well that was just uncalled for...

Awwww, she was disappointed with herself. Don't say anything. Just hold her while she cries, tell her you love her, tell her she's beautiful.

Awwww, she was disappointed with herself. Don't say anything. Just hold her while she cries, tell her you love her, tell her she's beautiful.

^^ Or maybe TOM?? That was soo sweet your reply though!

Awwww, she was disappointed with herself. Don't say anything. Just hold her while she cries, tell her you love her, tell her she's beautiful.

THIS**

It probably wasn't what you said. She's just disappointed.

A few years ago I was part of a weight loss program - they separated the women and the men into 2 support groups. Me being a woman and in the women's group - us ladies were working so hard... tracking food, working out, drinking water - doing everything right to loose 0.5#'s each week when the guys were loosing 2 - 6 #'s per WEEK. Pure physical make-up and biology at work!

Just be yourself and talk through it! This is small stuff!

I have food allergies and some health concerns... I look at my body as a fine luxury race car that takes special food and care. My husband on the other hand... he's a beater car - he can eat ANYTHING he wants and never gains weight. It's not fair but it is what it is!

Just tell her that a pound in two weeks is good for a lot of people. And guys lose weight easier. Or something. Both are true kind of. BUT LIE IF YOU HAVE TO. LIE!

Anyway, just tell her that she looks great and you love her.

Awwww, she was disappointed with herself. Don't say anything. Just hold her while she cries, tell her you love her, tell her she's beautiful.

^
Some of the times I realized I love my BF the most is when he doesn't take offense to me if I happen to misstep/say something out of anger or frustration. He just forgives me, knowing I was just upset, and we move on. It takes a lot of heart to do that but it doesn't go unnoticed.

LOL @ you trying to be logical with an upset woman.

Go with "Sex burns (whatever the number is) calories..lets lose 10 pounds together this week!

Tell her that still more than your girlfriend lost.

LOL @ you trying to be logical with an upset woman.

^ Yup! My husband gave up trying to be logical with me when I'm upset. He just hugs me, tells me I'm hot, smacks my rear, and it's all better ...... Most of the time it's all better

Tell her that still more than your girlfriend lost.

^ This one made me laugh pretty hard.

She wanted you to validate her feelings, no matter how irrational they seem. Feelings are irrational. Your response made her feel like you don't care how she feels.

I'm not saying she's not overreacting; (she is, big time). I'm also not saying it's your fault she feels this way (it's not!), or that you could have predicted what her response would be.

Something like, "I'm sorry, I didn't realize how upset you were. Do you want to talk?" and then if she does, just listen and nod, try to restate what you think she's feeling rather than solve her problem. Things like, "That sounds frustrating." or "I can see why that makes you upset." Then, once she calms down, hit her with some gentle reason. "You've been working very hard," "The scale doesn't always tell the whole story." And then some validating stuff, "I'm sorry you're not happy with your weight loss, but I think you're beautiful."

And next time, "I'm sorry you didn't lose as much as you wanted to, but I think you're beautiful." will go a long way.

I would like to say...ooohhh sparkles...(I so hate ADD)

If I had a dollar for every time I got distracted.

....I want some ice cream

That is the EXACT moment you should've asked if you were going to get laid tonight.