So tired of starting over

Whats wrong with me...this week has been just hectic everyday I wake up I say I wont cheat today..and at the end of the day I'm beating myself up..since Monday I just been eating like I don't care...I'm 339lbs..I have gained 4lbs in a week and I'm just so angry. I am a stress eater I always have been and I just really need some help..my goal weight is 160 but my mini goal is to lose 10lbs first and celebrate that and then set another one. I just don't know i have 180lbs to lose that seems impossible but I'm so tired of being fat..need to be encouraged..this week has been rough..

embrace it as a change in lifestyle and not a short term diet and then there is no such thing as "cheating". just try to be on your calorie target more days than not, and try to keep your weekly and monthly totals on track, and then you have no reason to feel guilt or shame if you eat over your calories some days.

Hang in there. It WILL get better.

I don't know about you, but I've been failing miserably because of stress and pain. Food is my comfort. I'll be glad to "friend" you and maybe we can work through it together.

Mini goals are great to have! You need to just concentrate on your first one for now. I also think having MFP friends is a HUGE help! Try to make as many as you can. Find ones who will help motivate you. When I first started MFP, I did it on my own. I can't imagine that now. Also, make sure your diary is open. It has really helped me since I opened mine. I receive great tips. I also know everyone can read it and that keeps me from eating things I shouldn't. I also know that when I have a bad day and I go over on my calories, my friends will point out what I did right. We all have days (and weeks) that we don't do so well.

Please feel free to add me if you like. I hope next week is better for you.

Try to be kind to yourself in a a non-food way and say positive things to yourself. Small things make a big difference. I have those weeks where nothing goes right and seems like life throws lots of curve balls but hang in there -- you can do it!!! You are already on the right track!

Food doesn't really make you feel better...it ends up making you feel worse. Think back to when you started....all the reasons you decided to lose weight. Write them down...put them on your bathroom mirror...your refrigerator. Anywhere you need to see them.

Ten pound mini goals are very realistic. And the more you weigh, the faster your weight comes off for awhile. But its ultimately up to you. No one can stop you from putting food in your mouth. You have to want it more than anything.

I personally think that it just clicks one day and you just do it. I have done the yo-yo thing many times. Do good for couple weeks then fall off the wagon. Hate myself then go back to being old self. We were on a family vacation and we were walking by some shops and I saw a reflection of myself in the window and it clicked! I'm done looking like this! The day we got home I started. I have been doing MFP religiously since October 1st and have lost 20 lbs! I'm only about half way there but it's been easy. I get up and run every day and eating right has been easy too. Don't know what makes the CLICK go off in a person but I am glad it happened.

Stay positive and just go for it. You will have a hard day here and there but you can do it. You have a lot of people here for support so come here when you need it. Go get it Girl!

Whats wrong with me...this week has been just hectic everyday I wake up I say I wont cheat today..and at the end of the day I'm beating myself up..since Monday I just been eating like I don't care...I'm 339lbs..I have gained 4lbs in a week and I'm just so angry. I am a stress eater I always have been and I just really need some help..my goal weight is 160 but my mini goal is to lose 10lbs first and celebrate that and then set another one. I just don't know i have 180lbs to lose that seems impossible but I'm so tired of being fat..need to be encouraged..this week has been rough..

it sucks, and I feel your pain. I started out here 10 months ago at 228lbs--my highest weight ever, even higher than when I delivered any of my kids!

Try making little changes first--walk a little extra, drink one less pop, or one extra glass of water. Once you are used to that, then add another good habit.

when you feel munchy, and you KNOW it is a stress reaction, try doing something active instead. Or if you really just HAVE to eat, maybe it can be something that is not as bad for you--like carrots, popcorn, etc ( I have heard that crunching is calming)

I can be an emotional eater too. I swear I packed on 50lbs in about 5 years by self medicating my stress and depression--and my 'drugs' of choice are made by hershey and nestle. Now I try to get a solid 2 hours of cardio a week ( 30 minutes 4x a week) to work off some of the stress.

I started this in March and then again in Aug...and I just restarted 2 days ago....I am glad you shared your story..I thought I was the only one who tries hard, but seems to fail:( don't give up...

Maybe you start with a focus on something other than food. Set a goal of working out so many days or for so many minutes. Hit that goal and then set another mini goal. Food wise, start small. Focus on making better choices at a certain meal. After you have done this successfully for a week or two, go on to conquer a second meal and so on. Its all about making small changes that will build upon each other. Even just focus on drinking enough water. It will start to become natural and the weight will start to come off. I would also recommend focusing on measurements instead of weight, because you might not see weight changes but you might see inches change and you will want to see any progress you make so you dont get discouraged. This is a lifelong committment, not just a temporary one. We all have bad days, weeks and even months, but it is about pushing through them and not beating ourselves up. You will succeed. Just keep a positive attitude and everything else will follow.