from heart disease.

    And no one pining for his ex. Why you would date ANYONE when you feel like that is beyond me.
  • Crochetluvr
    Crochetluvr Posts: 3,330 Member
    Bad Kisser
    No sense of humor
    No sense of the ridiculous
    Horrible in bed
    No self respect
    Bad with money
    Bad driver

    in other words anyone with a passing resemblance to my ex-wife...

    No offense....but why did you marry her?
  • MaryJane_8810002
    MaryJane_8810002 Posts: 2,082 Member
    Bad Kisser
    No sense of humor
    No sense of the ridiculous
    Horrible in bed
    No self respect
    Bad with money
    Bad driver

    in other words anyone with a passing resemblance to my ex-wife...


    No offense....but why did you marry her?
    She was probably banging:laugh:
  • peachNpunkin
    peachNpunkin Posts: 1,010 Member
    Smoker #1
    Poor sense of humor
    Lack of energy (Lazy)
    If he smacks his food, he has to go
    Bad kisser
    And I absolutely cannot stand a mama's boy!!!
  • gayje
    gayje Posts: 230 Member
    A few of mine are...

    Your dog sleeps in bed with you
    A deadbeat dad who thinks paying child support is "money for her"
    If his cell phone is in his hand ALL the time to play games
    When his cell phone isn't in hand, the latest sports game is on
    Drug user (other than medical uses, I support TRUE needs for those purposes ONLY and it would need to be proven to me)
    Money issues so bad he has to live with his parents/grandparents/ex's place
    Gambling of any kind
    Anyone who thinks my 1 or 2 glasses of wine a month are unacceptable
    Anyone who did not accept and love my daughter like I do

    I'm sure there are a jillion more, but those came to mind pretty quickly.

    EA: He absolutely CANNOT chew with his mouth open OR talk with food in his mouth. Ew...just...EWWW!
  • edixon908
    edixon908 Posts: 68 Member
    Funny as hell. :smile:
  • magerum
    magerum Posts: 12,589 Member
    Bad Kisser
    No sense of humor
    No sense of the ridiculous
    Horrible in bed
    No self respect
    Bad with money
    Bad driver

    in other words anyone with a passing resemblance to my ex-wife...


    No offense....but why did you marry her?
    She was probably banging:laugh:

    ^ This! I can relate...
  • ladymiseryali
    ladymiseryali Posts: 2,555 Member
    I could never date someone who is pro-life or anti-gay or anyone who thinks animals deserve to be tortured. So it's a good thing my fiance is NONE of those things.
  • Fr33zefram3
    Fr33zefram3 Posts: 163 Member
    Nickleback fan
  • Dreamerlove
    Dreamerlove Posts: 441 Member
    Married People
    "Hood" dudes
    Saggy Pants (when i can see your boxers)
    Bad Tippers
    Texting while driving
    Facebook Fanatics

    and I mean this in a dating sense,

    I totally agree with all of these!
  • MaryJane_8810002
    MaryJane_8810002 Posts: 2,082 Member
    Nickleback fan

    :laugh: Their earlier stuff wasn't that bad!
  • lachesissss
    lachesissss Posts: 1,298 Member
    Superficial:

    - Bad Teeth
    - Typical Wannabe/ Frat Douche/ Jersey Shore-esque Persona
    - Height - must be taller than I am, ideally over 6 ft, so that I can wear heels
    - Smoker
    - Someone who is terrible at sex and not adventurous (not Christian Grey adventurous, but at least be willing to visit the lady garden)


    Personality:

    - Someone whose not passionate
    - Someone who doesn't have a raunchy sense of humor
    - Someone who is uptight
    - Someone who is controlling
    - Someone who has issues with spontaneity and trying new things
  • zrmac804
    zrmac804 Posts: 369 Member
    Hypercritical and judgemental
    plays head games
    phony/insincere
    superficial
    overdramatic
    lack of intelligence
    hypochondriac
    hates children
    hates older people (frankly, anyone who categorically hates any group of people is not for me!)
    Alcoholic or drug abuser
    Gambles in any form
    hates animals
    refuses to travel

    My biggest deal-breaker is someone who makes me feel terrible about myself. The first three fall under that category.
  • I could never date someone who is close-minded
  • Molly_Maguire
    Molly_Maguire Posts: 1,103 Member
    Ever hit me
    Smoker
    Selfish
    Drug problem
  • 1.No sense of humor!
    2.Bad teeth
    3.If they are shorter than me (I am 5'3)
    4.Rude
    5.'Ghetto' guys
  • BelindaDuvessa
    BelindaDuvessa Posts: 1,014 Member
    Wow....all the people who say smokers. That's really sad. Granted, it's not the best of habits to have, but as a non-smoker who has been with a smoker for 8 years, it's not as horrible as one would think, especially if they make it a habit to brush their teeth often and smoke outside of the home. But I also come from a family of smokers, so this might be what swayed my decision to not care about it.

    Deal breakers for me? Abusive personality. Alcoholism (real alcoholism, not the weekend drinker. My parents drink daily....I can't stand that....and it's *ALOT* daily).
  • trackstack
    trackstack Posts: 174 Member
    a snitch or a wimp

    I'm LMAO at this! Greatest deal breaker ever hahaha
  • Drugs and alcoholism, negative attitude, controling, abusive, lack of sense of humor, insensitive un-sympothetic, hateful in all forms, superficial, self absorbed!! The list could go on, but I don't have all night!!
  • ladymiseryali
    ladymiseryali Posts: 2,555 Member
    Wow....all the people who say smokers. That's really sad. Granted, it's not the best of habits to have, but as a non-smoker who has been with a smoker for 8 years, it's not as horrible as one would think, especially if they make it a habit to brush their teeth often and smoke outside of the home. But I also come from a family of smokers, so this might be what swayed my decision to not care about it.

    Deal breakers for me? Abusive personality. Alcoholism (real alcoholism, not the weekend drinker. My parents drink daily....I can't stand that....and it's *ALOT* daily).

    My fiance is a smoker. He tries to quit, but something always happens where it's either he smokes, or he's unable to function. I've dated many smokers. It doesn't bother me because I've grown up in a house with a smoking mother and brother.
  • AlsDonkBoxSquat
    AlsDonkBoxSquat Posts: 6,128 Member
    If something happened to my husband these would be mine:

    They cant be a smoker (as an ex-smoker I can't stand to be around it, I have a child and want more and don't want to raise my kids in a house hold with someone who smokes)
    Does not like, love, and respect my son
    Commits any type of abuse (duh)
    Has no foundational faith (doesn't have to be a specific faith)
    Makes less money than me (I'm currently in that situation and it causes a lot of difficulty, the female friends that I have in similar situations tell me that they experience the same, there's an insecurity that this situation seems to arouse in even some of the seemingly most secure men)
    They must love dogs
    They must get my sense of humor
    They must be active, doesn't have to be the same activities I enjoy but the must be active and appreciate that I am active.
    Parents vastly different from me. My husband and I parent similarly, but we agrees upon all parenting methods, and out of respect always compromise to the more conservative options when we don see eye to eye. If we parented very differently we wouldn't be parenting together at all.