Need Major Support and Motivation

I was on the MFP bandwagon and doing great! I had lost pounds and inches, and I gained a confidence that I had never seen before!
But then... but then I went on vacation. And then I found out I was moving and had to pack. And then I moved. And then I had to unpack and had no food in the house.
Now here I am, 3 months later and 20 pounds heavier. All the motivation I had to work out and eat healthy? Gone. The confidence, buried under this extra 20. And I am so uncomfortable and so miserable with what has happened.

What I need from you all is motivation and support that I can channel into getting back on the wagon. To log my food everyday and use it to make healthy choices. To get to the gym three times (or more) a week.

So, who can send some serious motivation my way?
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  • thescottishone
    thescottishone Posts: 39 Member
    Hey! I have a similar story, I was doing really well and finally felt I was on top of it all for the first time in my life...and then my parents came to visit for 3 weeks and I gradually started getting to bad habits again and cutting down on the exercise and 4 weeks later I am 3kg heavier. I desperately want to get back into it for these next 4 weeks up to Christmas! SOOOOO, I will support you if you could help and support me too, please!! Thanks : )))
  • It's amazing how quickly it can happen! I am sending you a request and we can motivate each other!
  • BrookeBQ
    BrookeBQ Posts: 163 Member
    That is my ultimate fear, that after all of this hard work I will go back to normal and gain everything back. Added you so we can support each other and prevent it from happening again.
  • lbkingcu
    lbkingcu Posts: 6 Member
    I'm in the same boat. Feel free to add me so we can support each other.
  • SarahAFerguson
    SarahAFerguson Posts: 250 Member
    You did it before and you can again. You have the tools and knowledge. Sitting around and feeling miserable won't get you to your goals. Forgive yourself for messing up and move forward one step at time.
  • You can do it and you're going to feel amazing when you have! Everyone has those times when they feel just awful and have let themselves slip a little or a lot, but even posting here is a start and you know in a few weeks you'll be on track and feeling healthy! Keep us posted! :)
  • beanrider
    beanrider Posts: 66 Member
    I am there too. I fell off the wagon and hit hard. I could really use the motivation myself! I was doing really well, but then got out of my routine and I can't seem to get back on track. Could really use the help, so add me and we can help each other! Can always use more support!
  • Thank you everyone for your replies! It's true, I can't beat myself up for what has happened. Instead, I have to move forward and keep my goals in sight!
    I am determined to get back on track without being obsessive or getting crazy!
  • lesliep107
    lesliep107 Posts: 22 Member
    I hear you and am in the same boat!

    I truly believe we all can do this. Maybe our timeline will need to be altered. But we can do this.

    Add me.

    We all need support and motivation from people who get how hard this can be!
  • hjensen2263
    hjensen2263 Posts: 68 Member
    This just happened. Over the past 2 weeks, especially with thanksgiving, I completely wasted all progress I had made the four weeks prior. Ugh.
  • EPortJake
    EPortJake Posts: 54 Member
    But then... but then I went on vacation. And then I found out I was moving and had to pack. And then I moved. And then I had to unpack and had no food in the house.

    Relaxing on vacation is fine, I mean what else are vacations for? The other reasons are, sorry to be harsh, pathetic excuses.
    Also, how are you going to maintain a healthy lifestyle if you constantly need the motivation of others? If you really want something YOU need to be the driving force behind achieving it.
    Again, sorry to be harsh but I think you need it imo.
  • marie_25m
    marie_25m Posts: 64 Member
    Feel free to add me!:smile:
  • firefoxxie
    firefoxxie Posts: 381 Member
    Yeah, after I lost my 40lbs I derailed and started eating whatever I felt like. Luckily not as bad as when I first started trying to loose weight and I didn't gain much back... but my motivation definitely left me. I've been trying to get it back this week by eating healthier again. It's really hard but I'm trying!
  • ParkerH47
    ParkerH47 Posts: 463 Member
    You have done it before and you can absolutely do it again!!!!! You are the only person who is standing in your way, we can't change your body... but YOU CAN!

    Two of my favorite quotes:

    "The more weight you want to permanently lose, the more of your lifestyle you have to permanently change!"

    "Good things DO NOT come to those who wait. Good things come to those who work their *kitten* off and never give up!!"

    You can do this!!!

    p.s. feel free to add me :)
  • ParkerH47
    ParkerH47 Posts: 463 Member
    Also: Forgive yourself, and move on from it. Dwelling on the past doesn't burn calories :)
  • kingscrown
    kingscrown Posts: 615 Member
    It took me a long time to relalize that healthy eating and exercise is a life choice not an every now and then choice. Yes, we all have deters (thanksgiving) on our road to healthy, but enjoying ourselves and getting back on track is what's important. Jillian Michaels has said when your car gets a flat tire do you go out and slash the other 3? No, you fix the flat and get back on the road. That really made an impression on me.
  • shunggie
    shunggie Posts: 1,036 Member
    Traveling for work, back for 2 days then vacation yeah!!!!!!!!! But first it get's shortened by boyfriend's work, then he is hijacked with a family emergency and he is still not home. I started getting sick on Sunday.... stayed in bed until Wednesday finally feeling better. So Thanksgiving alone with all my married siblings and their now married children, still TOM. Another Thanksgiving on Saturday with my Dad and still no BF. All that equals +5lbs in 2 weeks. Now I'm back to work, did not get to spend one minute of my vaca with my BF, and all the stuff around the house we were going to do while on vaca UNDONE. I'm a little depressed. I can't even be mad at him because this was truely a family emergency and I know he would rather be with me but it's been a rough year I needed some down time with him. And food- after 25lbs I thought one family member from 2 family gatherings might have noticied. I am feeling very sorry for myself right now. I need to walk or play tennis or something to get me out of this funk.
  • historygirldd
    historygirldd Posts: 209 Member
    I am there with you. I was doing so well. I felt good about myself and getting compliments. I was even getting rid of some of my "fat clothes" and then life got in the way. Sometimes it does seem hard to make the right choices when you are so stressed, but this is the change we are making. No one ever said "losing weight and keeping it off would be easy." It is a decision we get up and make every day. In fact, I remind my self of the decision several times a day. I am using a little notebook that I carry with me everywhere of inspirational quotes to keep me motivated until exercise and eating right become my habit again. I am getting back on track today and I hope you will too.
  • kmcgrath1
    kmcgrath1 Posts: 175 Member
    But then... but then I went on vacation. And then I found out I was moving and had to pack. And then I moved. And then I had to unpack and had no food in the house.

    Relaxing on vacation is fine, I mean what else are vacations for? The other reasons are, sorry to be harsh, pathetic excuses.
    Also, how are you going to maintain a healthy lifestyle if you constantly need the motivation of others? If you really want something YOU need to be the driving force behind achieving it.
    Again, sorry to be harsh but I think you need it imo.

    Wow, that's what I had to hear. In fact heard that same thing this morning from a friend. It's hard learning to put yourself first when you never could before.
  • nonstopper
    nonstopper Posts: 1,108 Member
    Just Made a Topic about Intense Motivation haha!

    ADD ME

    I love to help people! And exchange what others have gotten out of certain workouts.
    I work intense and would love to make friends really wanting to chat about it daily.
  • Graciecny
    Graciecny Posts: 302 Member
    BTDT, still muddling along. I went on vacation back in July, came back at the end of August and haven't managed to lose a pound yet. ~sigh~ I'm going to send you a friend request. Anything to kick-start my motivation!!

    I am thinking I'll have better luck once winter rolls around and there is nothing to distract me. :laugh:
  • sbrooks0387
    sbrooks0387 Posts: 167 Member
    i'm in a like situation. allthough it wasn't a move but a pregnancy that threw me off. while i ate healthy threw it i oviously gained weight and now am trying to get back into the habit of logging and losing. but it's hard it was the worst of my 3 pregnancies pretty much everything made me sick and now that i was deprived for 9 months i want to make up for lost time!
  • But then... but then I went on vacation. And then I found out I was moving and had to pack. And then I moved. And then I had to unpack and had no food in the house.

    Relaxing on vacation is fine, I mean what else are vacations for? The other reasons are, sorry to be harsh, pathetic excuses.
    Also, how are you going to maintain a healthy lifestyle if you constantly need the motivation of others? If you really want something YOU need to be the driving force behind achieving it.
    Again, sorry to be harsh but I think you need it imo.
    You make a valid point. But what goals can you reach without support from others? I am a firm believer that people work better when they are supported and valued.
  • We are in a similar boat. This spring I lost 20 pounds and was doing good! Then some unfortunate stuff happened and I stopped working out. Then that turned into bad eating habits. Then that knocked me back to my food addiction. Depression doesn't make things any easier whatsoever. So I gained back the 20. Then as a result of my body's shock from eating clean to eating CONSTANTLY I gained another 20 on top of that. Then I started a new antidepressant and gained ANOTHER TWENTY. This has all been within a few months. Sixty pounds of fat on my body. Every single day is a struggle. It's hard even looking in the mirror at myself when I grew up athletic and fit as a cheerleader and tumbler my whole life and now I see myself as fat, lazy, and gross. I don't feel pretty. I don't feel girly. I feel big and manly and just undesirable. But I fight that battle every single day when I choose to workout or choose a healthier alternative over what my "evil side" wants to eat. You can do it. Seriously. You can.

    Food is just food. Even though I have tricked myself into thinking it can give me comfort, realize that it can not. Food is only there as a source of energy for your body. Without it you wouldn't live, but you don't need that huge piece of cake. I have to remind myself of that All. The. Time. Everyday. Food is nothing more than a basic body need. I am trying not to find pleasure in food anymore and looking for other ways to feel good and feel "normal." I'm trying to go to the gym often so that the gym becomes my new habit. I'm looking into photography. I write a lot. I clean a lot! haha. Just find anything that you like to do that can give you just a little bit of happiness. That little boost will not only stop you from finding comfort in food, but will ease your mind enough to stay motivated.

    Getting started back up is the worst thing in the world. Seriously it sucks so bad. One hour into that first day, I already want to quit. I know this from experience because I am the worst yo-yo dieter on the planet. I read a quote once that helps a little..."If you're tired of starting over, stop giving up."

    You can do it. Your body is in YOUR control. No one else's. Food does not run your life. Neither does your reputation, your friends, your family, your reflection, the number on the scale, or anything else. It is solely up to you. You can choose to make excuses and allow yourself to get lazy, OR you can say, "You know what? That's not okay. This is MY body. Life is not going to just pack on 20 pounds and expect me to just sit here and let it happen." Take back control before it gets WAY out of hand, like my problem has. Trust me. It will be worth it.

    I have the absolute worst motivation of any person I have ever met. I am inherently negative and pessimistic when it comes to anything dealing with myself. But I know this needs work, because no matter how much my physical body changes, I need to adapt my mind as well. So to stay motivated, as cheesy as this is, I made lists. The first is a list of 100 things to like about myself. I was shocked that I could even think of 100 things, but it's not as hard as it sounds. These things range from my long, healthy hair, to the way I find humor in everything. Think of anything that is a positive quality (physical or mental) and write it down. The second list is a list of "I Will's," which is a personal creed of all the things I will strive to do everyday, such as cooking for myself instead of eating out, smiling when I feel like crying, blocking out the bad thoughts, and remembering all the reasons I started this new lifestyle in the first place. Write down those things you want the new you to do everyday to improve yourself. The last list is a list of "I Am's" which is a list of one word traits that I embody, like humorous, beautiful, unique, honest, important, intelligent, hard-working, etc. Be honest with yourself and ADMIT that there are SO MANY things to love about yourself! No matter how much you beat yourself up when you look in the mirror and see that weight gain, just push that aside for a second and think of the things that are to be celebrated. It's okay to brag on yourself sometimes, especially if you spend most of your days bringing yourself down like I do. Write down all those things and post them in a place where you will see them often. Mine is on the wall in my bathroom right across from my toilet. That way I look at it when I am using the restroom, it is right above my scale, and I pass it as I enter the shower. It's just a little boost in confidence when you see all those good things about yourself. It's easy to forget why you are so special when your mind is consumed with only your weight. But you ARE more than your weight. YOU ARE!!!!! And if all else fails and you just can't do it right now, at least make sure you are aware of all the good things about you. Then maybe once you have settled that debate in your mind that the only thing left to work on is your physical health, then get back into it. One thing at a time.

    I try really hard. I really do. And what makes it even more difficult is that I pretty much have no friends left (I guess they couldn't deal with my depression), so I am my OWN little army. And I'm doing a pretty damn good job for being on my own at a big school at only 20-years-old. No matter what the circumstances, it's NEVER too late, never too hard, or never too hopeless to make a change. Think of it as just becoming the best version of yourself. You aren't losing weight to look like Adriana Lima. You will never be her. You're BETTER than her because you are going to work your *kitten* off to get down to that size, and she was born that way. This is not a diet. You're just working everyday to make yourself look and feel amazing. Simple as that. Stay focused and try as hard as you can to remember the good things when everything starts looking bad. Best of luck xxx
  • lorcart
    lorcart Posts: 406 Member
    Boy is this thread timely! I was booking wrong along then EERRRRRRRRRR....(that's a screeching halt sound). I managed to gain back all but one pound. *sigh*..back on track!
  • ashleydmassey
    ashleydmassey Posts: 106 Member
    You are free to add me as a friend, if you'd like!!! I''m willing to be a positive voice inside your fitness pal! :happy:

    Here's the thing. You had a journey, called life, you gained some weight. It happens! Life isn't over and you aren't less of a person for it. For me, I know how I feel when I've "slipped" at times. It creates a disgust within yourself. Don't listen to the negativity. Realize that today is a new day, tomorrow will be a new day, and you CAN and WILL make your successes happen if only you live by today. Forget yesterday. Nothing changes it. You needed yesterday to get you to where you are right now. It will steer you to better choices, and you will learn to avoid the road you don't want to travel. You can use the slips as leverage, to show you where you don't want to go, or you can use them as an excuse to drop out and stay unhealthy. Being that you are here, in front of many, many people confronting this, I take it that you are more prepared to get your positive results. Log today and you will be on a fresh slate to get back on track!!! You CAN DO THIS!!! :smile:
  • kelley555
    kelley555 Posts: 57 Member
    I did the same thing and understand how you feel. I was on top of the world and now I'm very disappointed with myself. Friend me and we can motivate each other.
  • ndearing0501
    ndearing0501 Posts: 145 Member
    You need some help or encouragement, feel free to add me!
  • rezn8
    rezn8 Posts: 263 Member
    I'm always willing to give any guidance I can. Dropped over 40lbs through diet and exercise this year. Also lowered my choloesterol 35 points. I'm currently on week 4 of my 2nd time through Insanity program. You can also find me as a coach on the beachbody website as SWREZn8.
  • SusieK~ #1 you have to give yourself credit on coming back here and asking for the help, and now that you know others are behind you it will make it easier to stick to it and hold you accountable for your actions.

    #2 Pick your self up and dust yourself off and remember we are all in this together!

    and
    #3 please feel free to add me (anyone can) and we can be there for each other when the need arises!!


    Sue