Shoving Your Body In Their Faces

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  • MizKittyB
    MizKittyB Posts: 47 Member
    I don't generally have a list of folks, but it's always gratifying to tell my mom to back off on the weight comments - she's overweight and trying to lose, too, so it gets old, fast.

    I would like to build more muscle tone and then run into my ex. He did a fabulous job of being emotionally and physically withholding, not to mention sabotaging any weight loss efforts I made. (Then again, that whole family needs a whole lotta therapy.) So it would be fun to show off the fact I can wear skinny jeans now, and in another few months, I'll have a bikini physique. ;)

    [Getting hit on is weird, though - I have never quite mastered how to respond to unwanted advances with anything more than flustered good manners. But that's a topic for another day.]
  • slkehl
    slkehl Posts: 3,801 Member
    I would like to "shove it" to my ex, but I'd actually rather never see him again. And part of me knows that him finding me attractive could potentially get complicated and I just don't trust myself. So I'd rather look like crap around him and have him be not interested so there's no chance in that train wreck of a relationship flaring up again,
  • OliveCarsey
    OliveCarsey Posts: 78
    My ex's wife- he was horrible to me when I gained weight after our daughter was born- a few years after I left him he met her, she was the same size I was after having my daughter and she didn't have kids (she has $$$- my ex is very very shallow) she commented once at one of my daughters school programs that she would never let herself gain and keep on weight when she got preg- two kids later and she gained weight and kept it on- i gained more weight with and after my second child so we were still about the same size- she would constantly say snide things to my daughter about my weight and how I looked- it's only been 16 pounds but everyone has noticed- including my ex!!!!! And best of all- he asked me to share my "secret" weight loss tips with his wife. I don't really care how what anyone thinks of me or how they see me BUT every 2 weeks seeing the look on her face is great- a week ago was THE best my daughter made a HUGE HUGE deal of me needing to buy new smaller jeans. I know I know I am so not nice.
  • auntdeedee87
    auntdeedee87 Posts: 706 Member
    I don't generally have a list of folks, but it's always gratifying to tell my mom to back off on the weight comments - she's overweight and trying to lose, too, so it gets old, fast.

    I would like to build more muscle tone and then run into my ex. He did a fabulous job of being emotionally and physically withholding, not to mention sabotaging any weight loss efforts I made. (Then again, that whole family needs a whole lotta therapy.) So it would be fun to show off the fact I can wear skinny jeans now, and in another few months, I'll have a bikini physique. ;)

    [Getting hit on is weird, though - I have never quite mastered how to respond to unwanted advances with anything more than flustered good manners. But that's a topic for another day.]

    Okay, do you like jewelry?

    Wear a ring. Any ring, all the time. Preferably on your left hand big someone hits on you and you're totally sleazed out, you flip it around so it looks like a wedding band and say, "sorry, my husband is in the car and he doesn't like to share."
  • Cait_Sidhe
    Cait_Sidhe Posts: 3,150 Member
    There is no one I would want to do this to, but no one has ever been unkind to me because of my weight.

    Once again, I will quote The Buddha: "Holding onto anger is like picking up a hot coal with the intent of throwing it at someone else. You are the one who gets burned."

    I understand that these people have hurt you, but taking the high road and being the better person always makes me feel better than being smug or petty.
    This X 1 million. While I have been teased about various things most of my life, I have zero interest in revenge. Revenge is not something that is part of my mindset. I'm not like the people who teased me, and I'm quite happy about that.
  • cal_73
    cal_73 Posts: 77
    I didn't know what to expect with this thread.... the OP can shove her body in my face any day!

    (someone had to say it)
  • peuglow
    peuglow Posts: 684 Member
    Being an a**hole today to people who were mean to you yesterday only shows that you were an a**hole before you lost weight. Now you're just showing it.


    Let's be honest, we all have been teased, slighted, marginalized, etc. How we deal with it when we're no longer in that state reveals more about our character than we care to let on.
  • AddieOverhaul
    AddieOverhaul Posts: 734 Member
    I'm doing this for me but...

    While I would prefer not to run into my ex, I do run at the beach by his apartment so it could happen pretty easily. After we moved in together he became verbally and emotionally abusive and often commented on my weight (even though he met me at my heaviest and I know found me very attractive). When he was mad he would go there because he knew it hurt me. So I dumped the loser, but had to live with him for one month before I could move. It was AWFUL. He kept calling me fat and saying I looked pregnant. Then one night he actually made the comment, "It would be really hard for me to run into you in the future if you lose weight and are looking good, especially if your boobs stay big."

    Obviously he was a shallow pig but anyway...I have lost 41 pounds so far and the boobs haven't hardly gone down at all. I would feel pretty darn satisfied if I ran into him and showed him exactly what he's missing!

    Sidenote: he would harass me about my weight but bring me candy and ice cream every night even when I asked him not to. WTF?
  • lildevil968
    lildevil968 Posts: 152 Member
    A year back, My ex-boyfriend dumped me for gaining weight after being put on medication for rectifying a hormone defect I had. He was really mean about it. He told me that he wouldn't introduce me to his parents or acknowledge me as his girlfriend if I won't lose weight. He also told me that I was too lazy to do anything about my weight because other girls my age would kill to look thin. I must say that at this point, I was starving myself and still not losing weight. My ex knew that I had a medical condition but made it a point to constantly tell me that I was taking it as an excuse and not doing anything about my body. Now that I look back, I can see that I sticked with him because I had zero self-esteem and needed his approval.

    I was taken off medication about 2 months back and now, I have started losing weight quite nicely:happy: So, ever since I have started appearing leaner and prettier in my FB pics, I have been getting lots of compliments from my friends and *ahem ahem* mutual friends of my ex. Few days back, my ex started messaging me. It included "Dudette, You look different" "Have you lost weight" "I wish I could turn back time" "I wish we were together"....Long story short, Let's say that my ex is pissed because I have been turning him down ever since :laugh:

    That's my favourite 'Shoving Your Body In Their Faces' Story :happy: :devil:

    This makes me so sad for you :cry:
  • reneecgc
    reneecgc Posts: 179 Member
    For me it is awkward seeing anyone who I have not seen in awhile. If they don't say anything about my weight loss you know
    they want to. I am going to see people around the holidays that I have not seen in awhile, so I know I will be talking a lot about
    working out and nutrition. I know I look healthy so I feel confident with whomever I run into from my past.
  • FitandFab33
    FitandFab33 Posts: 718 Member
    I didn't know what to expect with this thread.... the OP can shove her body in my face any day!

    (someone had to say it)

    Haaa... I laughed, then blushed a bit. :-)
  • FitandFab33
    FitandFab33 Posts: 718 Member
    I actually pretty much agree with you here. It's a flaw that I'd like to correct. Kind of.

    I'd love to not care/think about the people who have hurt and broken me down.. but I still do. I know that moving forward in a happy healthy way will require growing past the PAST.
  • HetherKate
    HetherKate Posts: 4
    I just found out that my ex is seeing someone new. I am happy that he is moving on but I still can't wait for that time I will run into him looking great. I put on a bit of weight when we were together because I stopped going out and was happier sitting on the couch with him and I also started "eating like a man" as we ate together most nights. Now I am getting rid of the weight (and him) forever :D
  • HetherKate
    HetherKate Posts: 4
    A year back, My ex-boyfriend dumped me for gaining weight after being put on medication for rectifying a hormone defect I had. He was really mean about it. He told me that he wouldn't introduce me to his parents or acknowledge me as his girlfriend if I won't lose weight. He also told me that I was too lazy to do anything about my weight because other girls my age would kill to look thin. I must say that at this point, I was starving myself and still not losing weight. My ex knew that I had a medical condition but made it a point to constantly tell me that I was taking it as an excuse and not doing anything about my body. Now that I look back, I can see that I sticked with him because I had zero self-esteem and needed his approval.

    I was taken off medication about 2 months back and now, I have started losing weight quite nicely:happy: So, ever since I have started appearing leaner and prettier in my FB pics, I have been getting lots of compliments from my friends and *ahem ahem* mutual friends of my ex. Few days back, my ex started messaging me. It included "Dudette, You look different" "Have you lost weight" "I wish I could turn back time" "I wish we were together"....Long story short, Let's say that my ex is pissed because I have been turning him down ever since :laugh:

    That's my favourite 'Shoving Your Body In Their Faces' Story :happy: :devil:

    This makes me so sad for you :cry:

    This makes me happy not sad, YOU GO GIRL!!! Nobody needs people like that in their lives, you shake your sexy thing in his face and he will have to live with being a jerk (without you):laugh:
  • wrevhn
    wrevhn Posts: 864 Member
    I would love to be hot enough to strut. I have a few reasons that prob don't sound fab out loud.

    One though,...


    my ex said that cause I had one arm, I could never be a trophy wife. who would want a one armed trophy wife.

    while no ones goal should be to be one, I want to be hot enough to look like I could be.


    I do not like ppl saying I can't do something. It pisses me off.
  • FitandFab33
    FitandFab33 Posts: 718 Member
    I would love to be hot enough to strut. I have a few reasons that prob don't sound fab out loud.

    One though,...


    my ex said that cause I had one arm, I could never be a trophy wife. who would want a one armed trophy wife.

    while no ones goal should be to be one, I want to be hot enough to look like I could be.

    You are gorgeous.. I would consider you a "trophy" anyday. Your ex is obviously a douche-canoe.
  • Louisianababy93
    Louisianababy93 Posts: 1,709 Member
    I got to laugh in my ex's face when he tried to talk to me at my cousins bonfire a week before Halloween! hahaha, he just though he was about to talk to me... and he opened his mouth and started talking and all i could do was laugh and say,"dude seriously! no"
    needless to say, MISSION COMPLETE!!
  • wrevhn
    wrevhn Posts: 864 Member
    I would love to be hot enough to strut. I have a few reasons that prob don't sound fab out loud.

    One though,...


    my ex said that cause I had one arm, I could never be a trophy wife. who would want a one armed trophy wife.

    while no ones goal should be to be one, I want to be hot enough to look like I could be.

    You are gorgeous.. I would consider you a "trophy" anyday. Your ex is obviously a douche-canoe.


    well thank you so much! :flowerforyou:

    Its always nice to know someone thinks that.

    I think all women have a little "words of affirmation" love language in them. We like hearing that we are pretty. Why? men are visual creatures (as discussed in another post) and we put work into looking nice. Even if its just all the shaving/tweezing/waxing (some girls are less girly, but unless butch, they at least do that). I think we are the more delicate sex and we need to feel that way. Being considered pretty is one of those. Now, I realize there are the more masculine ladies who compete with men, there are always exceptions. But there is usually a reason behind it all.


    I'm gabby tonight. shutting up.

    nice legs dear!
  • FitandFab33
    FitandFab33 Posts: 718 Member
    I would love to be hot enough to strut. I have a few reasons that prob don't sound fab out loud.

    One though,...


    my ex said that cause I had one arm, I could never be a trophy wife. who would want a one armed trophy wife.

    while no ones goal should be to be one, I want to be hot enough to look like I could be.

    You are gorgeous.. I would consider you a "trophy" anyday. Your ex is obviously a douche-canoe.


    well thank you so much! :flowerforyou:

    Its always nice to know someone thinks that.

    I think all women have a little "words of affirmation" love language in them. We like hearing that we are pretty. Why? men are visual creatures (as discussed in another post) and we put work into looking nice. Even if its just all the shaving/tweezing/waxing (some girls are less girly, but unless butch, they at least do that). I think we are the more delicate sex and we need to feel that way. Being considered pretty is one of those. Now, I realize there are the more masculine ladies who compete with men, there are always exceptions. But there is usually a reason behind it all.


    I'm gabby tonight. shutting up.

    nice legs dear!

    Thank you! :-) And you are right about the "language of the lady"... and the innate desire to be/feel beautiful and perceived as beautiful!
  • BehindBlueEyes988
    BehindBlueEyes988 Posts: 433
    I don't necessarily strut my stuff, but I do kinda get a sick satisfaction from all the girls who use to relentlessly mock me in middle and high school for my weight issues back then, and how I look now. I don't have great confidence by far, but still. I'm not the same stubby, chubby girl I was then. I've grown and leaned out, and I really do laugh when these same girls are crying about their guy of the month leaving them for another carbon copy of them. I'd rather be curvy and unique than a carbon copy of those girls.
  • FitandFab33
    FitandFab33 Posts: 718 Member
    I don't necessarily strut my stuff, but I do kinda get a sick satisfaction from all the girls who use to relentlessly mock me in middle and high school for my weight issues back then, and how I look now. I don't have great confidence by far, but still. I'm not the same stubby, chubby girl I was then. I've grown and leaned out, and I really do laugh when these same girls are crying about their guy of the month leaving them for another carbon copy of them. I'd rather be curvy and unique than a carbon copy of those girls.

    I've learned a little about myself and the carbon copy barbies. There was this girl, a friend of my ex fiance's (actually she was the wife of his best friend). She was a pretty, petite little blonde thing with big boobs and a small waist and she strut her stuff everywhere. But she was an awful person. She cheated on her husband (and not just the time she and my ex fiance hooked up), she talked bad about every 'friend' she had, and she played herself out to be a total ditz. I now understand WHY she acts the way she does/did- she's horribly insecure. I always had this bad taste in my mouth/hint of jealousy or something for her- until I figured her out. I'm 5'11''- I will never be that tee-tiny little blonde thing.. but I can sure as hell be a giant, long-legged, CONFIDENT woman and own that. The rest of them, I'm working on getting past. It's going to take some time and soul-searching. :-) And every 200+ lb squat gets me a little closer. Oh, empowerment. :-)
  • BBehnke84
    BBehnke84 Posts: 537 Member
    I didn't know what to expect with this thread.... the OP can shove her body in my face any day!

    (someone had to say it)

    LMAO! What he said...kudos to saying what others were thinking
  • ginandchocolate
    ginandchocolate Posts: 72 Member
    My soon to be ex-husband can facking shove it
  • KmusicheartBTS
    KmusicheartBTS Posts: 39 Member
    Sound like good motivators, although unfortunately with a bad taste in your mouth, as your exes seem to have cast a negative shadow in your life. I wish I had the same motivator - show it off to someone, who would care. Right now I just have some people, whom I want to surprise in a pleasant way, like, getting in shape to fit into my swimsuit and go to a water park :-)

    Ev
  • BBehnke84
    BBehnke84 Posts: 537 Member
    Ex- wife who divorced me while I was deployed....and ex girlfriend who was a lying wh**e and cheated on me multiple times
  • FitandFab33
    FitandFab33 Posts: 718 Member
    Ex- wife who divorced me while I was deployed....and ex girlfriend who was a lying wh**e and cheated on me multiple times

    Wow. Sounds like they both need a swift kick to the naughty bits. With stilettos. :laugh:
  • BBehnke84
    BBehnke84 Posts: 537 Member
    Ex- wife who divorced me while I was deployed....and ex girlfriend who was a lying wh**e and cheated on me multiple times

    Wow. Sounds like they both need a swift kick to the naughty bits. With stilettos. :laugh:


    Bahaha...couldn't agree more
  • JenMcCrory
    JenMcCrory Posts: 105 Member
    There is no one I would want to do this to, but no one has ever been unkind to me because of my weight.

    Once again, I will quote The Buddha: "Holding onto anger is like picking up a hot coal with the intent of throwing it at someone else. You are the one who gets burned."

    I understand that these people have hurt you, but taking the high road and being the better person always makes me feel better than being smug or petty.

    I love that quote I am committing it to memory now :flowerforyou:
  • BehindBlueEyes988
    BehindBlueEyes988 Posts: 433
    I don't necessarily strut my stuff, but I do kinda get a sick satisfaction from all the girls who use to relentlessly mock me in middle and high school for my weight issues back then, and how I look now. I don't have great confidence by far, but still. I'm not the same stubby, chubby girl I was then. I've grown and leaned out, and I really do laugh when these same girls are crying about their guy of the month leaving them for another carbon copy of them. I'd rather be curvy and unique than a carbon copy of those girls.

    I've learned a little about myself and the carbon copy barbies. There was this girl, a friend of my ex fiance's (actually she was the wife of his best friend). She was a pretty, petite little blonde thing with big boobs and a small waist and she strut her stuff everywhere. But she was an awful person. She cheated on her husband (and not just the time she and my ex fiance hooked up), she talked bad about every 'friend' she had, and she played herself out to be a total ditz. I now understand WHY she acts the way she does/did- she's horribly insecure. I always had this bad taste in my mouth/hint of jealousy or something for her- until I figured her out. I'm 5'11''- I will never be that tee-tiny little blonde thing.. but I can sure as hell be a giant, long-legged, CONFIDENT woman and own that. The rest of them, I'm working on getting past. It's going to take some time and soul-searching. :-) And every 200+ lb squat gets me a little closer. Oh, empowerment. :-)

    Exacctllyy!! Genetics can equate to the twiggy little girl, but only gut and determination can make you lean and fit! The term skinny fat exists for a reason! I bet we can quite literally run circles around these girls!
  • kimad
    kimad Posts: 3,010 Member
    A year back, My ex-boyfriend dumped me for gaining weight after being put on medication for rectifying a hormone defect I had. He was really mean about it. He told me that he wouldn't introduce me to his parents or acknowledge me as his girlfriend if I won't lose weight. He also told me that I was too lazy to do anything about my weight because other girls my age would kill to look thin. I must say that at this point, I was starving myself and still not losing weight. My ex knew that I had a medical condition but made it a point to constantly tell me that I was taking it as an excuse and not doing anything about my body. Now that I look back, I can see that I sticked with him because I had zero self-esteem and needed his approval.

    I was taken off medication about 2 months back and now, I have started losing weight quite nicely:happy: So, ever since I have started appearing leaner and prettier in my FB pics, I have been getting lots of compliments from my friends and *ahem ahem* mutual friends of my ex. Few days back, my ex started messaging me. It included "Dudette, You look different" "Have you lost weight" "I wish I could turn back time" "I wish we were together"....Long story short, Let's say that my ex is pissed because I have been turning him down ever since :laugh:

    That's my favourite 'Shoving Your Body In Their Faces' Story :happy: :devil:

    And I hope you tell him where to shove it LOL!!! He doesn't deserve a second of your time. I gained over 80lbs when I was pregnant and I was never made to feel ugly or fat.. I did that to myself, no man ever did.

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