I am taunted by neighbours when I run up the street

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  • Hourglass_Lass
    Hourglass_Lass Posts: 8 Member
    I'm an American who lived in England for seven years; two years in Notts and the rest just outside of Leeds. I know the exact type of people you mean, basically chavs who have no empathy or sympathy for anyone, including themselves and their own offspring. Personally, I put them up there somewhere between sociopaths and food poisoning. These are the same people who, when their child cries, they tell them to "Shut the F- up or I'll give you sommink to cry about." Saw that happen first-hand outside the solicitor's office where I worked, but you have to remember: You can't fix stupid and you can't buy class.

    You. Are. Amazing! Even when I was fit I couldn't run like you and I'd give anything if I could. So either do what some others have suggested and wear your MP3 player, smile and wave when they taunt you or just laugh. Laugh for all you're worth at the fact that one day soon you'll be heading out one night, looking stunning in your well-fitted clothes and heels. The guy will drown in his own drool and his slapper of a wife will be eaten from the inside out with jealousy!

    And please remember one thing: A foul-mannered, nasty, ill-meaning person will always be ugly no matter their face, size or shape. You're beautiful from the inside out and what comes around goes around. Just have some popcorn ready to sit and watch when they get their comeuppance. :wink:

    Here for support whenever you need it! Add me a friend if you'd like and we can have some giggles!
  • MassiveDelta
    MassiveDelta Posts: 3,271 Member
    I'm fat and I run.

    I run for my health and because I enjoy it.

    I am over 13 stone and a size 16 (down from 18 stone and size 24).

    I now can run continuously for 2 hours covering 8.5 miles and I am proud of this and enjoy running :)

    But I get a lot of negative comments from strangers, normally from young males who wind their windows down to shout comments at me as they drive past. Luckily I am hard of hearing so I miss the actual words screamed at me but it is clear from facial expressions and tones that the comments are negative...I ignore and keep on running.

    A few weeks ago, new neighbours have taken on a house which needs a lot of building work done on it and hence are frequently outside the building and their young son has taken to pointing laughing and making various remarks about running and my weight, to and at me, which I ignore as he is a young child (around 8yo) and knows no better.

    Then I 'met' his father, who joined in with his son and shouted so loudly across the road that I heard him clearly, despite my deafness/hard of hearing issues. He pretended to speak in the affections of a person with special needs and screamed 'Run Forest, Run' at me.

    I crossed the road and asked him not to call me names in the street. He sneered and said he was only singing as I ran past and didn't get 'my ****ing problem'. When I explained that I received enough comments from strangers and expected my new neighbours to be more courteous. His wife screamed from an upper store window, that I was '****ing over reacting' and that I should '*expect* comments when I run outside'.

    Am I being unreasonable to expect neighbours to be polite to each other, not to mock them ?

    I accept strangers might be nasty but is it acceptable to be pointed at, laughed at and name called on my door step....as I am *fat* and I run outside.

    I may be old fashioned but I operate on the 'if you can't say anything nice, say nothing' policy and would never shout at strangers on the street.

    Sigh, this won't stop me running but it just makes it harder for me to get out there. Why be nasty for no reason ?

    Please post their address so we can all write them some mail. Im sure a new neighbor would love to have lots of mail at their new house.

    Ignore them... The 8yo is plenty old enough to know better and its plain that his ignorance is taught to him by his moronic father and his dumb See you next Tuesday Wife.
  • fit4lifeUcan2
    fit4lifeUcan2 Posts: 1,458 Member
    I didn't read all 18 pages.

    That is horrible.

    I think you should video tape it next time and post it on you tube and then send it to the local media. Name names. And post addresses.

    Bullies need to know that this type of behaviour is no longer going to be tolerated.

    If they think you are over reacting and you should expect comments like that. Put it out there in the court of public opinion.

    Will they really stand behind their words or will they cower in the corner like they expect you to.

    Actually, that is a very good idea. There was just a video that made the national news here in the US. A man and his son were filmed imitating the walk of a young girl with cerebral palsy as she got off the school bus. It was awful but it did my heart good to see him and his son raked over the coals for bullying.

    Good idea! I was thinking that there might even be an obscenity law in your area. Some towns will fine you if your caught cussing in public. At the very least they are bullies and should be outed and made to be ashamed of their actions. There was something in the news about a women who bullied a little girl. This girl was undergoing chemo by the way and the neighbor across the street yelled out her door that it would sever her right if she died and other nasty comments like that. It wasn't till the media got involved and knocked on her door, showed her video of her taunts to this sick little girl and asked her what she had to say for herself. Of course she made excuses and blamed the sick little girl. Everyone rallied around the little girl and her family and when that little girl would leave her house for her chemo people were out there ready and waiting for that nasty women to come outside and try something. She did and they fired right back at her. For the life of me I don't know why some people are such ***holes.

    edited to add the link to this story The little girl passed away.
    http://iowntheworld.com/blog/?p=113901
  • MissFit0101
    MissFit0101 Posts: 2,382
    This makes me SO angry. I wish there were something I could do to teach those people a lesson. It is just appalling what they did and no it is not acceptable. I'm so sorry.

    You are amazing and I applaud you for what you are doing. Please don't let anyone stop you from doing what's best for you. Lots of love and positive vibes your way.
  • godroxmysox
    godroxmysox Posts: 1,491 Member
    We are a severely flawed species, us humans. It sucks, but the only thing you can do is ignore it. Oh, and good for you for running (seriously) - major props!
  • MissCarter79
    MissCarter79 Posts: 227 Member
    That is terrible! I feel bad for you because I know how it feels to have people make nasty comments to me. Like others have said, just keep running, blare your music and don't let them get you down. I just don't understand people sometimes...
  • Troll
    Troll Posts: 922 Member
    Shout back, shoot them the finger, put in headphones so you dont hear them.

    youre not running for them.

    and if they keep it up, chase them down. thatll shut them up.
  • gjulie
    gjulie Posts: 391
    God I just find this so hard to understand.these people move in total strangers have no idea who you are and act like this,its even worse thst yhis is acceptable from their young son.Discourteous behaviour is never acceptable from anyone stranders or not,you are doing so well to rise above it and stay ip thete they have nig issues not uou!
  • Poods71
    Poods71 Posts: 502 Member
    I have no words that could cover how shocked I am at how your neighbours and other people are acting :noway: :noway: :noway: . I have to say that I am massively in awe of you for not letting these morons stop you from going out. Most people (including myself) would give up and let idiots like that win. You are amazing :flowerforyou:
  • fit4lifeUcan2
    fit4lifeUcan2 Posts: 1,458 Member
    here is the story I was talking about. The girl passed away. But they show in the video this nasty neighbor and how she taunted the little girl in person and online. Just sick!
    http://iowntheworld.com/blog/?p=113901
  • lydia_the_tattooed_lady
    lydia_the_tattooed_lady Posts: 324 Member
    I know what you mean!! I run at night with headphones so nobody bothers me anymore :)
  • Juliejustsaying
    Juliejustsaying Posts: 2,332 Member
    You're doing better than great..you can run for 2 hours continuously...ef them if they can't take a joke...they're the effing joke.
  • Wickedmeowmer
    Wickedmeowmer Posts: 157
    I'm not even fat and when I run past the high school I've gotten mean comments and yells. People are just dumb in general.

    Also once an old man sitting in his car smoking a cigarette told me and my running group we were slow. So, yeah - just learn to laugh it off, it wont change even if you do ;)
  • caretheaton
    caretheaton Posts: 90 Member
    Wow... just wow. That is disturbing. I'm sorry you have to live next to such people. Their behaviour is a reflection of how miserable they are, so just keep running, keep smiling, and don't give them the satisfaction of making you as miserable as they are. You are inspiring!
  • Jipples
    Jipples Posts: 650 Member
    May be easier said than done, but use the negativity as motivation for every step you take. Remember, if you quit, they win. It may be tough, but do not waste one minute trying to figure why people do these types of thing......people can suck at life, that's all there is to it. Do your thing......and fu$k the miserable *kitten*.
  • JennyBug2007
    JennyBug2007 Posts: 15
    Shake it off and always remember:

    Six months from now, you will have lost weight.
    They will still be creeps with no class.

    You are ahead of the game!!
  • 138Ellen
    138Ellen Posts: 1
    I'm glad you stood up for yourself. Keep up the good work...obviously you have more people cheering for you than jeering at you!
    You GO girl!
  • Fairysoul
    Fairysoul Posts: 1,361 Member
    You just keep running and when they see you looking better and better everyday they will feel bad about what they said.
  • dani_alaine
    dani_alaine Posts: 36
    *kitten*! Put on your ipod and keep on runnin' ...

    The post above says it perfectly. Girl you turn up that iPod and you run until you cant run anymore. You go girl! I am proud of you for being proactive and doing something for yourself, making decisions to live a healthier lifestyle. I will so stand behind you! It is a pure shame that people can be so mean and what's even worse is how they teach their kids to be just as mean by showing them that negative example. You hold your head up high and run on!!!
  • mmiley1111
    mmiley1111 Posts: 36 Member
    If you love to run then run. Don't let them bother you . It's about you and your being healthy. Keep up the good work!!!
  • korsicash
    korsicash Posts: 770 Member
    Great job running despite the fact that others make fun. You will be the one laughing one day when you are fit and toned and one of those windows rolls down to offer a compliment and you can back hand them with where was your support when you thought I was fat. Keep up the great work!
  • tomomatic
    tomomatic Posts: 1,794 Member
    A great conductor must turn his back on the audience to make beautiful music.

    You're on a mission. Focus on your mission.

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    If you feel that it's affecting your self-esteem or affecting your motivation, maybe you can consider getting a stationary bike for the home. BUT NEVER GIVE UP ON THE MISSION! They're still going to be out there, hating. Don't stop. Keep it going!
  • Bill_Bird1
    Bill_Bird1 Posts: 3 Member
    Wow I am struggling with why people have become so rude! Where do you live? (City) Not that it matters because courtesy these days seems to be rare. Kudos to you for ignoring the people - keep on running. Congrats on the success you have had! I am impressed with your stamina - two hours, thats great! Keep up the good work!
  • NewLIFEstyle4ME
    NewLIFEstyle4ME Posts: 4,440 Member
    Wow.

    I am so VERY impressed that you run and actually, I'm putting you down as one of my Mfp sheros. My heart hurts reading your post and at the very same time, I'm so proud of you for continuing on in spite of the devil's taunting you. You, my dear are a super shero as a matter of fact, in my book!

    Here's some things/quotes to meditate on as these wicked blaggards try to disturb your groove:

    Living well is the best revenge.
    George Herbert

    The best revenge is massive success.
    Frank Sinatra

    Looking good is the best revenge.
    Ivana Trump

    Success is the sweetest revenge.
    Vanessa Williams

    Darkness cannot drive out darkness; only light can do that. Hate cannot drive out hate; only love can do that.
    Martin Luther King, Jr.

    Always forgive your enemies - nothing annoys them so much.
    Oscar Wilde

    Forgiveness is the fragrance that the violet sheds on the heel that has crushed it.
    Mark Twain

    Never forget the three powerful resources you always have available to you: love, prayer, and forgiveness.
    H. Jackson Brown, Jr.

    Forgiveness is a funny thing. It warms the heart and cools the sting.
    William Arthur Ward


    {{{{ Hugs & High Fives to you for being so Strong and COOL, You ROCK, you superstar YOU! }}}}}
  • TeachTheGirl
    TeachTheGirl Posts: 2,091 Member
    here is the story I was talking about. The girl passed away. But they show in the video this nasty neighbor and how she taunted the little girl in person and online. Just sick!
    http://iowntheworld.com/blog/?p=113901

    Jesus. Just hearing that woman talk made me want to slap her. What a piece of work.
  • reztib
    reztib Posts: 151 Member
    Just had another thought. Sometimes sunlight is the best disinfectant. They do this again, pull out your phone and get them on camera. Post their address in the video. Hopefully people don't go overboard and post death threats or anything. But if it goes viral the media will pick up on it. That might get them to stop as well. Stand tall and proud.
  • juliaamilee
    juliaamilee Posts: 262 Member
    You keep it up eveuntally they will get bored when they see that it doesnt bother you, and move on to torture some other person... turn up the music and run! Its all about you! :flowerforyou:
  • birdielosingit
    birdielosingit Posts: 34 Member
    I think it is fantastic that you said something to the guy. You are not over-recting at all, and there is absolutely no reason you should "expect" that kind of behavior. Good for you for standing up for yourself!! Shame on them for being judgmental and clearly teaching thier son to follow suit.
  • faithsomemore
    faithsomemore Posts: 9
    WOW! All I have to say is I have an 8 year old and if she ever said anything disrespectful to anyone she would be apologizing and would be grounded so long she wouldn't get to see the light of day for a long time! An 8 year old knows better. As for the parents, boy they sure are setting a great example and I hope that someone treats them with disrespect and then mentions that this is how they act and set a terrible example for their children!

    Keep on running and when you are drop dead gorgeous (not that you aren't ugly by any means) run by their house and show them how hot you are. Make sure you wear something that is going to make the fathers jaw drop and proceed to tell him he doesnt stand a chance because he is too ugly! Just kidding. This would be totally hypocritical and disrespectful.. but you can still think about it :)

    Keep up the great work!
  • blakejohn
    blakejohn Posts: 1,129 Member
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