Staying on track while partner eats whatever they want

I am blessed to have a wonderful and supportive boyfriend, but am having trouble with staying on track sometimes when we are together. We plan to eventually move in together and get married and I know this will be a life long challenge. I find when I'm alone I do very well, but when we are together at home or at restaurants I struggle.
Does anyone have tips for staying on track when you are around others who are eating and or drinking things you are trying to avoid?

I'm in the same boat as you are. What sucks the most is that he is always telling me what I'm supposed to do, while he does the exact opposite. It gets on my nerves more than the fact that he is a diet sabotour.

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I'm in the same boat. My husband eats whatever he wants and rarely works out, yet remains trim and toned (*shaking my fist*).

We eat VERY differently, so I do the cooking. I don't buy junk food and don't eat much processed food, so that helps. But, when he comes home with the kettle chips, I immediately grab a salad or fruit and peanut butter. When he grills steaks I ask him to throw on some chicken for me. It makes things a little complicated, but my weight loss is about ME and sheer willpower usually gets me away from the foods he eats.

My hubby does the cooking but I'll usually make a substitution for the side dish so he can have pasta or fries or whatever with his main protein, but I'll make a baked potato, veggies, or a big salad as my side. I also don't let him do up my plate so that I can weigh and measure and keep my portions down.

My husband and I always cook different things for dinner. That way, he gets what (and as much) as he wants, and I'm in total control of what I eat. This wouldn't work for everyone, as we don't have kids to cook for, but it really helps us. He doesn't eat lunch, so he has a large breakfast and a large dinner, whereas I eat smaller portions but much more often. Hope you're able to find a method that works for you!

Both of us find it hard to control weight/portions when eating out. Some say, just "box half" and eat the other half. It doesn't work great for us, because we're usually on our way to an event when we eat out, so the boxed food ends up sitting in the car for 3 hours. (Yuck.) So, in essence we'd end up wasting half. :grumble: As some have noted, though, I'd prefer being thinner to not wasting food.

It is very hard for me, b/c he can eat whatever. And I feel like he is not very supportive or someone that motovates me. Which makes being on this journey extremely difficult. Not having someone telling you good job when i work out, or anything really positive makes me fail a lot, and I just give up. I know I am not doing this for him. But support is still huge.

My DH is 6'0" 185, sits on his butt playing video games while I go work out, eats what he wants and drinks sodas and real sugar in his coffee, all day. He has health issues that limit his ability to workout and eat veggies( Crohn's, Rheumatoid Arthritis, and Fibromyalgia) We walk together a few times a week and he occasionally enjoys swimming. I put on a lot of my weight by not making adjustments for the fact that I cannot eat like him and I must workout hard to lose any weight. I don't crave salty snacks often so his snacks don't bother me, I just keep things here I can have if I want something and watch my portions. I cook at home quite a bit, most days I make a meat we can both have, a starchy side that he can have as much as he likes and I'll have a small serving, then I add a nice salad or steamed veggies for me. If I'm making stew or pasta sauce I augment mine with either salad or adding frozen spinach or veggies and a bit more unsalted chicken broth to a small portion. Eating out is not a problem, I actually like many of the healthier options and he is fine with me telling the waiter to only bring a few slices of bread or rolls to the table, not a basket full. Last night for example after Zumba I came home and made sauteed fish fillets, he made rice in our microwave cooker, while I heated up a steamer bag of spinach and couscous. Those steamer bags are my best friend for adding veggies to my meal. I will add he is very supportive of my goals, 90% of the time. If he is really wanting something that I like that is high in calories, he lets me know early in the day and I eat more veggies and less calorie dense foods early on and add extra gym time, so we can go and enjoy. I still monitor my portions, but I find ways to fit in our favorites without ruining my progress.

Substitutions! If he wants fast food I order the grilled chicken sandwich with mustard instead of mayo. If he wants pasta I make him noodles and spaghetti squash for myself. Try to find a similar food to what he's having, but a low calorie version so you don't feel deprived.

So glad it is not just my live in BF that does all of this!!!!!! He loves to cook and will always make out my plate and if I dont finish it he asks me if everything was okay. I cant believe I never thought about just making my own plate so we dont split 50/50.

Something I have learned is to not lean on him for a work out buddy. His wants to diet and go to the gym arent as strong as mine so he will be good for a few weeks then fall off the bandwagon, which causes me to fall off too. Now MFP is my workout buddy

Ah, yes. I live this, too.

I usually do the cooking, simply because I enjoy it. Since my transition back to low-carb, I have really stepped up the creativity with the vegetables. My BF is happy to eat what I make (usually lol) but sometimes he wants pasta, sandwich, etc. In that case, I'll tack that onto whatever else I'm making for myself. It's not a whole lot of work for me.

My BF is supportive of my changes, but not vocally so. It's more like he just doesn't mention it. This may be because he's watched me try and fail so many times at losing weight. He has his own weight and health issues, and I know I used to nag him endlessly about the soda and bags of chips... in the end, he makes his own choices. All I can do is suggest. I hope that he will see how much better I feel, and he'll join me on this journey.