How the eff does one approach an attractive women?

I find sidling up to them sideways and putting on your biggest, best puppydog eyes works a treat.

the first half of this statement had me thinking very different things than where you took it. good on you

not saying something weird or stupid works!

ive found too that the more attractive the girl=the less guys will actually approach her because they're scared/nervous whatever

Whatever you do, don't do those PUA techniques. Women can spot them a mile away.

Some can I'm sure - but maybe it's just that the blokes aren't so good at the 'PUA' thing .

I did read "The Game"* and even more so these days notice when blokes are being like that - and, sadly, it does seem to work.
I say sadly, because it's not really my thing - whether it would be if I was less shy is another matter - but so far I keep that it's "not me".

* And was amused by the ending, where he basically got out-gamed by a woman, who later dumped him when it looked like something better might be along.

I found my gf on a dating site actually. Had to go through one awkward date, then one short term relationship and then found her. We've been together two years now. Talking to hot girls can be amazing when there's a connection between both people. It's just about the connection between you and another person. And don't pretend to be someone you aren't. She's gonna find out who the real you is in the long run. Good luck.

Well, we attractive women can be intimidating, so we don't get hit on very much and we're always lonely on Friday nights because men are too intimidated to ask us out (that's what my mom told me). So you should walk up to us, say something nice but polite and respectful, and then wow us with your intellect. That will set you apart from all the other guys who aren't hitting on us because they're so intimidated.

Seriously, though, you can throw out a respectful and sincere compliment, but don't over do it. Confidence is sexy, but it's okay to be shy; it's cute and endearing. But after you get talking for a while, relax, open up (don't over share but don't be so shy you can't talk about yourself at all), and try to show interest with confidence. And show your sense of humor. Don't tell any jokes that might come off racist or controversial to someone you just met, but try to show her you have a sense of humor. If she doesn't walk away right away or look like she's pissed or annoyed talking to you, you're doing alright, so feel good about that. If she's not interested, she'll find a way to communicate that pretty quickly.

What I'm going to say may not be popular, but here goes...

Let's say you don't talk to her. What's the worst that could happen? You don't talk to her. What's the best that could happen? Nothing.

Now, let's say you DO talk to her. What's the worst that could happen? You get rejected. You get slapped. You get a drink thrown in your face. SO WHAT??? Other than a dry cleaning bill, are you any worse for having tried? I would guess no - you're in the exact same situation you'd be in if you didn't talk to her. You walk away with nothing.

But what's the BEST that could happen?

Let your imagination run wild.



You miss 100% of the pitches you don't swing at. And no matter how smooth you are (or are not), no matter how relaxed you are (or are not), nothing will work if you don't try. And the more you do it, the more you'll realize what will or will not work - as long as you pay attention to what you're saying and the reaction it's instigating.

I'm with those on here that say being genuine and keeping it simple is the way to go. I wasn't always a people person. It took a lot of getting out of my comfort zone to get to where I feel comfortable talking to anyone now - male or female, young or old, hot or not. Then again, maybe I'm just stupid and don't know when I should or shouldn't. :happy:

I am far from a baller ladies man...but I have gotten better with the issue you're not facing.

A lot of your success is going to come in the form of trial and error my man. Above all else, you've got to overcome the fear of failure. You're going to fail, not all women are going to dig you, you're going to make mistakes...and that's OKAY. They're all learning experiences that you'll reflect and beat yourself up on later. If you really want to get better with women, you'll have to keep putting yourself out there and refining your practice...It's the same principal with all things...You'll never climb the ladder to success with your hands in your pockets.

Some general tips that I find effective in most situations.

1. Take up space. You're a man, let your body language show that your comfortable in your own skin.
2. Keep her talking, but don't interrogate her...be engaging. Find something relevant about the situation and go from there.
3. Make eye contact when she starts speaking and when you speak...but be sure to take a few glances down towards her feet from time to time.
4. Take time to digest what she says...Don't be afraid of a pause it shows you actually give a ****.
5. Punctuate your main points with a subtle tap on the elbow or arm...bridge the physical gap.

Hope this helps bro.

i like saying "you look pretty" really quietly, and when they say "what did you say" i respond with "i said you look sh*tty! goodnight denise!" and run away to my home to practice karate

:laugh:



You have to relax about it. The more tense you are approaching a woman, the more awkward it will be. Just flirt and don't let your ego ride purely on whether or not it works out. You're cute. You'll still be cute even if she's not into you. Someone else will be. Just relax. :flowerforyou:

i like saying "you look pretty" really quietly, and when they say "what did you say" i respond with "i said you look sh*tty! goodnight denise!" and run away to my home to practice karate

hahaahahha

What I'm going to say may not be popular, but here goes...

Let's say you don't talk to her. What's the worst that could happen? You don't talk to her. What's the best that could happen? Nothing.

Now, let's say you DO talk to her. What's the worst that could happen? You get rejected. You get slapped. You get a drink thrown in your face. SO WHAT??? Other than a dry cleaning bill, are you any worse for having tried? I would guess no - you're in the exact same situation you'd be in if you didn't talk to her. You walk away with nothing.

But what's the BEST that could happen?

Let your imagination run wild.



You miss 100% of the pitches you don't swing at. And no matter how smooth you are (or are not), no matter how relaxed you are (or are not), nothing will work if you don't try. And the more you do it, the more you'll realize what will or will not work - as long as you pay attention to what you're saying and the reaction it's instigating.

I'm with those on here that say being genuine and keeping it simple is the way to go. I wasn't always a people person. It took a lot of getting out of my comfort zone to get to where I feel comfortable talking to anyone now - male or female, young or old, hot or not. Then again, maybe I'm just stupid and don't know when I should or shouldn't. :happy:

Listen to this guy. :-)

When I was younger, a guy got points automatically just for having the b*lls to approach me. And as long as he didn't used some tired pick-up line or come on too strong...I responded well. Genuine is good. Just play to your strengths because confidence is about the sexiest thing a guy can have going. Talk about video games, if you have to.... ;-) Some of us girls like the shy, socially awkward ones...

Try talking to girls you have something in common with, you'll both have something to talk about.

My husband stalked me on an online game (text-based MUD, you know... old D&D stuff) and I felt he was worth chatting with because we had a common connection.

Don't be a douche bag by mentioning her body parts.

Put one foot in front of the other and walk with confidence and swagger.

Put one foot in front of the other and walk with confidence and swagger.

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