How do you fight depression?

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  • anemoneprose
    anemoneprose Posts: 1,805 Member
    ckish: just want to highlight what you said, because it's so important - we have to do these things even if we don't feel like it. emotion follows action. such a good point.
  • Gidzmo
    Gidzmo Posts: 906 Member
    Background: Finances are hard right now and every payday is a struggle. I refuse to live like this forever and that is why i'm getting my bachelor's degree. It just feels mentally that this is never-ending struggle.

    Boots--our cat of 10 years. Was sick for 1 1/2 days. Next day he was gone--as in missing. His is a home boy and never leaves more than a few hours. He definitely does not miss multiple feeding times. We have searched and searched our house and neighbors with no luck. As soon as I realized the next morning he was gone, I felt in my heart that he went off to die. I have no idea what in the hell would take a cat so very fast like that but this is what we think.
    He was a good cat. He was the calmest cat I have ever seen, even as a kitten. He was living on the streets and starving. He was so skinny when he first came here. He was a cutie too with dark grey fur and four white boots. RIP Boots.

    Years ago, I had a bad reaction to a product I used for 2 1/2 years. Every since then, I get hit with depression every once in a while.

    I know what works for me. These include: hard physical labor, sunshine, if it is a light case-music.
    Do you guys have things that you do if you get depressed? I would love more ideas.

    Sorry to hear about Boots. We have two dogs here. Many of our previous dogs were strays or pound-puppies. When one of our dogs died or had to be put down, the other dogs knew it and grieved.

    I also deal with occasional depression. I've tried various medications, with so-so effects. Sometimes distraction works, or music, or cleaning. Sometimes I just need to curl up and sleep to feel better.
  • garyolson43
    garyolson43 Posts: 28 Member
    Depression is serious. You need to seek professional help. I have been hospitalized twice because of depression. Being Bi-Polar I can have either severe mania or severe depression. And with the depression you may have thoughts of harming yourself. I have tried many things over the years and I work very hard not to let this disorder interfere with my life. I am on Lamotrigine, Abilify and Carbamazepine. I take my psyche meds every day and since losing a lot of weight I have found that exercising helps a great deal. But the most important thing for me to do is see a psychotherapist. All it is is talk therapy. You get to unload and talk with someone who know what they are doing. Sure you can talk to friends or family but sometimes they says the wrong things. I have been told to "snap out of it" or "get over it". All that did was make my depression worst. So my advice is 1) seek professional help, 2) take meds as prescribed (if prescribed), 3) exercise and 4) see a therapist. When seeking professional help I don't mean from your primary doctor. Get a referral to see a Behavior Health Specialist. All these things have worked for me and MAY work for you.

    I realize that you are struggling a bit with your finance and the advice I just gave you can be costly but you must find a way. You metal health is just as important as your physical health. If you cannot do this because of your finances then do the exercising and find a good family member or friend to talk to. One thing about exercising I have become more charitable and often join in charities that sponsors walks or runs. These events make feel good about myself because I am helping someone and getting exercise at the same time.

    I wish you good luck! My very best to you....Gary
  • Zomoniac
    Zomoniac Posts: 1,169 Member
    Good exercise, whisky, pie and Pig Destroyer. Possibly ice cream. Chronic insomnia. That's what I do. Though it doesn't really work.
  • Good exercise, whisky, pie and Pig Destroyer. Possibly ice cream. Chronic insomnia. That's what I do. Though it doesn't really work.

    Add cheescake and i believe you will have the full recipe for success. :smile:
  • tubbyelmo
    tubbyelmo Posts: 415 Member
    So sorry about your cat, you were so kind to take Boots in and you shared 10 happy years.

    When I feel my depression is getting bad I settle down with my card making and get lost in my crafting for a while, or I tidy up any crafting mess I left behind the last time!

    Sometimes, I just need to let go and really cry, it's like a huge emotional release. This freaked my partner out totally when we first got together, he wasn't used to the sudden rush of emotions. I explained that handing me a tissue and giving me a cuddle was all that was required of him, and he's far better with that now.

    If all else fails I clean, move furniture around, and of course I end up with a tidy house which cheers me up anyway!

    All the very best, add me as a friend if you would like a MFPal in Scotland!
  • daybyday
    daybyday Posts: 537 Member
    Bump to print off for reference!!
  • ccpowers
    ccpowers Posts: 203 Member
    bump as well
  • More ideas--love this. Thanks!
    To those that can use this too, awesome! May some of the tips help you or the person you have in mind.
    :flowerforyou:

    Debbie
  • peej75
    peej75 Posts: 1 Member
    I have suffered from Anxiety and depression for the past few years. I literally woke up one day, had an anxiety attack at work for the first time in my life and it was a slippery slope from there. I went to my doctor who prescribed me anti-depressants - even though I told her that I didn't feel depressed, that something else had to be wrong because I have been happy and healthy with no anxiety issues for 33 years.. I took my first tablet that night and had every adverse side effect. So I never took another one and instead found an amazing naturopath who not only put me on some supplements such as Omega 3, Vit B and Magnesium, but she also sent me away for hormone testing. My hormone picture was all over the place and she said this is what was causing my anxiety.
    It has been a very long and slow road to recovery as I opted to work with the naturopath to balance my hormones through natural means, and I have over this time felt quite depressed and have seriously lost my confidence due to being unsure as to when the next anxiety attack was going to hit.
    In the past few years, as well as my naturopathic treatments I have found the following to really help me when I am feeling anxious or depressed:- Going for a walk with my dog, watching a funny movie, swimming in salt water and spending time in the sun. I have also recently discovered a treatment called Neurolink which has been AMAZING! My naturopathic treatment has balanced my hormones again :) and the Neurolink has really helped me to feel balanced again mentally and physically. My confidence is coming back and I am starting to recognise the old me - all without being on any drugs.
    I hope that you start to feel better soon. It is such a horrible feeling being bogged down in depression and I hope my post helps you to see that there can be some solutions that don't involve taking anti-depressents.
  • rebeccap13
    rebeccap13 Posts: 754 Member
    Making a to do list, if I have things that I need to get done all laid out then there's a sense of accomplishment when I can check it off my list. Working out was a big thing while I was going through a rough time, its a natural energy boost and gets the happy hormones flowing. Cleaned up my diet which helped because I wasn't feeling guilty about what I was eating anymore. Also started meal planning which made cooking healthier meals with lots of variety less stressful. Also, forcing myself to get out of the house too and soak up the sun as much as I can even in the winter months.
  • I know this way past your first post, but cleaning really helps. Other options are listen to music, dance around really weird, scream and sing loudly, if you can go for a long walk, do craft, look at old pictures and think of happy times, etc.

    I have suffered for years with depression and know how you feel. Meds are an option depending on your situation. Do seek the advice of someone you are close to that always helps too. Whatever you do don't be afraid to see someone such as an LPC (counselor), LCSW (Clinical Counseling Social Work), or a MA level psychologist. They do not prescribe, but they are mainly there to listen and help guide you through the stormy seas the Depression Monster likes to get you lost in. A lot of times you therapist can make a referral for you to see a psychiatrist for medication assessment (also available are Pharmacotherapy Advanced Practitioner Nurses, they work under psychiatrists). They often work hand and hand with each other during this process to make sure you are responding well. Everything is very confidential. If it is not and they are not treating you respect, then they are not following ethical guidelines.

    Please do not be afraid and REMEMBER YOU ARE NOT CRAZY. People often don't realize our "brains" get sick too just like any other part of our body.

    Through time you learn to adapt to the Depression Monster and his visits. When hes visits and tell him to get lost. Sometimes he wins though, but I know how to handle it. I usually find a nice comfy place, grab my favorite blanket, and tell the world I wish I wasn't in it and sleep it off. It took years to acquire this skill, it was not easy, but once you find a away, you'll do fine. I know I can always wake up in the morning knowing I am alive, wanted, loved, and have a purpose. My cousin fights the depression monster off by doing push ups...hehe...she has the great looking arms to prove it;)

    I wish you nothing but love, peace, and strength. It is a hard battle, but you can win. Please remember you are not alone:)
  • Great advice...
  • libbymcbain
    libbymcbain Posts: 206 Member
    I usually clean something that I've been putting off for a long-long time. If my family seems me down on my hands and knees in the closet, they know to leave me the F alone.

    It really helps when I'm done and can appreciate what I've done.

    Of course grief is different from depression. When my doberman died 2 years ago, I barely had the energy or motivation to get my usual day-to-day responsibilities done, and I'm sure you feel similar about your cat right now. Take care of you; losing a loved one is so hard!

    This. Grief is different from depression, although unrecognised it can lead to it.

    At the very least, give yourself some time to remember Boots and allow yourself to feel sad he has gone, and if you can, feel happy for the times that you had that were good with him. It would be better to look up the seven stages of grief and even to speak to someone about it.

    But normal depression? A long bath, massage my legs myself, watch old re-runs of a show I loved when younger (just now it's MASH, before it has been Friends), set a small task or home improvement and accomplish it (that is more for when you are on the mend), have a drink or a coffee with a friend, read a good book, take a few hours for me and do whatever I feel like at the time, meditate. And also, if it keep cropping up, look at the big stuff in life, where life is headed, see what the depression is telling me and take steps to change it. Sounds like you've got the big stuff covered- recognise how much you are doing for yourself through that, some people never get to that very mature place you are already at, so give yourself a lot of credit for it. Hope this helps.
  • JosephVitte
    JosephVitte Posts: 2,039
    I've had a lot of people in my life die, parents, best friend, many other friends, pets aren't a big deal too me, forgive me.


    When there's something else depressing me, I remember the people all over this earth that have it worse, seriously, this is what I do. For example, your finance's, you say it would be like this forever, good! So, even more so, for short term, think about the people who have so much less than you. Think of the people who can not afford food, period.. They eat out of dumpsters, and or, food lines, charitable places, homeless shelters. The more I realize that my situation isn't *kitten* compared to others, I become more grateful, and when your grateful, it's hard to be depressed. Also, do what your doing, talk about it.