Aww crap! What do I do now?!

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  • NdBuk
    NdBuk Posts: 25
    Pfft, I'd tell all my friends. If the word somehow makes it way back to their spouses, oh well. It'd be good for them actually since they don't have to spend one more day with cheating *kitten*.

    I hadn't thought of this. Good idea. It protects the work environment too. See if you can plant some seeds in a way that they're sure to grow. Hmm....

    Nah. Telling your friends / colleagues just makes you a gossip.
    What you might want to do is confidentially ask their advice about what to do. For proper advice of course they'll need to know who, what and where. All confidentially of course.
    Obviously for a balanced view you should canvass as much advice as possible...
  • Jenny_Taylia
    Jenny_Taylia Posts: 540 Member
    Its a tough situation. I wouldnt want to be involved in that kinda of drama.

    However...If it were my husband sneeking around my back having an affair with another woman I would want someone to tell me.


    You gotta ask yourself if you would want someone to tell you if it were you.
  • Dayna154
    Dayna154 Posts: 910 Member
    Not your place to do anything about it. They are two adults, you aren’t their parents.
    Unless you are close friends with one of the spouses then you would have to decide if you wish to be the messenger of bad news. Most people know when they are being cheated on, many time you live in denial until you can face it and it matters not what anyone else tells you.. Unless you possibly had proof like video or photos..
  • jeleclekat
    jeleclekat Posts: 124 Member
    Throw another party. Wait til they disappear again, track them down with a camera. Take the picture, and hold it for ransom. Once they know they've been caught, they'll play favorites with your - anything you want or need...lol They'll walk on eggs around you at work, always wondering where that picture is and who has seen it. I think it will make them miserable....
  • serena569
    serena569 Posts: 427 Member
    MYOB Secrets have a way of coming out regardless of how well they are kept, don't involve yourself in that drama, though I have a feeling you are itching to tell a whole lot more of people. Keep us updated on the salacious scandal
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    I want to tell everybody I know. It's killing me. I am terrible at keeping secrets. All my friends know how horrible I am at it lol

    It's not your secret to keep - it's theirs. Tell your bf or tell your bff. And don't worry about who they tell.
  • chubbygirl253
    chubbygirl253 Posts: 1,309 Member
    Oh man this sucks. From one blabbermouth to another, I feel ya. I can't keep a secret. I am getting married in less than 10 months and I wanna show my fiance my gown soooo bad. But we both want him to be surprised. Good thing he's stronger than I. I don't thingk he'll ever get a birthday, anniversary, or hoilday gift that I haven't already spilled the beans about. Poor guy. Umm, I would only tell people in the general, anonymous way like here on MFP. Oh and you can tell your hubby. But no telling anyone at work or you'll be sorry. And whatever you do, don't let the two cheaters know you know. If you do, when it comes out eventually, they will assume you told. They'll think you leaked the info that got them caught. And you really don't wanna get involved.
  • CrimsonDiva7
    CrimsonDiva7 Posts: 171 Member
    They made it your business by doing it in your house. I would pull them both aside and tell them how it made you feel and leave ut at that. That's all you can control.
  • Briko3
    Briko3 Posts: 266 Member
    Call the spouses anonymously. Don't spread the rumor or you risk it coming back to you. You would want someone to call you.
  • farway
    farway Posts: 1,253 Member
    Just keep your mouth very much shut, they are adults, you just get on with your life & let them lead theirs
  • tmauck4472
    tmauck4472 Posts: 1,785 Member
    Wondering what you did? Did you tell and who?
  • Pimpmonkey
    Pimpmonkey Posts: 566
    If these were just friends of yours, not coworkers, then I'd say you should consider telling the spouses if you don't mind losing them all as friends as a consequence. That being said, starting up coworker drama, even if you're "right" is just not a good idea. It could have serious consequences for your work environment. Just disassociate with them and let things unfold as they will.

    You should also consider that their spouses already know. These days, a lot of folks are engaged in open relationships, and it's not always public knowledge.

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  • Heather_Rider
    Heather_Rider Posts: 1,159 Member
    Me personally I'd send each a small note saying stop it or I'm telling. You can say where you saw them at without giving away who you are. You'll probably never know if they truly stop or not but hell as a married person I'd like to know if my spouse was cheating on me. You don't have to get involved just an unsigned note to each of them letting them know they were not as careful as they thought they were.
    This idea is brilliant. As a married person, i would also like to know, but it wouldnt be your place to tell.. so i would also leave an unsigned note. Maybe a typed one. (not from a computer at work either.. type it up at home or the library & print it off)
  • Dub_D
    Dub_D Posts: 1,760 Member
    Tell. Everyone.
  • farway
    farway Posts: 1,253 Member
    Tell. Everyone.

    A tongue in cheek trolling post I hope
  • _the_feniks_
    _the_feniks_ Posts: 3,412 Member
    Tell them you know what they did in your computer room and blackmail the bejeezus out of 'em.
  • HelloSweetie4
    HelloSweetie4 Posts: 1,214 Member
    It might not even be a scandal. Swingers are everywhere!
  • emmalouc93
    emmalouc93 Posts: 328 Member
    If it was me, I would probably just stay out of it unless I was friends with the spouse...It's disgusting and sad, but it is so much better if you stay out and let them face it themselves. Sick that it happened in your house though, THAT I would be mad about.

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