Even less self-esteem after weight loss...

Feeling that way all the time.

Dont let it get you down, think of it as the next challenge. Work on exercises that will tone your body back into shape now that you've lost so much.

The tummy thing is horrible and after 4 c-sections and a natural pod I'm not sure it will ever go but I'm not giving up.... Keep going ...

Up your core strength with the plank, full & side every day. Good luck and please add me

It's going to feel awkward because, just like when we were growing up and going through "the changes", we have to get used to a new body with new features and characteristics. That's going to require adaptation, which I would say is a bit more awkward in our situations because our bodies are changing faster as we focus on fitness whereas we were able to get used to our changing bodies over years while we were growing up as children (and everybody else was getting used to their bodies at the same time).

Recently, I had to buy some uniform pants that were even larger than what I used to wear in my heavier days because the larger muscles in my legs don't fit within the legs of pants made for my waist size and it looked like I was wearing spandex every time I sat down. The only way to fit my "healthy" legs in my pants was to buy a bigger size and have them taken in.

It's awkward and a little uncomfortable (I notice a new "look" to my body this morning that I'm unaccustomed to), but it's also worth it in the long run. We can adapt our fashion to fit our bodies. But it's harder, and more worthwhile, to keep those bodies running properly. A bad fashion day won't ruin things. A day when we have a heart attack will.

I know what you mean!!! I thought my 19 lbs lost would look much better than it actually does. But instead of focusing on that for too long, I try to focus all my energy on how I FEEL! And I feel great! So much better... at least 4 years younger in energy... So I cross my fingers and hope that the rest works itself out! Because feeling good inside was definitely worth it, no matter what the outside reflects!

One of the downfalls of my weight loss has been the demise of the "girls". I can barely fill a B cup! My 13 year old daughter is growing OUT of her 34 Bs. . .looks like I'll be getting HER hand-me-downs!! LOL

But, it is a valid issue you point out. I liked my breasts fuller, but when they were, I couldn't run half marathons which I do now (and LOVE!!). So, there are trade offs. Hopefully, while there may be physical features that bum you out, you have something positive that you can cling to that helps balance that out!

Stick with it. Eventually that tummy will shrink and you may find that you very much like the visuals then!!

Please don't define yourself by the shape of your butt or breasts. Something I learned from a flat chested lady once. "Think of a lack of breasts as your *kitten* weeder" In that those who only care about the superficial parts of your body aren't worth your time and will keep away the ones who aren't for you. I'd much more want to be with someone who was active, healthy, and strong, than someone one thought curves without abiltiy were positive. Keep up your good work!

You are not alone. When I lost my weight (71 pounds), I asked "where is the body I thought I would have?" My stomach was not flat and I sagged in places I've never sagged before. What is up with that? I lost the weight by watching what I ate and cardio. I finally talked to a personal trainer to see if the body that I thought I would have was realistic. He said yes and started me on strength training. I've been at it about two months and am starting to notice some changes but I still see the sag but I can not let it get me down.

You've done so well, don't let the negatives out weigh the positivies.

I agree that it's an awkward stage of weight loss. Those are the worst. Please do your best to never make yourself feel like making yourself healthier was the wrong choice. Your body is going to slowly reshape itself, I promise you. Your skin will tighten up, you'll get a new shape. You're not always going to feel/look like this. Your body takes more time to shape itself than it does to loose body fat. You'll get there, I promise.

I don't know if anyone else is struggling with this but I am having a hard time accepting my new body. I was 12st 4lbs (I'm 5 foot 3), and I've lost 3 stone so far...... but I feel worse about my body than I did before. I guess that before, I liked my breasts and my bum and I felt curvy. Now those things are gone, my bum is flat and I have lost 2 cup sizes and I don't feel curvy anymore. I am still carrying a lot of fat on my stomach and it makes my chest look even smaller. I really can't shift this belly fat.

I just don't feel attractive at all and I'm having a really hard time accepting my body. Clothes look so different on me now, all the old styles I use to wear look terrible. I have no money and can't afford to buy new clothes, I just have to stick with the old ones from when I was a teenager and old second hand clothes people have given me.

Part of me massively regrets losing weight but then I know I am so much healthier and stronger now.

Is anyone else feeling this way too?

I used to feel this way a lot. I was only a B cup to begin with but I've lost a cup size and after two kids, they kind of just hang there. My tummy is flat but the loose skin on my lower tummy doesn't look so hot and I know there's not much I can do about it short of surgery.

BUT I lift heavy and other parts of my body are coming along nicely if I do say so myself. A woman at the gym said she liked my arms and my sister told me I actually have a butt now. Not to mention how good and healthy I feel. So I try to focus on the good stuff about my weight loss, which far outweighs the lack of boobs and extra skin.

Hoping with a stomach change I will feel better as well. Just think about how much you have accomplished this far! Keep it up!

I struggle with this as well! Just know that the belly fat is the last to go... and it's because your body is wanting to protect your organs so it keeps fat there. Keep up your work and you will eventually see change!

I'm totally there. I think before, being fat and invisible, it didn't really matter. Now getting more attention, it's hard to not focus on all the things that aren't right.

Belly fat is killing me....it's so freaking depressing. ;(

Im with you all on this. After my surgery, I felt great, like a whole new person. Now, I have had mood swings and start feeling like my old self again. Maybe its just hormones, or the weather, im not sure. Its great that people compliment you and notice that you have been kicking your own *kitten*, but after that feeling is gone, right back to where i started. We all know that we have the ability to change for the better, and that is why we are all here, is to help each other out. Im sure that we all have been through these times, listening to different stories, dont make me fee like im the only one going thru it.

I'm right there with you. I was morbidly obese but I was a "Proud Thick Girl!" I had to lose weight for health reasons & am now stuck about 20 lbs higher than a "normal" weight for my height & feel awkward as hell. I've got about 20 lbs until I'm at a "normal" weight for my height, so I'm praying that those last 20 lbs are all hiding in my stomach & will finally go away!