Husband sabotage

Yes, I had the same issue. I gave him a half truth - I told him, "My doctor told me that I have to lose 100lbs or he is concerned that I will have diabetes and high blood pressure and that it is not good for my joints and cholesterol to be this big". Not quite a lie, but my doctor didn't actually say it. Then when he said, I was fine, I asked him if he wanted me to have a heart attack? Of course the answer was no and therefore could justify my losing weight! Hope this helps.

Good on you!!

My partner brought me home a snack wrap, then a cheeseburger, then a panzerotti and finally I lost it and said "I didnt lose 45lbs by eating that junk!! If you want to "include" me in a tasty snack, call me first or grab me some berries!! (That was when the berries were super winter expensive)

She was upset, but it was her way of trying to reward me and not make me feel like I'm missing out etc. She didn't understand how frustrating it was to be faced with a food challenge at every turn. I just explained to her that it hurts more to have the food waved under my nose and to have to say NO than it does to not have it at all. Now she gets her tasty snacks and eats them before she gets home. (Lucky brat!)

They truly are motivated by love - the just don't understand that its sabotage

If you've already explained to him that this is for YOU and to prove to YOURSELF you can do it and he doesn't get it, then don't worry about him!! My boyfriend, in the beginning, would say I didn't need to lose weight even though it's clear I did/do but now he encourages me and tells me how great I'm doing and how he can tell a difference. I think eventually, your husband will come around. Once he realizes how successful you are and how much he can't keep his hands off you...he won't complain anymore. :P Hang in there, sweetie!! Don't let him get you down. Like you said, this is for you, so don't let anyone tell you differently.

Good for you, you should do this for YOU. Looks like you are a new mom too, so it is also important for you husband to understand that in completing this goal for yourself, you will be more healthy and a good role model for your daughter as well. He should at least understand that. While he may think you are fine the way you are, he should still be supportive towards you and your goal. Although you are focusing on losing weight, put the focus as far as he is concerned more on becoming healthy... which includes a healthy diet and exercise (which of course in turn usually equals weight loss). There is an underlying reason he is sabotaging you, he is scared. Give him no reason to fear it, only reasons to be excited for your awesome journey, hard work, and dedication. You can do it!!

I been there. My husband was similar, he wanted me to lose the weight but didn't want to work with me ie. eat the foods that I make (since of course I do all of the cooking in the house) watch our daughter while I exercised and so on. But now that I've lost as much weight as I have he's a little more on board... although he's openly said he's afraid I'll leave him. Yes men are dumb, lol. no offense men reading!!

Now I have my husband on here b/c he needs to GAIN weight, lol... he has one of those metabolisms us women dream of... he consumes anywhere from 2500 to 4000 calories of healthy and crap foods a day, and weighs *drum rolls please* the same as me, 150 pounds.. the man's 6'2"

You just need to figure out a way to explain that this is for you, your sanity, your happiness and in turn both of his, in a way that he'll understand. Ya know, talk about how he'd like to overhall his truck, yea it looks nice now, but imagine new tires, new rims, a hood scoop and a new paint job! lol.. best of luck to you! The key is to not let him bother you, I know it's hard but please keep the motivation and determination. If your happy, he'll in turn be happy that your happy. Don't let him be selfish when it comes to your feelings.

My ex did the same exact thing to me! He wasn't the cook of the relationship and he refused to eat anything healthy. By the time I was really into my diet I was literally cooking two completely seperate one person meals, which I'm sure you all know is a lot of work on top of school and a full time job. Finally after the constant, 'you dont need to do this', i quit. I quit and I was unhappy again. About 5 months later we were broken up, he was moving across the country, and I was fat and alone. If only I had done it for me, and kept it up for me, I would have at least had my own self confidence to fall back on. Luckily, my sister was getting married in the next 2 months otherwise I know I wouldve eaten myself into another 20-30 lbs. My sister's wedding saved me. I took all the built up aggression and self hatred and shed 20 lbs instead. Now i've gained back the weight and that's why I'm here but this time I'm doing it healthy, and for myself. I am still single, 10 months later, but I'm really happy. And i'm proud of myself for what I've been doing. And i'm accomplishing things for me. If you're spouse can't respect the fact that you want to look good for you then he's just going to have to agree to disagree and stay out of your way. You deserve to do this for you. Is he overweight? Maybe he feels left out? You could always see if he would like to join you on your journey. And if that's not good enough then it definitely could be a jealousy thing. But if I could give you one piece of advice throughout this it would be, the more weight you lose, the more affectionate you should be with your spouse. That way its a win-win-win. He will realize that you are more confident and at the same time that you are not going anywhere and also it will help him be more supportive. KEEP UP THE GOOD WORK! DO NOT LET A MAN GET YOU DOWN NO MATTER HOW MUCH YOU TWO HAVE TOGETHER, WE ALWAYS END UP WITH OURSELVES TO DEAL WITH. You will feel good when this is all over, and Man! You're gonna look great too!

My husband did this too. I finally sat down and nagged him until he broke down and told my why. He said that if I lose the weight (he thinks I am fine the way I am too) then other guys will be looking at me and I may leave him for someone else. I reassured him that I am doing this for me and the only one I want looking at me is him. I am not doing it for others to look at me like that. I just want to feel good about myself. He is now ok and supports me. Sometimes I see a look in his eyes and just reassure him again lol

Is your husband overweight? Definitely sounds like he insecure and this is more his issue than yours. I can't imagine my husband even attempting to sabotage my new way of life. He's very supportive. Although he tells me he loves me just the way I am... I want to be healthy. Plus, I know we'd both like to see me back to around the size I was when we first met. LoL

Luckily my fiance has been really supportive of me losing weight. He loves my body the way it is, but he also wants me to be healthy and happy.
You could tell your husband that you are losing weight so you don't develop diabetes, high blood pressure, ect. and so you have the energy to take care of your kids (I assume you have kids judging by your pic). Good luck becoming a teacher! 106% on an exam is really awesome!
Maybe your husband is worried that your accomplishments will outshine his and make him feel that what he does isn't good enough anymore. Kind of like when I get bitter when looking at the accomplishments of my friends on facebook. On one hand I am happy for them but I am also a little jealous.