People that get you down

pilatemom
pilatemom Posts: 111
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You know, you try to not let others stupid words put you down. But sometimes they cut deep. The other person DOES realize it and you know it and that's when it's the worst. Sometimes people say things they don't mean but when you KNOW they mean what they say.. It's even harder. But why? Why do others feel they have to be so disgusting to others? Me and my boyfriend keep fighting about stupid little things and he starts saying awful things. I mean awful. I've already posted how the first time 3 weeks after giving birth he said I'm loose, well sorry I just pushed our kid out? Next thing, he gets mad because I went and got a tattoo by a male tattoo artist so he tells me how'd i get the tattoo so cheap did i have intercourse with him, then i got another tat by the guy today and we fight about something random and he says that my throats sore because i just gave the man head. Then tells me my tattoo looks like crap.

My point is.. Regardless if it's about weight, the appearance of your body in general, things you've gotten tattooed on, things you can't help, ANYTHING.. cruel people are out there. I don't understand why .. why people are as cruel as they are.. But /: I guess in life you'll find people like that.
I've gotten called fat recently, then told I should be on a diet and now verbally abused by people I love.
Just ... don't let people get you down guys. They'll try, it'll hurt.. but hold yourself together. you're better than that.

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  • little_silver_bell
    little_silver_bell Posts: 79
    You dont need him...really...
  • glahlstedt
    glahlstedt Posts: 308 Member
    It is just awful when people say mean things! This Summer, my nephew (12) said to me, "Remember when you use to be wicked skinny?!" Ahhh...ya?!! Ummmm...so, I balled my eyes out, and told him that he hurt my feelings! He apoligized, and then he didn't say a nasty thing for the rest of my stay in New York. My dad always has a tendency to say things about my weight, and my sister (who is a size 6~to boot) told me about a year ago that she couldn't believe how huge I was when she saw me! I mean, c'mon!!! These kind of hurtful comments hurt! To top it off, my hubby told me 2 years ago, that he wasn't physcially attracted to me anymore. That was the worst comment that was ever made to me in my entire life! Well, I guess people say nasty things.................it's all in how we deal with it! So, here I am getting healthy on MFP! I'm doing this for me, and you should do the same! Don't do it for anybody else!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Hang in there...it's been done to all of us~at some point and time, but you just gotta pick your head up, and say, "I'm better than that!"
  • gramacanada
    gramacanada Posts: 557 Member
    You dont need him...really...
    This ^^^^ times twenty!
  • KrazyAsianNic
    KrazyAsianNic Posts: 1,227 Member
    You really shouldn't suffer with someone who will only keep hurting you. I know it'll be hard to leave because of a kid. I swore never to leave a relationship with a kid involved. But I mean, do waht you need to do to protect yourself.
  • EDesq
    EDesq Posts: 1,527 Member
    SO! You know it is about YOU! What's Your problem LOVING ABUSE? Don't say it's the kid...I have seen what kids look like (Emotionally, Psychologically and Physically) growing up in a home like you are complaining about; One good parent is wayyyyyyyyy better than two-tapped out! If you got money for tatts, you got money to start a life for you and a child.
  • CelebrateLife
    CelebrateLife Posts: 247 Member
    Hun hold you head up high and do what you need to for you and especially your bundle of joy
    Don't allow anyone to steal your joy and tamper with your happiness I understand it's not that easy but when you're in a situation - like what you're experiencing it's not as simple just to walk away in an instant sometimes you hope that things will improve get better and be good in some cases yes but not in all cases you definitely dont need anyone breaking you down especially when you need support --I know it hurts but please remember this Everything has a time and your time will come and you and your baby will be so happy :)
    "Every dog has its day" -- the day will come when your boyfriend will feel your pain

    Be strong and do what is best for you and your baby
    You don't want your child to experience or be exposed to such behaviors as he/she gets older it'll only impact their life negatively
    Think ahead don't stay for the wrong reasons :)
  • ynotcycle
    ynotcycle Posts: 121 Member
    My Experience in life has been that abusive mean people are miserable with themselves and project those feelings outward blaming others.

    It's not you. I'm sorry to hear how unhappy you are with your situation.
    Life is short, try to keep a positive attitude and be thankful for your kid. I would suggest that you weigh your options, because you cannot change people, people have to want to change and, sometimes, there are underlying issues that can't ever be changed with any amount of therapy.
  • lucyford22
    lucyford22 Posts: 198 Member
    Wow. First time in awhile that I'm left stunned after reading something. How are you EVER going to find someone that loves you when you're wasting time with this jerk?? My boyfriend has never ONCE said anything even CLOSE to the things your "boyfriend" has said. He has said nothing but loving, kind and encouraging things to me. You do NOT deserve to be treated this way...no human does! Please, please, for your baby and for you leave this pathetic excuse of a man.
  • BinaryPulsar
    BinaryPulsar Posts: 8,927 Member
    It's really not ok the way that he is treating you!!!
  • anifani4
    anifani4 Posts: 457 Member
    All of your boyfriends remarks come from his own sense of insecurity but they are still abusive. You need to ask him to stop with the put downs and the jealous remarks about other men. If he doesn't stop, maybe it's time to think about a separation. You do not deserve this type of abuse, no one does.
  • ladymiseryali
    ladymiseryali Posts: 2,555 Member
    Wow. Why are you with him?! This is not a healthy environment for you OR your child. Please, for your sake and your child's sake, leave that piece of *kitten*. You deserve better. That boy doesn't love you nor deserve you.

    My fiance can say hurtful things in the heat of the moment, but he does apologize afterwards and those outbursts are rare. But he has NEVER called me fat nor has he ever insinuated that I'm a slut or wh*re.
  • Tinytaru
    Tinytaru Posts: 185 Member
    You do NOT deserve to be treated this way...no human does! Please, please, for your baby and for you leave this pathetic excuse of a man.

    ^this

    I know its hard but you will find someone that deserves you!
  • bushidowoman
    bushidowoman Posts: 1,599 Member
    You don't deserve that kind of abusive treatment, and you don't have to put up with it. There is so much more out there.
  • fteale
    fteale Posts: 5,310 Member
    Any one who says things like that to you doesn't love you and doesn't deserve you. He's just a nasty little control freak.
  • bf43005
    bf43005 Posts: 287
    I'm sorry to hear all this awful stuff is going on in your life right now. Sounds to me like you have some hard decisions to make about the people that are in your life. Just because someone is family doesn't give them the right to just put you down (you didn't mention the grandfather but I know about it from your other posts). And you BF of all people should be more supportive. I think you need to put more focus on you & your daughter and get rid of the poison in your life. Your BF sounds negative, controlling, and irrational. I don't mean to sound harsh but I hate to hear what's going on and seeing you so upset over all of this. Just remember that you are a strong woman who just brought a healthy baby into the world and NO ONE can take that away from you!
  • pilatemom
    pilatemom Posts: 111
    Thanks guys <3
    You're right. I just need to keep my head up, go forward in life and take care of my beautiful baby girl. I appreciate each and everyone of you. :)

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