New & Ashamed.

Good Luck to you! This a a great place to start.

You are beautiful............you just want to lose weight. I think a good piece of advice to remember that you did not gain all this weight over night, nor will you lose it over night. I feel if you just start with the little things, you will get results faster than you think, just not all 100 plus pounds, right away. Log your food, study the areas you are going "over" in. Pay attention when you go to the store, look at the labels. The biggest obstacle might be getting over the fear of it all. I am over weight, per say, although I don't feel like it too much, but I even at first had a bit of a complex about checking labels at the store. Part of me thought "these people probably are wondering what I'm doing checking labels"........and the other part of me say's "fu*k them"............I'm doing this for me. And by doing this for me, I've already lost more than 10 lbs in less than a month. True, I've started to exercise as well, but you need to start with something. I think logging your food and actually taking note of the "feedback" it gives you, will give you a tremendous start. Just remember to be honest with yourself, and do your best to log everything as best you can, accurately. You might be pleasantly surprised in what you see start to happen.


The best for you!

So glad you took the first step to see what tools you have to help you get where you want to go. My best advice for you is to simply get started as soon as possible, and what I mean by that is set your calorie limit and stick within in no matter what. For me, that mean the first two weeks I was tired, grouchy, depressed, anxious, and angry--but pushing beyond it, you'll see how temporary those feelings really are and get a sense of strong self-control that is wonderful. Once you get there, you're on your way! I highly recommend starting with a small weekly loss to start, and make sure that you immediately begin exercising--whatever you can do--because it will help create endorphins (feel-good chemicals) that the overeating used to. exercise videos are great because you can do them in the home and take as many breaks as you need to get through them. Walking outside is also fantastic because you can go at your own pace. Welcome to the journey!

Your post title drew me in as it made me feel sad. I really feel for you yet I also empathise with the feelings that you have about yourself. It's so hard when you hate what you see in the mirror, isn't it? Yet it seems like such an impossibly long journey...but I would take strength from knowing that you are ready to change. Try not to look at the bigger picture but start to make small sustainable changes. Focus on the things that you can do and don't stress over the bigger things that you can't do. Try not to be mad at yourself or to hate yourself; consider all your good qualities and find things about yourself that you like in order to try and feel more positive about yourself overall. Apart from the obvious (overeating) I wonder if you have spent time considering how you have got where you are. Are you lonely? Bored? Unhappy? In an unfulfilling relationship? Can you do anything to change any of these?
Hopefully you have a good friend who can support and encourage you as you start this journey? There are certainly an amazing number of wonderful people on here with whom you can link up. I'm beginning to realise why I overeat and why I'm in such bad physical shape and, whilst it's too late to change the real issue, I have to make the decision to stop allowing this reason to ruin my life. But it's hard.
Well done you for being brave and confronting your weight problem. All the very best with your weight loss journey xxx

Was new and ashamed once myself.

Now.....nope. It took me three years to get to the point I am. I set the mini goals because the big picture was just to much for me to take in.

I did not gain the weight overnight and once I got it though my head it was not going to go away overnight I started doing better. I joined a health club and did swimming and water arobics every day. Had to force myself to go most of the time but I did it. I felt better after I got going and it did get easier. I went for just a pound or less a week.

Just start with the basics. Try not to keep junk food in the house. Move as much as you can. Portion control was my best friend. Got a good food scale yet? That was and still is my other best friend. Then I have all my wonderful MFP friends that have been there for me and to cheer me on. Logging my food showed me so much.

If you have any questions you can PM me anytime.

:flowerforyou: :flowerforyou: You can do it!!! :flowerforyou: :flowerforyou:

You have a beautiful soul - it kinda shines through. You are amongst friends here

You really can do it. I've lost 119 using MFP. Here's some pointers to help in getting started:

http://www.myfitnesspal.com/blog/ihad/view/truth-justice-and-the-mfp-way-a-primer-for-beginners-422837

No shame. It's pointless and stands in your way.

Set a realistic goal. Set a realistic timeline (when I started, I told myself it may take 3 years, but it will happen slowly, steadily, and will stay off if I do it that way). And as others have said, set interim goals and rewards for them. When I get to x I'll y. (When I get to 250 I'll take the horseback tour of Gettysburg battlefield, for example. Because that's the weight limit for that thing I really want to do.)

And be honest with yourself and others. You are changing your lifestyle. Not dieting. You are on a lifetime plan to be healthy, fit, and strong.

Good luck to you!

You can definitely do this! Start by setting attainable goals and make small, sustainable changes in your lifestyle until you achieve them. MFP is a great tool for tracking calories and exercise - it will work for you too!

Stop thinking about it as such a huge and impossible task. It's not.

First, stop worrying about dieting. Just start eating cleaner. Whole vegetables, whole grains, lean proteins, and lots and lots of greens. ONE fastfood hamburger (or any other junk) isn't going to kill you, but eating it every day will. Let MFP set up your macronutrients (although I find it way too sodium and carb heavy).

Stay close to your calorie allowances. A common error is thinking "If it tells me to eat 1200 I'll just eat 900 and lose weight faster".... NO! It doesn't work that way.

Set smaller goals. Thinking about losing 132 lbs is overwhelming and scary. Concentrate on 10 - 20 lbs at a time. When you're 12lbs in to a 20 lb goal it's a lot easier to say no to something that will derail you and undo what you've accomplished.

If you swallow it, log it. If it's going to go into your mouth weigh it and measure it (giggity) so you're logging it correctly. I know I had a REALLY messed up view of what one servings looked like and if I stop measuring for any length of time my servings get bigger and bigger after a while.

Move your *kitten*. It will hurt and be uncomfortable and sweaty and gross at first but woman up and push through it. "It's raining" "I'm tired after work" "I had such a busy day" "I don't have time" .... All are bull**** excuses that packed on 132 lbs of pure fat. stop making them and move your *kitten*.

Stop weighing yourself every day. I have WEEKS at a time I don't lose anything and suddenly I'll drop 4 o 5 lbs in a few days time. If you are just going to get frustrated every time you step on the scale stop doing it. It will just derail you.

Don't try to rush the weight loss. Enjoy the journey. Keep looking for the smal NSVs (non scale victories). The first time you have to roll the c ar seat forward because your belly isn't in the way anymore. The first time you can bend over and tie your shoes without feeling like you're going to suffocate. The first time you are able to RUN up a flight of stairs and not be winded. The first time you realize you don't HAVE to park in the closest spot because walking the 200 extra feet just isn't a big deal. The first time you feel your hip bone (or ribs, or collarbone, or ankles, or whatever bone you haven't seen in a decade). The first time you realize that carrots are really quite sweet and processed candy is TOO sweet. The first time you can walk into a regular store and shop..instead of going to the big girl store or ordering online.

Come up to an alternative to food. Chances are good you eat when stressed or upset or to celebrate. Come up with an alternative. If you eat while watching TV...start doing puzzles instead. If you eat when stressed find some sort of outlet like walking or cycling.

Be proud of you. Each time you eat something healthy or turn down something UNhealthy be proud of yourself. You will be AMAZED at your bodies ability to repair the huge amounts of damage your bad eating has done to it over the years. Be proud of the person you are evolving in to.

Hello. I'm new to this site, or I've had it for a while but never used it.

So, after stepping on the scale today I just.. I've had it. I can't let it go on like this, I need to lose so horribly much weight. I've been struggling with anxiety and depression for a couple of years and due to this gained a lot (and I've never been healthy). I'm ashamed of myself, and I'm also scared to fail. But, I have no future like this and I want a life. I wanna be beautiful and be that girl that I feel I am inside.

My goal is to lose about 60 kgs (132 lbs) which is like, so bloody much. I've let my eating habits take control over me, and I just wanna get that control back again. I also wish to be called beautiful, to have someone look up to me and to look good in a bikini. I'm young, I'm supposed to wanna show of my body but right now I'm even scared of seeing it myself.
But yeah.. My biggest goal? It's just to learn to accept myself.

There is a big lie that is told to women throughout the world. The Lie is used to sell everything from lipstick to liposuction, and women are so used to it that they hardly buy anything without it. Are you ready? Here's The Lie: IF YOU CHANGE SOMETHING ABOUT YOUR BODY, PEOPLE WILL LIKE YOU AND YOU WILL LIKE YOURSELF. Stop and think of how many times a day you get that message.

Now here's the good news: IF YOU CAN SEE THROUGH THE LIE, THE LIE LOSES ITS POWER. Sure, it can take a while, but the only way to short-circut the lie is to love yourself unconditionally. That has to start today, not 60 kg from now. In turn, loving yourself will help you start treating your body well, one good choice at a time.

This story I'm telling you has come to me through many years of hard knocks and self-abuse. I've been as high as 235 lbs and as low as 98. The self-hatred only got worse as I got thinner, because I had convinced myself that my body was a vile, base animal andnot a part of me. I had convinced myself that it was OK and expected for other people to judge me on the size and shape of my body. It isn't.

For now, focus on eating good foods instead of avoiding bad ones. When you eat a great meal or exercise even a little, think of giving your body a gift it deserves.

Much luck and good health to you,
Summer

I know that it may feel like a lot but I totally understand you I feel the same way I reached a weight that I was disgusted by I have a boyfriend of almost 5 years but no matter how many times he calls me beautiful I do no feel that I am so I decided to change my eating habits and started drinking herbalife products and they have been working I always used to quit diets because I would not see results fast enough but it takes time I have lost 10 pds in about 2 weeks and have registered myself for a 5k race December 1st to motivate myself into keeping healthy and working out ! It takes time but I am sure with hard work and dedication you will get there you just really have to want it and not give up !!!