62 pounds gone...But did you have to EXERCISE????

I'm a shop owner in a small town and everyone is noticing how much better I look. When I tell them I've lost 62 pounds, they inevitably ask "How did you do it?" I explain that I changed my eating habits, counted calories on MFP, did Herbalife shakes and vitamins.

Then they ask "But did you have to exercise?" They get a disdainful look on their faces as if they would rather eat nails for dinner or take multiple colonics or fast; anything but exercise! It's remarkable how many times people have said this to me. I always say "Yes, I had to exercise, but I enjoy it now," but they smile and turn away as if the subject of exercise has ended their interest in weight loss. Has anyone else who has lost weight encountered this? Doesn't it seem that people are naive to believe there is a way of losing weight without effort?
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  • Deb_smiles
    Deb_smiles Posts: 35 Member
    It always makes me sad when I hear people talk like this......Yes, there will be some effort, yes you will sweat, yes you will be short of breath......for a little while. Then the rest of your day takes on a whole new shine! I have pretty much come to the conclusion that I can exercise every day for a minimum of 30 minutes, or I can be on an anti-depressant. It makes that much of a difference for me! Plus I have greater flexibility, mobility, I feel rejuvenated and de-stressed! Just keep on shining girl and let the new you do the advertising! You don't have to win them over. Sooner or later they are going to be desperate for the fresh beginning that you have!
  • chelle_fri
    chelle_fri Posts: 333 Member
    I get that a lot. I just laugh and say "Of course, I'm not interested in loose skin later on." It's so funny how that's the one thing people refuse to do, as if playing volleyball in the sunshine is some daunting task. I suppose people can lose weight just by reducing calories, but that doesn't complete a healthy lifestyle. We're made to move, so let's do it! Congrats on your weight loss btw, I love to see such dedicated people.
  • readanddance
    readanddance Posts: 311 Member
    Your post made me smile as I can relate to those who smile and turn away. My first month on MFP has concluded, and I have made small changes that are doable for me. Exercise has not been a priority during the first month. Now, as I approach my next 30 days, I am gradually adding in more activity.

    Why the smile/grimace? It is based on my personal historical experience with losing weight and exercising. Still, when I think of exercise, I think of pain, going beyond your comfort level, etc. It is boring, hard, and hurts. Almost a "no pain = no gain" mentality. Pre-MFP, exercise only counted if it was in a gym, on a treadmill, and took at least an hour. (Side note.....with an eating disorder, I had very distorted views on exercise.) And yet, I did not consider dance or walking or swimming to be "working out" as those were fun.

    It's taken time on MFP to realize that exercise can be anything and can be enjoyable That exercise does not need to consume my life to burn calories. When I think of exercise, my first inclination is to shudder. Then, I get started.

    For the people in the shop, I wonder if it would help to add in a sentence about, "Yes, I exercise. It took me some attempts to find something that I enjoy doing, but I enjoy....." If nothing else, it allows them to start contemplating the possibilities. Since everyone is on their own journey, it may or may not generate a conversation. That's ok.
  • Seriously! I walk my poodle two miles a day, and it's the best part of the day! I feel energized, and victorious and my dog loves it too. I hit the gym twice a week for a little weight lifting, swimming, but not too much. It's the consistent walks that are really paying off. What's not to love?
  • I must be the exact opposite of a lot of people cause I enjoy exercising it's the dieting and eating healthy part I don't care for. I would much rather eat junk food than vegetables, but I know I have to eat healthy and exercise to lose weight cause if I just do one or the other, I'll basically just maintain my current weight and wouldn't get anywhere.
  • This thing that always bothered me on my first weight loss journey (from 175-133) was people saying they were jealous and that I was "lucky". That irritates me to no end. I know you ALL can relate. We aren't lucky. We're dedicated, we sweat, we forced ourselves to start bettering our bodies. Luck has nothing to do with it. Heart does
  • Ralstonk2
    Ralstonk2 Posts: 345 Member
    I hear this all the time with people asking me how I lost 60 lbs. But I did NOT exercise at all when I lost 60 lbs. Maybe once here and there but all I did was count my calories and it came off. So yes, it's VERY possible to lose a lot of weight without exercising but it's still hard work whether you exercise or not. And some exercises I love to do and others I dread. LOL But it's all part of the lifestyle change.
  • A few years back I lost over 60 lbs and was only a few pounds away from my goal. I remember that I wasn't proud of the weight loss really or the healthy eating. I was proud of my physical fitness. I was at the gym at least 3 days a week, taking aerobics classes and was power walking 1/2 marathons in under 3 hours. That from being a couch potato.
    I know many of you won't agree, but getting the eating under control is relatively easy in comparison to the exercising. You have to eat, the only thing you need to control is what and how much. But the exercise... not so much, you can just choose not to do it. The hardest thing is getting up off your butt, getting prepped and walking out that door. If you get that far, it's an amazing thing... but it's getting there that is the hardest part of a healthy lifestyle.
  • P05T5CRIPT
    P05T5CRIPT Posts: 285 Member
    I've lost 53lbs in the last 5 months and I get people asking how I've lost the weight, but when you actually tell them - healthy eating and exercise, they lose interest.

    It seems everyone wants you to say you've found some magic pill and the weight just melted off with no effort :laugh:
  • Yes, I've had friends and relatives ask me how I'm losing weight. I'm very happy to tell them, but then I hear tons of exuses why they can't do the same. I don't want to argue, so I just smile. Weight loss is such a mental thing. When they're ready, they'll do it.
  • A few years back I lost over 60 lbs and was only a few pounds away from my goal. I remember that I wasn't proud of the weight loss really or the healthy eating. I was proud of my physical fitness. I was at the gym at least 3 days a week, taking aerobics classes and was power walking 1/2 marathons in under 3 hours. That from being a couch potato.
    I know many of you won't agree, but getting the eating under control is relatively easy in comparison to the exercising. You have to eat, the only thing you need to control is what and how much. But the exercise... not so much, you can just choose not to do it. The hardest thing is getting up off your butt, getting prepped and walking out that door. If you get that far, it's an amazing thing... but it's getting there that is the hardest part of a healthy lifestyle.
    I agree. Now that it's colder in the mornings, I have to really psych myself up to get out there and walk! Getting my butt out the door is hard some mornings, but I talk myself into it. I guess that's what a lot of people think about when they ask if I had to exercise.
  • ripemango
    ripemango Posts: 534 Member
    I love how you put this! It is so true. A shine is such a great way of describing it. I feel more powerful, confident, happy, at ease, etc etc when exercising is a part of my life.
    Yes, there will be some effort, yes you will sweat, yes you will be short of breath......for a little while. Then the rest of your day takes on a whole new shine!
  • funkycamper
    funkycamper Posts: 998 Member
    I've been asked that, too, and get the same frowns about it when I respond with something like "That's the best part because I feel so much younger now that I'm stronger, have more endurance, and am able to do more fun things because of it. Use it or lose it! I want to go out dancing, not sitting in a rocker" Whatever, you get the idea. I've had quite a few people who have said that they've never thought of it that way so, hopefully, they have been inspired to make some changes.

    I post on Facebook sometimes about my little fitness victories, like biking a century, running in my first race in 30+ years, whatever, and I do get a lot of positive comments on there with a lot of people telling me how inspiring I am to them. So that's the main reason I post those things. Not to brag but to inspire. I believe it's helping a bit. At least two friends are now riding their bikes semi-regularly because of it and another has taken up running.

    Anyway, I would suggest that your own approach to the matter may help make a difference. Saying something like "yeah, it was hard at first but I enjoy it now" is a bit of a negative statement, imho. It almost sounds apologetic. But giving them a big smile and saying with enthusiasm how the exercise is so much fun, may give you a bit better of a response.
  • Weight loss is such a mental thing.

    That's the big "secret" right there, in seven words.
  • I've been asked that, too, and get the same frowns about it when I respond with something like "That's the best part because I feel so much younger now that I'm stronger, have more endurance, and am able to do more fun things because of it. Use it or lose it! I want to go out dancing, not sitting in a rocker" Whatever, you get the idea. I've had quite a few people who have said that they've never thought of it that way so, hopefully, they have been inspired to make some changes.

    I post on Facebook sometimes about my little fitness victories, like biking a century, running in my first race in 30+ years, whatever, and I do get a lot of positive comments on there with a lot of people telling me how inspiring I am to them. So that's the main reason I post those things. Not to brag but to inspire. I believe it's helping a bit. At least two friends are now riding their bikes semi-regularly because of it and another has taken up running.

    Anyway, I would suggest that your own approach to the matter may help make a difference. Saying something like "yeah, it was hard at first but I enjoy it now" is a bit of a negative statement, imho. It almost sounds apologetic. But giving them a big smile and saying with enthusiasm how the exercise is so much fun, may give you a bit better of a response.

    Great suggestion, thanks! I would love to inspire people to get out there and just take a walk. Exercise doesn't have to be hard. Once you get started its fun.
  • momofthreesons
    momofthreesons Posts: 162 Member
    This thing that always bothered me on my first weight loss journey (from 175-133) was people saying they were jealous and that I was "lucky". That irritates me to no end. I know you ALL can relate. We aren't lucky. We're dedicated, we sweat, we forced ourselves to start bettering our bodies. Luck has nothing to do with it. Heart does

    This

  • It seems everyone wants you to say you've found some magic pill and the weight just melted off with no effort :laugh:

    ^^^^^^
    THIS
  • ElizaRoche
    ElizaRoche Posts: 2,005 Member
    I remember a few months ago, I posted something about my weight loss on my facebook, some people commented saying the typical, good job, how are you doing it? and blah blah. I just said, If Im doing it, you can do it as well, then this girl that i went to school with said ´no, you know im so damn lazy, If i have to exercise , I pass...´
    It didnt bother me back then, but now that I remember I just feel sorry for her, she is missing it!
  • MaryJane_8810002
    MaryJane_8810002 Posts: 2,082 Member
    When people see me and I have lost a dramatic amount of weight they always seem to ask as if there is a magic potion or quick fix. When they hear they have to exercise they go back to smoking their cigarettes and cups of tampico. Its a shame, just walking around your neighborhood helps wonders.
  • Phaedra2014
    Phaedra2014 Posts: 1,254 Member
    I'm not originally from the U.S. My thoughts on this subject are that because one has to take a car/public transport to get anywhere, daily walking is unusual. People have to actually set aside time to walk in the U.S. In many other countries in the world, walking is a normal part of life - you walk to and from work, to and from the grocery store, to and from the doctor's office, to and from a friend's house. You get your daily exercise (and your plate of pasta!) without considering it exercise.

    In the U.S. the distances are so great that you need transportation for everything. So yeah, walking is something you do because you have to carve out an hour or more from an already full day and most are unwilling to do so.
  • EnchantedEvening
    EnchantedEvening Posts: 671 Member
    I must be the exact opposite of a lot of people cause I enjoy exercising it's the dieting and eating healthy part I don't care for. I would much rather eat junk food than vegetables, but I know I have to eat healthy and exercise to lose weight cause if I just do one or the other, I'll basically just maintain my current weight and wouldn't get anywhere.

    I am exactly the same. I love exercising and would do it all day, but I haaaaate having to limit my calories.
  • MaraDiaz
    MaraDiaz Posts: 4,604 Member
    I've lost 53lbs in the last 5 months and I get people asking how I've lost the weight, but when you actually tell them - healthy eating and exercise, they lose interest.

    It seems everyone wants you to say you've found some magic pill and the weight just melted off with no effort :laugh:

    So what you're saying is that she should buy some empty pill capsules, fill them with dried spinach flakes or similar and print out an exercise and diet guide. Then put the pills and the guide in a colorful bottle and label them with a $59.99 price tag. When people ask, she can say all anybody has to do to lose weight is take six pills every day and follow the sensible exercise and diet guide that comes with the pills absolutely free.

    Genius!

    Why has no one done this yet?

    Oh wait, lots of clever little thieves already have.

    Tempting, though. Very tempting. I'd even throw in a slip of paper with MFP's web address printed on it. No extra charge! :laugh:
  • RobynMWilson
    RobynMWilson Posts: 1,540 Member
    I come across it all the time. People ask me about Shakeology and when I tell them that even the makers of Shakeo recommend they exercise 3 times per week minimally they're like "oh" and you see their face fall. When I tell them that's how I've maintained my 70-lb weight loss for over 20 years they're like "oh" and you see their face fall. So you let them keep trying it their way...eventually they come back and say "I'm doing this, that and the other and can't lose the weight" so you ask them "are you exercising?" and they say "no" and that's when I say "let me know how that's working for you". I'm not trying to be cynical about it but, hey, I'm a Jersey Girl after all lol.

    Some people have to learn the hard way that there's no quick fix! Sure, they may lose, but 2 years from now when that weight bounces back....

    Just keep leading by example! If they want what you have, they'll do what you do!
  • RobynMWilson
    RobynMWilson Posts: 1,540 Member
    I'm not originally from the U.S. My thoughts on this subject are that because one has to take a car/public transport to get anywhere, daily walking is unusual. People have to actually set aside time to walk in the U.S. In many other countries in the world, walking is a normal part of life - you walk to and from work, to and from the grocery store, to and from the doctor's office, to and from a friend's house. You get your daily exercise (and your plate of pasta!) without considering it exercise.

    In the U.S. the distances are so great that you need transportation for everything. So yeah, walking is something you do because you have to carve out an hour or more from an already full day and most are unwilling to do so.

    and in the area of South Jersey where I live, when I had a 23-mile commute to work I really didn't have 5 hours per day to carve out to commute to that job lol. And now I drive a school bus for a living. Bear in mind not all of us live in the city...NJ Pine Barrons over here..
  • miadhail
    miadhail Posts: 383 Member
    bah, at least yours turned away politely, mine went up to my face with distrustful faces and said, "You must be kidding, C'mon, tell me your secret! What pill?!"

    To which I just tell them to eff off. I just told them my "secret" which is to eat reasonably and exercise, yet they don't believe.

    Okay, i don't really tell them to eff off, I just smile, underneath that smile of course spells eff off.
  • MaraDiaz
    MaraDiaz Posts: 4,604 Member
    I come across it all the time. People ask me about Shakeology and when I tell them that even the makers of Shakeo recommend they exercise 3 times per week minimally they're like "oh" and you see their face fall. When I tell them that's how I've maintained my 70-lb weight loss for over 20 years they're like "oh" and you see their face fall. So you let them keep trying it their way...eventually they come back and say "I'm doing this, that and the other and can't lose the weight" so you ask them "are you exercising?" and they say "no" and that's when I say "let me know how that's working for you". I'm not trying to be cynical about it but, hey, I'm a Jersey Girl after all lol.

    Some people have to learn the hard way that there's no quick fix! Sure, they may lose, but 2 years from now when that weight bounces back....

    Just keep leading by example! If they want what you have, they'll do what you do!

    Yup. And for low carbers like me, if you read Dr. Atkins' book, it says you are not really doing Atkins if you don't exercise. Sad but true.
  • MaraDiaz
    MaraDiaz Posts: 4,604 Member
    bah, at least yours turned away politely, mine went up to my face with distrustful faces and said, "You must be kidding, C'mon, tell me your secret! What pill?!"

    To which I just tell them to eff off. I just told them my "secret" which is to eat reasonably and exercise, yet they don't believe.

    Okay, i don't really tell them to eff off, I just smile, underneath that smile of course spells eff off.

    You seriously missed a chance to make some easy money by manufacturing a batch of 'miracle' pills yourself.
  • miadhail
    miadhail Posts: 383 Member
    bah, at least yours turned away politely, mine went up to my face with distrustful faces and said, "You must be kidding, C'mon, tell me your secret! What pill?!"

    To which I just tell them to eff off. I just told them my "secret" which is to eat reasonably and exercise, yet they don't believe.

    Okay, i don't really tell them to eff off, I just smile, underneath that smile of course spells eff off.

    You seriously missed a chance to make some easy money by manufacturing a batch of 'miracle' pills yourself.

    So that's how these companies do it.. the real secret in their pills is that small written part where it says, "to be taken with a strict exercise regime and caloric control". oh these smart businessmen.

    Wanna partner up and come up with miracle pills? Make them into the consistency of jawbreakers?
  • RobynMWilson
    RobynMWilson Posts: 1,540 Member
    It always makes me sad when I hear people talk like this......Yes, there will be some effort, yes you will sweat, yes you will be short of breath......for a little while. Then the rest of your day takes on a whole new shine! I have pretty much come to the conclusion that I can exercise every day for a minimum of 30 minutes, or I can be on an anti-depressant. It makes that much of a difference for me! Plus I have greater flexibility, mobility, I feel rejuvenated and de-stressed! Just keep on shining girl and let the new you do the advertising! You don't have to win them over. Sooner or later they are going to be desperate for the fresh beginning that you have!

    I, too, would be on anti-depressants I'm sure if I didn't exercise. When I cracked my rib and couldn't work out for a month I was ready to throw myself under my bus and have someone run me over. I also made a horrible life-changing decision in that time to leave my job for another one b/c I was just NOT in my right mind! I have a new rule that I am not to make any major decisions if I can help it if I'm forced into a period of inactivity like an injury, or when I have PMS lol
  • MaraDiaz
    MaraDiaz Posts: 4,604 Member
    bah, at least yours turned away politely, mine went up to my face with distrustful faces and said, "You must be kidding, C'mon, tell me your secret! What pill?!"

    To which I just tell them to eff off. I just told them my "secret" which is to eat reasonably and exercise, yet they don't believe.

    Okay, i don't really tell them to eff off, I just smile, underneath that smile of course spells eff off.

    You seriously missed a chance to make some easy money by manufacturing a batch of 'miracle' pills yourself.

    So that's how these companies do it.. the real secret in their pills is that small written part where it says, "to be taken with a strict exercise regime and caloric control". oh these smart businessmen.

    Wanna partner up and come up with miracle pills? Make them into the consistency of jawbreakers?

    We could, but without lobbyists to placate the proper officials we might end up in prison trading weight loss secrets to other inmates for toilet paper and cigarettes.
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