Really Annoying NSV

well I think you look great. I don't see it. And personally I think it's how you feel that counts and your health, not how you look. I would say don't take it to heart. It's just perception.

I think it is a compliment when they mention that you have lost weight, but I do find it insulting if they say that you look gaunt or that you have lost too much weight. >_< That is indeed annoying.

We don't walk around with our scale weight, and body fat% plastered on our forehead (thank god) so people really just notice physical changes. And honestly, someone with your same scale weight and body fat%, and height can look very different (maybe even bigger). So it is a good thing when people notice

But yeah, "take no notice it is how you look that counts" is not really a good saying to go by. You should go by how you feel about yourself, your personal goals.

Personally, I have people noticing how much weight I have lost, and some who don't notice, I really just depend my NSVs on how well my clothes are fitting me, or the number of full push ups I can do now (lol, i can do three now!!). What people say vary, from person to person, and I have experienced people who try to sabotage and get me down..

So yeah, great job on your weight loss! Keep it up!

Really? They tell you it's how you look that counts? That's completely the opposite of what every after school special I ever saw said. They always told me it doesn't matter how you look, that it's what's on the inside that matters. I'm shattered now. SHATTERED!

Seriously, though, I think you look great, and if you were just doing this for other people, you never would have gotten so far. You're doing it for you, so unless you actually are underweight and unhealthy, screw them. Set your sights on your goals and block out everything else until you reach them!

I feel your pain. I've always been thin (Obviously not here to lose weight), and people constantly come up to me saying I'm too thin, I need to gain weight, I'm like a stick, etc. You wouldn't go up to someone overweight and say things like "oh, you're so round" or "you need to lose weight"! Why is there such a stigma? Why is this acceptable for someone thin?
Answer: It's not. I'm sorry you're dealing with this

Tell them maybe they're just too overweight. That will shut them up.

I hate people who think it's appropriate to bluntly call somebody 'too thin' unsolicited though you're clearly healthy.

I would say you look chiseled. Are those people saying it with good intention or otherwise?

The first Thanksgiving I spent with my family after I'd lost weight, my aunt became convinced that I was anorexic. Keep in mind that I had seen her at 4th of July earlier that year and had only lost a handful of additional weight between then and TDay. But she was so adamant about it that she talked to darn near every single one of my family members (never once said anything to me) about how sick I looked. She even called my mom a week later and berated her for not noticing how sick I was and turning a blind eye.

Now, luckily everyone in family knew I'd been counting calories, safely, with MFP and had been losing my weight slowly over the course of about 9 months at that point. So every last one of them stood up for me and basically told my aunt that she was crazy. But it actually caused a rift between her and the rest of the family that hasn't completely healed.

The kicker? At the time I weighed about 145 pounds, down from 185. At 5'5" that put me at just under the range of overweight on the BMI scale. And I hadn't been working out at all during that time, I wasn't extra lean from that weight being muscle mass. My aunt probably weighed less than me, or at least about the same, at the time. But it was all just skewed perspective from the weight I'd always been in her head. (I've been heavy since I was a teenager)

Ignore those people and focus on you being happy with how you look.

I would love to hear someone tell me I've lost too much weight. I'm not quite there yet.
One of the docs I worked with jokingly asked if I was anorexic. A DOCTOR jokingly asked that!

I'd bite my tongue off on that one! The nerve or some people. I think you look great. I could come up with some cruel replies but seriously, what if you were sick? My ex husband had gastric bypass and due to complications he dropped from 6'4" 400 lbs to 190 lbs. HE looked sickly but there was nothing he could do about it, he had to go back for a few procedures to correct the problem and he'll never be "normal" again. At least he's bounced back a little bit now to at least looking healthy. I intend on getting "too thin" myself then building up muscle in the right places. I carry all my weight in my bottom half and practically nothing in the top half. I'm HOPING I can thin out the bottom a little and work on strengthening the top so my collar bone doesn't jut out making me look malnourished in a tank top. I've run the gamut in the past 21 years being ill at 19 and weighing 90 lbs at 5'8", back then nobody told me I was too thin but someone asked my mother if I was on drugs!

I think a lot of it is perception too. When my friend lost a lot of weight, she looked SO THIN to me, but then I realized it's just because I'm so used to seeing slightly heavy or obese people. She's actually well within the healthy weight range for her height and frame; I'm just not used to seeing her or other people that small. It took me a long time to get used to it. I never told her she looked too small, but I worried every time I saw her until my brain adjusted. Maybe they're just surprised too? I'm sorry they say things like that. They should be proud of you!