too high cals MFP

It's healthier, and more maintainable, to lose slowly. Maybe if it's only a pound a month, you might want to speed things up a bit, but if you've got even a half a pound a week coming off regularly, I'd say stick with it! Why make things harder than they have to be!

It has taken me 10.5 months to lose 36.5 lbs so technically I'm not losing as fast as others on here either, but I'm still losing so who cares. If you don't like what YOU are doing, look to change it, but PLEASE...do not compare your journey to other peoples. We will always fail if we try to measure up to other people.

Have you tried cutting down a little for a few weeks? At your current weight I don't think it would hurt to try shaving another 250 or so off a day.. As you get closer to goal I would be more conservative then.

I'm 5'7 (male) started at 406lbs, now 370lbs. losing about a lb a week, though it can vary a little. I put low exercise as a base line but i log when i swim or do entle circuit training or walking (these are the main kinds i do). I just worry that it doesn't seem as good as other people, when people point out these people like 'this person is doing great, we should aspire to follow like them', those people always have lowers cals and bigger losses than me and it gets me thinking i might not be doing enough. i dont know.

Well looking at these numbers you could change your MFP goal to 2 pounds a week goal and be okay. As long as you are eating at or above your BMR and eating back exercise calories (but not all if you're not using a HRM the calulators online are WAY off) you should be fine. Your BMR using the MFP calculator is 2642. You can safely lower your intake to 2600 (rounding and estimation will cover the extra 42) and lose a little more per week.

BUT please don't get stuck comparing yourself to others. Compare yourself to where you were if you must....but not to others.

Who cares what it "looks like" it's a number and it's working for you. Everyone is different. Do what works for you. PERIOD.

Did you choose a higher activity level? MFP is set up to let you eat back alories from extra workouts so if you workout for weightloss 6 days a week and put your activity levler at the highest level then it's giving you the calories you need without asking you to log or eat back exercise calories. I put mine lower then log and eat back so that on days I rest I end up eating less calories.

^^ This!

Is that 3000 cal intake they post for you AFTER your exercises for the day? I do not follow that part. I only follow my regular daily calorie intake WITHOUT the additional calories they give us for exercising. I always feel thats the best way to do it. LIke yesterday i burned over 700 calories and only ate about 750 calories but it said i can eat more because i earned calories. Uh, no.... i stick with my daily 'average' calorie intake of no more than 1200.
do what works for you. if you feel the intake of 3000 calories is too much for you, and you are only losing like half a pound a week - eat less and see how things balance out for you. Maybe once you balance it out youll find what works for you. Once you get to that point where you are happy with your weight loss, stick with it. I mean obviously as you probably know you dont want to lose too fast but a pound to 1.5 pounds a week loss is perfect - even if you lose 2 pounds thats okay also.

Have you tried cutting down a little for a few weeks? At your current weight I don't think it would hurt to try shaving another 250 or so off a day.. As you get closer to goal I would be more conservative then.

yes, what amanda said. the higher the weight the more calories you can eat and still lose weight, you have the choice to easily stay there or drop more calories to lose faster, the rate you are losing at is better in the long run (as far as things like extra skin when you get to goal weight, the slower you lose the more time your skin has to adapt to this new shape) but ultimately the choice is yours, either way works, i am pretty active but i eat 3300+ calories a day, every day, and have maintained at this for about half a year now,(my weight has not been lower than 168 or higher than 172 in that time) so just because less calories is way more popular here doesn't mean people like me are not out there long story short, don't care what other people are doing if what you do works for you

I'm 5'7 (male) started at 406lbs, now 370lbs. losing about a lb a week, though it can vary a little. I put low exercise as a base line but i log when i swim or do entle circuit training or walking (these are the main kinds i do). I just worry that it doesn't seem as good as other people, when people point out these people like 'this person is doing great, we should aspire to follow like them', those people always have lowers cals and bigger losses than me and it gets me thinking i might not be doing enough. i dont know.

Screw other people. You are not other people. You are you.

I think 1lb a week is a good loss rate - *some* people do well eating very large deficits and losing very fast, but IMO they are the exception and not the norm. How many people do you know who went on a super low cal diet, lost a lot very fast, and then gained it all back immediately?

If you want to you can try some other calculators. I'll give you some links. I think 3k is good - that's your BMR according to the calculator I just looked at. I wouldn't eat less than that, but if you want to lose a little faster I would say go and do a little more exercise, rather than cutting your cals down.

When I cut too low I get hungry and tired and it makes me want to binge eat after a few weeks.

100000% agree. 95% of people regain lost weight--many of them are the people you describe, eating less and losing faster. Take your time, follow the plan and only change it if it stops working.

Agreed. Also, way to go on your weight loss so far!