Feel sad fat and ugly :(

Oh what a shame that your class didn't make you feel brilliant. You are already beautiful to the people that matter to you, and you've lost soooo much already! But if it makes you feel any better, I do belly dancing too and I always feel I dance like a fraggle! Has anything else changed that is making you feel low? Are you eating enough? I get really tearful if I haven't eaten enough calories.

I feel the same way sometimes. Just an overwhelming wave of depression and feeling fat. I hope you can pull yourself out of it because believe me, I know how detrimental it can be to your success. But you've lost 20kg! That's incredible! Just look back at where you came from and try to see where you are going

Sometimes I feel discouraged and dislike what I see in the mirror. It is during those times that I think about some of the more positive things around me. What a blessing to wake up in the morning and simply have the strength and stamina to even get through a belly dancing class! What is beautiful is the awareness that you have and perseverance to take steps to live a healthier lifestyle and the fact that you've already made really good progress. Hang in there, you can do this! Take Care!!

Great answer!! Everyone gets down, but dwelling on it usually makes it worse. I think one of the smartest things I've learned is if the body leads, the thoughts will follow. If I feel like crap, but force myself to still go to the gym, still do my errands, etc. etc. I end up feeling a whole lot better than if I sit around.

Getting something done, taking even one step toward your goal is a great feeling!

I've been belly dancing for two months & some thing that you need to understand, honey, is that belly dancers are MADE -- not born. Keep it up & you'll be fine. I still feel that way when doing grapevines to switch sides for hip lifts/ hip drops -- & I want to go pro, so imagine how I must feel?

Enjoy the dance, practice everyday, continue working hard, & one day you will be an amazing dancer with wonderful control, grace, & poise. I bet you look great while dancing!

Looking in the mirror & noticing that you're 'off' in your movements is actually a great skill, I would say. You'll be able to know what's wrong with how you move & fix it so that it looks proper. Take this as a learning opportunity, & never stop dancing. Good luck!

We all have our lows and our highs! It's called being human!! But the trick is to not let the bad days control your being! Put on dome good music and just go for a walk... Clear your head and get some extra endorphins!!

Tomorrow is a new day!! Deep breath... The funk will pass!!

NO YOU ARE NOT!!!! You are here and making a difference in your health and life! Get out and go for a walk and enjoy the crisp fall air and re-energize.....you can do this! Feel free to add me if you like - I can be a good cheerleader lol

Do something about it. Eat well,work out,smile and treat yourself. Then look into the mirror and feel proud that your doing something about it.

As title. Feeling really, really low about myself today, not upbeat or excited about the future like i have been.

Did my bellydancing class and felt like an uncordinated whale.

Honestly feel like if i went running tonight, someone would throw a bottle at my head because i am that ugly, fat and horrid.

Desperate

I felt this way especially when I started this journey. Amazingly I still feel this way at times even in maintenance when everyone tells me I shouldn't. We are all human. We have good days and bad days, all of our lives. The tools you find and use to get out of a funk will serve you the rest of your life, and you will always need them. I call it sharpening your sword for battle and you will always need to keep your blade sharp for the rest of your life. We may get to relax at times for a few moments, but life is a bit of work until the end.

There is nothing easy about this journey. Don't give up. Keep your eye on the prize. You do not have to be perfect to do this. You just have to have more good days than not. A bad day is not the end of the world. Tomorrow is a new day. Just pick it right up again. Be kind to yourself at all times and never beat yourself up.

Being on a calorie deficit is hard. You can't do this journey on will power alone. You must set up your environment for success. Have a team around you in your real life, not just online. Get trigger foods out of the house. It will take some sacrifice and it's not easy. You might have to say no to some social events sometimes.

Too many changes at once can be hard on some people. I've always eaten healthy so it easy for me to simply eat less. Eating at a calorie deficit is hard on people; even a small deficit puts your body in a state of flux with hormones and such. Everyone is different. Some people can handle a deeper calorie deficit than others, this is not right or wrong, it just is. Stress in your life affects your hunger hormones; lack of sleep, fatigue, job stress, family stress, financial stress, etc. Add in emotional eating issues and it gets even more complicated. Most people can only handle so much change/stress at once, they try to do too much and fail. Sometimes it might be a better strategy to eat at maintenance and make some small changes first, it really depends on how much stress you are taking in at the moment.


For me it's all about a calorie budget. I had less of a budget available when I was losing weight, more to spend now that I'm maintaining and all the tools I used for weight loss come into play for the rest of my life maintaining.

When you have accumulated excess fat, you have accumulated a debt. It is hard to pay off the debt (you have less calories to spend). If you are sitting next to someone your same gender and height and they are not overweight and you are, they get to eat more than you (have more calories to spend) because they are debt free. You have less calories to spend because you are paying off your debt.

Your young, and a great mom I bet. I know it can be hard to stay motivated to work out, for me I do better with keeping under my calorie goal then with working out. If I do well with my eating, I don't worry so much about working out or not. As I continue to lose the weight, I'll naturally get more into the fitness part, I'm sure you will too! Kellie

I know how you feel hun, the past 4 weeks have been terrible for me.. My fella of 2 years left me without reason, and got back with his self harming ex.. It's really put me down and my confidence is completely shattered.

Keep your head up, that's all you can do! It gets better, and all your effort will soon pay off. Feel free to add me, I'm on everyday, and offer support when needed :flowerforyou:

Did my bellydancing class and felt like an uncordinated whale.

That mental image is too much for me

thanks for the rest of your post, but there was no need for this bit x

i apologise, i never meant it in a bad way. Hope you are feeling better though.