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  • repmlrs
    repmlrs Posts: 154
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    just say " awww man dis taste like sheet mane. i aint gonna b eating dis crap!"
  • ClaireM8
    ClaireM8 Posts: 26
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    Small portion of it to be polite and fill up on veges

    Offer to cook!!! I was cooking dinner reguarly by the age of 14 - you will need to be doing it eventually, so start early.
  • psuLemon
    psuLemon Posts: 38,411 MFP Moderator
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    One extra note, with only 10 lbs to lose, you should set your account to 1/2 lb per week. As your body gets closer to a normal weight (not your goal weight), your body will require more food to sustain your body. Also, you should track protein instead of sugar as protein is critical to maintaining lean body mass. And if you aren't weight training/exercising, you should start. It will also allow you to eat more calories which can make up for your parents cooking if it actually is "unhealthy".
  • ckmama
    ckmama Posts: 1,668 Member
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    No thank you
  • grrrlface
    grrrlface Posts: 1,204 Member
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    Have a smaller portion, fill up on veggies or make your own meal. :)
  • ironanimal
    ironanimal Posts: 5,922 Member
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    Tell them before they cook it, or even buy it where possible. Nobody appreciates wasting money.
  • S_Delbridge
    S_Delbridge Posts: 73
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    it is def an obstacle if ur family isnt behind you, but really you won't know until you atleast bring it up. maybe you could eat smaller portions and add a vegtable instead of a carb they may be making. If your able maybe do some of your own grocery shopping or ask if they would mind you going along and pick some things out. anyways your doing great and look awesome. congrats !
  • harvo
    harvo Posts: 4,676 Member
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    Volunteer to cook everyone dinner and make it healthy and get tehir feedback...
  • jacksonpt
    jacksonpt Posts: 10,413 Member
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    A couple of things come to mind.

    I'd probably do it 1 step sooner and ask if you can add a few things to the grocery list, or help with the week's meal planning.

    But, I'd NEVER ask them to cook something special just for me. Either eat what they make, or make something for yourself.

    Or, if you're that worried about their reaction... learn how to eat during the day so whatever they make for dinner fits into your cals/macros. Then it's not an issue.
  • amelia_atlantic
    amelia_atlantic Posts: 926 Member
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    Luckily, my parents are really supportive. When I became vegetarian 5+ years ago, they made a serious effort to start buying me tofu, veggie burgers and hummus. It was cute that they thought that's all we eat!

    Now, I just cook for them and they think everything I make is "fancy". You can help open your parent's eyes to new foods, too!

    I agree with others said; offer to help! Make a really healthy side dish or a salad. You can still eat a portion of what your parents cook but fill up on the salad you made. Balance!
  • firefoxxie
    firefoxxie Posts: 381 Member
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    I sort of forced/influenced my family to eat healthier. When I started my weight loss adventure I looked for more healthy alternatives and researched a lot. Whatever I found out I shared with my mom. She started realizing we were not eating that great and so our shopping list has changed! Before the slow progression I would make my own food with what we had in the fridge and bring it to the table. It was weird eating apart from the family but I soon become accustomed to it. Now my family eats like me!
  • Rachlmale
    Rachlmale Posts: 640 Member
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    By the weight you've already lost I'm assuming your parents have noticed, surely? In which case it's a little unfair they would cook unhealthy meals knowing you've done so well. If the meal is already there, eat it this time, I could never turn down food but afterwards talk to them and be frank with them, tell them that tea wasn't healthy and you'd appreciate if they could be supportive of your choices. If they're unwilling to make changes to meet your lifestyle, ask them to get stuff so you can make your own meals. I imagine it to be hard living at home if other people aren't making the same lifestyle choice as you.
  • shoneybabes
    shoneybabes Posts: 199 Member
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    Cook your own dinner. That is what I had to do and still do.
  • T1mH
    T1mH Posts: 568 Member
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    Do your parents think your getting to thin? I'm 40 I've lost thirty pounds. I don't live with my parents but my mom hassled me recently about being to thin. I'm in the best shape I've been in my life. I'm stronger faster and have more endurance than I did playing football in high school. I think I've got another 20 lbs to lose and she declared I'd look emaciated if I get down to that weight. Most of my relatives are overweight. If your parents think your goal is to thin your going to have a tough time convincing them to change anything or in supporting your eating habits.
  • Koldnomore
    Koldnomore Posts: 1,613 Member
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    Either you eat less of what is made or you cook yourself something else. It's not your parents responsibility to cook for you when you are an adult. I wouldn't suggest bringing it up when dinner is already on the table. Does not matter what it is, if they cooked it for you then saying something when it's already on the table is incredibly rude.

    This is a conversation that has to happen at another time. I'd explain what you are doing and either offer to chip in for food that meets your goals or let them know that you will be shopping for and cooking your own food.
  • Whisper236
    Whisper236 Posts: 9
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    I just have a small portion of it or tell them that I'm very grateful for what they've made but I can't eat it because it's not healthy for me.
  • keelz2010
    keelz2010 Posts: 182
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    You could offer to cook for them sometimes, but if your stuck eating what is cooked then just make a few changes. If everyones having pizza for example, have one slice and a side salad rather than a few slices. Or have a smaller portion and fill the rest of your plate with some veggies.
  • TheRealParisLove
    TheRealParisLove Posts: 1,907 Member
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    You could try my method-- I just announce how many calories, fat grams, milligrams of sodium, sugar grams ect. are in a given food to everyone at the table and then opt to eat something else. I'll usually sum up with statements like: "This one will cause diabetes, this one will cause heart disease, this one will cause stroke, this one will cause cancer...Ah! Here! this one will give tons of vitamins and lean protein!"

    I'm a riot at parties...:tongue:
  • ashleydmassey
    ashleydmassey Posts: 106 Member
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    I have teenagers and if they told me they wanted to eat healthier, I'd be ecstatic! Luckily for us all, I've made those changes myself. Good for you, for realizing health matters now! Hopefully they will be supportive in your endeavor and they, too, will join you in eating better. Good luck!
  • DanaDark
    DanaDark Posts: 2,187 Member
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    If you do not want to eat your parents' dinner, simply tell them so and exactly why.

    From there, explain you're more than happy to make yourself something and will clean up after yourself as well.

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