Divorce and emotional eating

i agree, use this as a way to better yourself...if you have to be mad...to get you to get motivated then do so. think of your baby and that should motivated you...you need to be healthy for you both now.

((hugs))
you so can do this!

I know what that experience is like and I had to stop believing that somehow feeling better by eating senselessly was going to make me feel better. I ate because of the emotional trauma and for a few minutes or an hour I did feel better but then like a drug addict, I would get another fix (food). I had to decide that to love myself, and more importantly, the circumstance isn't who I am, it is just an experience that will pass. Focus elsewhere on good thoughts, virtuous subjects and things, on whatever is good. Secondly, go do something, don't be idle, maybe volunteer your time whenever you are feeling bad, go help someone that is needing support and care.

The only way to stop is to - wait for it - stop. There will never be an end of things to eat about.

For me, it was recently finding out that son was using meth in our home. We asked him to leave and now I'm worried sick. I could be stuffing my face, but I'm not. I deserve better than that. And so do you.

Hugs; I know how stressful divorce can be, having gone through it with parents.

I went through a divorce (his doing) a few years ago, and the only thing to keep me from overeating was the thought that maybe he'd see what he was missing out on when I lost weight. Stupid idea, the divorce happened, but at least I didn't gain! Now I've made it to goal the healthy way-eating right and exercising. This time I did it for myself too.
Keep your head up.

Emotional eating is something that many, many people struggle with. Try mind distraction techniques: calling someone, reading, cleaning...whatever you can find that will work for you. Taking walks in a pretty place often does wonders for me. The endorphins released during exercise will help tremendously.

Sorry to hear this - unfortunately, this is also how I am...my husband and I are going through some "things" and the "D" word has come up more then once. I immediately go to food as my comfort. As easy as it seems for some people to put your attention to better things (working out, walking, keeping busy), I know for "us" it's NOT easy. It's an ugly, emotional, binge-eating battle.

Good luck to you and if you need another friends support, please add me :flowerforyou:

Use it as motivation!

Youre newly single, you want to look hot!

My husband actually stopped eating during his divorce from his ex wife and lost weight.

BUT, I have know a LOT of people that have dealt with this...my mother being one of them. Long story short, my dad cheated on her and caused a LOT of emotional issues and such!! I was able to get her to stop her emotional eating by getting her out walking instead. She started slowly but surely feeling better with that and going to see a Therapist once a week.

You are going to have your down times and know that is normal for everyone. In my depression (right after my parents split) I turned to ice cream but, I also spent a good amount of time walking from class to class at University.

Dig down deep and know that YOU are better then this and that YOU can manage. It will be rough and it will take some time but, try to remember after you eat that food, do you REALLY feel better? Does that food REALLY comfort you into feeling better? My mom realized that food was a "right now" feeling of relief but as soon as it was gone, the feelngs came back. After a walk, she felt better for a longer period of time and the more she walked, the better overall she felt. Food cant have the kind of affect.

Again, good luck going through this rough situation and know that this is normal for everyone! The affects from even just a walk can last much longer after the walk is done (especially when youc an get a good cry in at the same time!!!!). Food is temporary...hence the reason you keep going back.

I too am going through a divorce...I find myself not eating enough...but I have issues even on the best of days! Feel free to add me all u people going through the same thing...support and motivation from friends is really important to kick our butts in gear
Take care though! I hear "things will get better/easier" Im waiting!

My divorce (my choice) has left me wanting to emotional eat... instead I choose to emotional run and emotional box.

The heavy bag and boxing gloves downstairs have helped me more than I can ever express.

When my wife and I split earlier this year, I went into a deep depression and did the opposite, I stopped eating.
But I took out my frustration by starting to run, and I was not a runner - hated it.
I couldn't run to the end of the 200 ft driveway without coughing up a lung. But I kept at it, not to kill myself, I just did what I could. And I kept doing it. Now I run for fun, I stop running because I am out of time, not out of breath. I eat much better now (not perfect by any means) and MFP has been a huge help.

Now I run every second day and work the weights on the opposite days.

I feel great - I haven't felt this good in decades - literally.

It's tough to get over the emotional hurt, but finding something to do that is good for you could really help.

Tim

1. Log everything you've eaten.
2. Own it.
3. Go work it off.

BEST.. ADVICE... EVAR!!

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I`m not in favor of divorce, because it the end, it does not really change the fact that he is the father of your children, and you have to have a relationship with him forever because of that.

Divorce is promoted too frequently as a solution when it simply brings its own set of problems. It is the most easily broken contract there is, and that is what is the shame of it. No one tells you about the pain, and the fact that you are going to suffer.

Life is made up of duties and obligations to others. We are never free of them, as much as we want to be. And if we tilt too much in that direction, we create suffering all around us.

But you are young, and life is full of hard knocks. Live and learn. Grow in wisdom, not easily acquired. And do everything you can to re-establish a positive relationship with your hurting ex.

You will get through this.... buts its a process. It will take time. Don't beat yourself up on top of the emotional pain you are going through with the divorce. I've been there and it does get better. I joined a single parent's group..... and made friendships that have lasted for 15 years now. Sitting home alone to dwell on things is the worst thing. Get out there and do something new. Join a group, take up a new activity and give yourself some time to heal. Slowly you will feel stronger and begin to get back on track eating right and exercising. Take care.

1. Log everything you've eaten.
2. Own it.
3. Go work it off.

BEST.. ADVICE... EVER!!

.....

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