Date Advice - all points of view welcome

Let me start this with the warning that I am not a typical girl, I don't play girl games, my life has never revolved around guys, I'm way to busy for that, so take it as it is. First, playing with a necklace, normally a sign of strong physical interest (subconsciously). Glancing at the TV, well, I'm easily distracted so it's hard for me to ignore bright colors and movement, ifyou have another date, take her somehwere there is no TV or hold her chair for her so she gets seated where she isn't facing the TV (you did hold her chair for her, right?). Wait time between contacts - in my world if I haven't heard from you in more than 3 days I have probably already written you off as not interested. Contacting me after that will probably send me running for the hills because I figure I'm option #2 since it took you so long to get back to me. And nobody wants to be the option someone else had to settle for. And for heaven's sake you are the guy, it's your job to lead, or chase, or whatever you want to call it. You can initiate contact at least once a day without seeming like a stalker. If you ask her out and she's not available ask her to suggest a convenient time (which realistically she should do anyway). If you aren't happy with her, then by all means walk away, but don't drift away without a fight, not if you really are interested. You are the lead, the hunter, you push the boundaries until she draws a line, and then you respect that line...that's like the natural order of the universe or something...

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Way to go bro! Hang tough!

I asked her out today, basically what night she would be free. I wanted to take her out to try the sushi she mentioned. I heard back right away "Tuesday or Wednesday " suggested 7:30 Tuesday and got a "sounds good!"

I guess she is still interested.

Good job!

Just be careful not to end up friend-zoned. You're walkin' the line right now. Make sure you if you go in for the kiss or something romantic if she gives you the right signals again!

It sounds like your first date was a bit of a dud....why do you want a second one? Usually people are on best behaviour on a first date ..but if she was watching the TV and not participating in the conversation too much...why would you want to be with her?

I can use the platitude about being like a bus ...there is one along every 20 minutes, but sometimes it doesn't seem that way.

You sound like a really nice guy. Look elsewhere for the someone special that is right for you. Join some groups that have the same interests as you ( see meetup.com) and go and have fun. There will be people in those groups that share your interests and who will meet you doing something you enjoy. No interview questions at a first date because you already have stuff in common

I really hope the next date goes well, im going to admit that i only skipped through your post, but one thing stood out to me

"eventually the bill came and she started playing with her necklace and putting chapstick on. Apparently this was a "sign" that I should have gone in for the kiss"

I dont think this was a sign to go in for the kiss, more a sign of her doing something to avoid going dutch and letting you pay the bill! Unless of course you missed out the bit, "we paid the bill and she then started playing with her necklace and putting chapstick on!"

I'm totally going to call myself out here... but I did this all the time to guys when I was younger.

I was broke, needed food and I'd get guys to take me out to dinner. I'd tell them my favorite place, they'd ask if I wanted to go there and bam. Dinner on them. I don't think she was giving off the "kiss me" signals with the playing of the necklace and addition of chapstick. No guy wants to eat Chapstick and we're aware of this (as women). And if she was interested in you, she would've been as involved in the conversation as you were with her.

I have to go with the other poster that said we're all on our very best behavior on our first date. She sounded rude to me, looking at the TV etc. I know, for me, I couldn't go to a place on Monday/Thursday Nights that had TVs because chances are, I'd be watching the game. I don't mean it to be rude, but I'm just preconditioned for football watching BUT I'm aware of it and would avoid those places for a date.

I would be very cautious on a second date with her. if she's interested, she'll reciprocate. Most girls nowadays don't really subscribe to the "old fashioned way" of dating. You've made it clear that you're interested in her, let her show you that she's interested.

I wouldn't kiss her............but that's just me........................make her salivate..................it just might to your advantage later............

update please!