lets see how long this can go on

Cnote don't be sorry this is a big toll and I am a big toll too and yet people is friendly with me [ok I should leave the stupid jokes about myself aside]

Weight training does help to lose weight, but your main focus should be CARDIO it is the key to lose weight, keep doing some strength training as it will help your skin to stay tight and your body to get a better form.

See we can be helpful - now with calories try to get most of your calories from Protein and forget about added sugar, empty calories [calories that won't bring anything good to your body] and just try to move as much as you can.

People in this forum aren't just all friend already I arrived last week, decided to hit on everybody and boom now I keep chatting and having fun while keeping track of my progress and getting good vibes.

Nope. Your main focus should be creating a deficit.

Cnote don't be sorry this is a big toll and I am a big toll too and yet people is friendly with me [ok I should leave the stupid jokes about myself aside]

Weight training does help to lose weight, but your main focus should be CARDIO it is the key to lose weight, keep doing some strength training as it will help your skin to stay tight and your body to get a better form.

See we can be helpful - now with calories try to get most of your calories from Protein and forget about added sugar, empty calories [calories that won't bring anything good to your body] and just try to move as much as you can.

People in this forum aren't just all friend already I arrived last week, decided to hit on everybody and boom now I keep chatting and having fun while keeping track of my progress and getting good vibes.

Nope. Your main focus should be creating a deficit.

that's true

I tried to say aside of dieting cardio should be her main focus [while working out] but totally true you need to keep a calorie deficit

Cnote don't be sorry this is a big toll and I am a big toll too and yet people is friendly with me [ok I should leave the stupid jokes about myself aside]

Weight training does help to lose weight, but your main focus should be CARDIO it is the key to lose weight, keep doing some strength training as it will help your skin to stay tight and your body to get a better form.

See we can be helpful - now with calories try to get most of your calories from Protein and forget about added sugar, empty calories [calories that won't bring anything good to your body] and just try to move as much as you can.

People in this forum aren't just all friend already I arrived last week, decided to hit on everybody and boom now I keep chatting and having fun while keeping track of my progress and getting good vibes.

Nope. Your main focus should be creating a deficit.

that's true

I tried to say aside of dieting cardio should be her main focus [while working out] but totally true you need to keep a calorie deficit

I do not agree that cardio should necessarily be her main focus. It depends on her goals and her likes/dislikes. I am not sure why it was even brought up.

Hun you'll learn of the little clicks on here, don't sweat it...Just do u!! Some have good advice and some just come on to try to pick people up or degrade people to make themselves feel better. You can't take these chats personal!! Smile!!

Hey there

I have found the best way to get the info I need is to go on the forums, use the search function and read the responses to threads about similar issues to mine.

Occasionally, there aren't any, or my question is too specific, so I post a topic. Posting topics about why everyone is mean and/or rude has never ended well (I lurk like a mo-fo, for the giggles).

I add people who I think give awesome advice, who are super-sensible, or who crack me up with their forum responses.

I've built up a friends list that I'm happy to support and be supported by, and I've gradually honed my knowledge about weight-loss through research on here and other sites that people have linked to from here.

It's taken me a year, but I'm in it for the long-haul. I don't belong to a 'clique' - I just have my MFP friends, and I interact with them whenever I can.

This site is an amazing tool, but it is a TOOL. You can't expect it to do the work without your input.

Hey there

I have found the best way to get the info I need is to go on the forums, use the search function and read the responses to threads about similar issues to mine.

Occasionally, there aren't any, or my question is too specific, so I post a topic. Posting topics about why everyone is mean and/or rude has never ended well (I lurk like a mo-fo, for the giggles).

I add people who I think give awesome advice, who are super-sensible, or who crack me up with their forum responses.

I've built up a friends list that I'm happy to support and be supported by, and I've gradually honed my knowledge about weight-loss through research on here and other sites that people have linked to from here.

It's taken me a year, but I'm in it for the long-haul. I don't belong to a 'clique' - I just have my MFP friends, and I interact with them whenever I can.

This site is an amazing tool, but it is a TOOL. You can't expect it to do the work without your input.

^^ and this is why you are one of my friends!

go into the introduce me forums and the chit-chat and add people.

message people.

play games.

and p.s. i sent you a friend request

You have been here a month....yes, some of us have been friends for years and have formed little "circles of friends".
It is understandable that it is hard to break in and join one of those.

Most people aren't actively seeking new friends, they feel they have enough (myself included), but if the RIGHT person comes along that I click with, then there's always room for one more...

If you go into the "introduction" threads, there are a TON of "I just joined today and I want friends" posts.
Just go in there, pick a thread, and add people from the whole thread, they will be doing the same, and voila, instant mutual friends who are all fairly new.

That's one way. Another is to get yourself out there, participate in some of the fun threads, discussions, games, etc. Once you find someone you like, send them a message with a request. People will recognize you. "oh, I've seen that girl on a few threads, sh'e funny/nice/whatever", and they'll be more likely to accept.

Right now, all you've done is create a conundrum for yourself where people will see you and think, "oh, THAT girl who started the whiny nobody-likes-me-thread....no thanks..."

Also, seek out people with similar goals. Find a group for people who are looking to lose 100 pounds, or a group for people in their early 20s...and put up a pic where you don't look so mean!

Best of luck to you. I hope you lose all 100 of those pounds, make a ton of friends, and look back on this and think, "that was real silly of me to start that thread!"


(also, weight training is SO important. If you stick with only cardio and dieting you will weigh less but you will never look good naked. Strength is where it's at, to get you the body you really want.)

For many, the social aspect of this site is what keeps them coming back, therefore, it lends to its success. If you don't find the social aspect of this site beneficial, then you are welcome not to use it.

My question for you is: Why is it that there is always some noob that comes along and complains about this?

So I have a question for everyone on here. Why is it that MFP is starting to look more like facebook? Aren't we suppose to be using this website to help us lose weight not a dating site? I know that a lot of you will eitherignore this or will laugh because you think you are better then me but I am just asking.

Ironically, this is a very "facebook" thing to say.

you probably will not endear yourself to many people by basically insulting them by saying they are childish and flirty, that puts people on defense. So it shouldn't surprise you if there are defensive responses.

I don't know how others handle it, but here's how I do it -- i use the site, mainly, to track exercise and food. I have picked up some "friends" along the way and will occasionally post on walls, or do status updates, and I come to the forums to joke around (primarily). I don't take myself or others too seriously. if someone wants to drop me as a friend, then they do. If i request a friend and they accept, fantastic. but neither is going to effect my day.

So I have a question for everyone on here. Why is it that MFP is starting to look more like facebook? Aren't we suppose to be using this website to help us lose weight not a dating site? I know that a lot of you will either ignore this or will laugh because you think you are better then me but I am just asking.

We're all pretty much looking for fun and for positive motivation. People we can help who want to help back.
You don't get that with "...because you think you are better than me..."

Parable of the Two Villages
A man who was traveling came upon a farmer working in his field and asked him what the people in the next village were like. The farmer asked "What were the people like in the last village you visited?". The man responded "They were kind, friendly, generous, great people." "You'll find the people in the next village are the same." said the farmer.
Another man who was traveling to the same village came up to the same farmer somewhat later and asked him what the people in the next village were like. Again the farmer asked "What were the people like in the last village you visited?". The second man responded "They were rude, unfriendly, dishonest people.". "You'll find the people in the next village are the same." said the farmer.

I know it can seem that everyone is one great big family when you are new, but soon you will realize that not everyone knows one another, and not everyone likes one another. If you are worried about people having too many friends already, try sticking closer to the join dates or posting an intro thread if you haven't already.

Be you, be real, and you will find like-minded individuals. This site hosts a slew of different members - there's friends out there for ya that are in the same boat, were once in that boat, and there's those that can be a source of inspiration. Taking the negative approach may not win you the support you desire - smile & stay optimistic, take a tour of the success, general, & fitness forums, get one foot in front of the other, and before you know it you'll be posting in the success thread.

Good luck :bigsmile:

who ARE you?

MFP is like life... it takes time to find and make friends with the people who populate your friends list... it doesn't just happen all at once. But once you get there, the forums don't really mean jack anymore, your support base is entirely your own wall... you just gotta be patient to get there.