Significant others??

If/When he really wants it, he will be willing to put in the work. If he is stuck in the phase that he wants it to just magically happen, he is not ready.

We've all been there though so don't look down on him, just be there for him when he asks for your help if he eventually does. Focus on your goals and do the best you can for yourself but don't let it put a damper on your relationship, don't be disappointed if he doesn't want to join you right now. Maybe someday he will.

my s/o and I run together a few times a week. He is way farther advanced than I am, so he does it just to support me. We also try to eat healthier together. For me it's easier to stay on track when we're doing this as a team.

I have a significant other (Hubby) and he is actually more into it that me. He can work out strict 30-45mins a day doing heavy cardio and weight lifting. I on the other hand struggle to do 10 minutes, twice a week.... I weigh less then him of course, but I am over my healthy BMI.. I am what you would call the bad influence. I think it really depends where you each stand with weight loss and what your goals are. I have baby fat to lose from two children, he has "getting to comfortable" and losing his muscle , we are on two different pages... but we care differently and have different goals. Keep at it, do what works for you, and one day he will do what works for him. PLUS men have this thing called an EGO, and if he sees you getting sexy and in shape he is going to want to do the same!

My husband is really supportive of me losing weight. He could stand to lose a bit himself, but he knows this and doesn't need me on his case. He'll eat the healthy dinners I make for us both - we both look after ourselves for breakfast and lunch.

I bet you will be a good influence on him :-) He will come around to the idea when he's ready so I think you should just continue on your path to fitness! Ya know what else, he will benefit from your healthy eating and cooking habits too so... you are actually already going to help him move toward a positive change! Good luck!

When you are not on the same page, it can make losing weight difficult. I have done the best in my weight loss goals when my husband was working out with me and helping me make better decisions. However, we took a 3 month break in diet plans (not intentional) and we gained a lot back. I have been doing better, but he hasn't got that motivation yet. In the meantime, I am focusing on what makes me happy and healthy, and trying to help him along the way.

my hubs used to be built like a freaking god when we met....well, ppl change, lol...we both did. now im in the best shape of my life and stay home with the kids (so ihave time to do this thing). he works out of town and travels alot, not always the best food choices or a gym around for him to use. i know he wants to be in better shape, but working 16hr days and travelling back n forth constantly is killing him! i hope he will see how much we need him to be healthy one day soon, and how much his heart and health need him to change also. im actually scared that he will have a heart attack sooner than later, hes been on blood pressure meds for 3yrs already and hes only 31 :frown:

I am thinking that maybe once I get further in my goals and he starts to see how I can do it then he might think he can too? What do you all think and suggest?

Exactly. Don't nag or push. Focus on your goals, and soon he'll see the results.

I've had a few friends ask me about my diet and exercise routine, after losing weight. One is installing a home gym based on my recommendations. Another has joined MFP. I never said anything to them about my new eating habits, or what I do at the gym. They just saw the results and decided to copy it.

Good luck.

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Different goals.

His - to be ripped, lift heavy, see abs.

Me - To fit into reasonable pants sizes, stay that way, be comfortable with myself and look good in clothes and better than I used to without. Also, long distance biking. I do not care about muscles. And in fact, not a fan of abs.

I think accepting that we are on totally different pages was necessary, because until then it was miserable. Now I do my thing, he does his, whatever.

My Fiance is already very physically fit. He is a minor league baseball player and has always been active. When I decided I wanted to get healthier, he was 100% on my side. He loved me either way, but when he saw how important it was for me, he did everything and anything I needed. He is already a great cook, but he was more thoughtful to my needs in how he prepared out meals. Even when it came to eating Dinner out, he tossed our usual places out the window and encouraged us to try new, healthier options.

He insisted on paying for my gym membership when I told him I wanted to join. And he is always will to take me out shopping for new clothes and new workout gear. He even wakes up early with me to go for a run or to partner up in a Yoga Session. And we go for a 2 hour hike every Sunday with our 2 dogs. He has completely adapted to my lifestyle and I couldn't be more grateful!

I owe at least half of my success to him!

For me it is a lot easier, since I do not have the feeling to get sabotaged at home anymore!
My husband does not workout more than absolutly necessary for his spine pain and diet is actually for him to cut out sodas for a week or two, if at all.

So I was very happy the other day when he came back from the supermarket and said: Honey, I got you something!
My first thought: Oh great chocolate or other candy he knows I like but rarely buy because I freak out on them.
Oh by the by he bought Mango for me

And he now asks more often if this or that is fitting into my calorie goal for the day!
Wish he would work out a little more too and try a little more healthy eating, but I am his wife not his nanny or mother, so we gotta live with what we got at the moment!

I try to motivate my husband but I haven't had much luck yet. Before we met, he was in the pinnacle of good shape (as he puts it) and trained to be and ultimate fighter, but gained weight after blowing out his knee. What worries me about him is he was chubby when we met and I am totally cool with that because I love cuddly men, but when we met he would still walk around moderately and go out and do things with me which is all I ask for, he doesn't do this anymore. For the last few years his activity is sitting at his computer all day and occasionally getting up to use the restroom. Nothing else. It's very difficult to get him to leave the house even to go across the street and he says that his knee hurts so bad that it hurts to do anything so now he walks with a cane. I tried to help. I bought him a bike last year because he said that it might help him, but it sits in our living room, unused, collecting coats and now has a flat tire. I understand that it hurts him but I feel that if he increased his daily activity...even a little...he wouldn't feel as crappy. His consumption of several cans of Mountain Dew a day also really concerns me. I cook healthy meals, but I feel it's not enough. I love him and I don't want to watch his health deteriorate like this in his early 30's.

As far as how he feels about his weight loss, he supports me but I don't think he completely understands why it's so important to me. My hip bones and ribs are becoming more noticeable and while he says he loves me at any size, he really prefers me when I'm chubbier. But that doesn't make me happy because I don't feel healthy when I weigh more and he wants me to be happy, so that's that.