To Fat to RIDE? Enough is Enough!

Your boyfriend sounds like a great guy. You can tell him your concern without telling him your weight if your not comfortable doing so. But from what you wrote he loves you and it I bet it wouldn't make a difference but do what feels right for you. You have a wonderful attitude about your journey and with support from your friends and the folks here you're going to make your goal!

All the best to you!

It happened to me (at 5'6" and about 260ish), had to leave a ride I was on with my youngest daughter because I could not get it buckled/closed right. Don't remember which ride, but it was at one of the DisneyWorld parks in Orlando. I was mortified, even though really only my daughter knew as I hopped back out quickly and had to answer her "where are you going?" with "I don't fit" and she had to ride alone (she was old enough to.) I had "you will never see any of these people again" on a running loop in my head until I was far away from that ride.

Love the quote someone commented to you, something along the lines of "losing weight is hard but being fat is harder." It really is because that mental stuff and self-doubt is far harder than any exercise and "willpower" I've had to endure.

YOU GOT THIS!

I guess everyone has that defining moment when they decide to make a change. Mine was about 7 years ago. One day, my father and I were watching a bears game when he casually asked what my weight was up to. When I replied, "235" he told me that my weight qualified me to play linebacker for the chicago bears.

The following day, I began walking 6 days a week (as well as some nutritional changes) until I reached 205.

I'm happy that you have decided to make a change in your lifestyle. As you may know, there is an abundance of information and support found at this site to help you reach your goals.

Good luck and welcome to MFP.

Same thing happened to me at six flags over Texas! The attendent had to ask a couple if they could switch spot so i could get on! I was embarrassed slightly but damn I was one happy fat lady and glad I didn't wait in that line for nothing! Lol

Glad you are taking control! Whoop!

Everybody who posted on this thread, I just want to hug you all and thank you so much for your honesty. We contend with so much shame... About how big we get, about gaining it back after working so hard to get it off the first ( and second and third...) time. I always say to my husband I am so glad our problem is food and not drugs or booze, because at least when you relapse it is not as much of a disaster. Anyhow.... It is our journey to make and I am glad I found MFP.

Good for you! That always makes me nervous like when I got on the plane to Italy this summer the seat-belt barely fit but I got it. And I lost weight while there so I was okay on the way back but the flight attendant was like oh do you need the extra piece and when I said no she gave me such a dirty look so I'm glad the person was nicer to you.

Thank you guys for sharing your stories. It was very painful and traumatic moment. Right now my fiance walked in and I told him that i had posted about last night and how embarrassed i would have been. And he said, "Oh when you fell".. Which i slipped and fell too LOL .. I said no when I almost didn't fit (addressing the white elephant in the room) and he said "Oh yeah i was having trouble too." Ok yeah right boyfriend you are 5'11 158lbs. Nice of him though. I told him I wanted to read to him what I had posted but then I couldn't bring myself to do it. I would have to admit that it wasn't the motion sickness I was feeling at Six flags that kept me from riding those 2 rides but being scared of not fitting or how it really had been that the seatbelt almost didn't fit on the ride last night and not that i was doing it wrong so i needed assistance. Also that i had google "Weight limits for rides at Six flags" for night and couldn't sleep. This man is my best friend and yet I feel like I cant tell him the truth about this. Should I just sucked it up and tell him??? Maybe he can help stay on track. I'm just so embarrassed even though this man sees me naked. He knows whats under the clothes. Ahhhhh. Plumpy Girl PROBLEMS!

I don't think it's a question of needing to "suck it up" and tell him -- it's more that you need to accept that how he feels about your body is not the same as how you feel about your body, and trust him enough to let him in. As you said, he sees you naked, and he's your best friend. Those feelings of shame and fear have so much more power over our behavior when we keep them hidden away in dark corners of our minds. If you have someone in your life who truly loves you, telling him about how you feel can open the door to feeling his acceptance of you as you are, and help you, over time, accept that you're worth that love, just as you are. Changing your body and taking control of your life can then become about being your best self instead of feeling like you have to lose the weight to deserve love. Ask yourself why you're afraid to tell him those feelings, or how much you weigh. Do you think this man who so sensitively said that he was having trouble, too, to shield your feelings, will hear the number and run for the hills? Do you think it will make him suddenly see you clearly, and flee? I don't think so. I think telling him will allow you to discover that he actually sees you more clearly than you see yourself, and that you undervalue yourself.

Tell him. You're worth it.

Thanks for sharing you story

You're going in the right direction ... don't think "what if i dont lose more weight" Just keep going ond day at a time ... we can do this .. fat doesnt own me anymore.

I was kicked off a ride last year. Mortifying! This year I was stressed but there was loads of room. Had a blast. Felt amazing. Keep it in the front of your mind and use it to drive you! X