How do you get your husband to want to change to?

You could try to make him get into "need to be the dominant male" mode. Most men are competitive and will strive to be better than someone else.

You could start by doing things like, say the next time he takes off his shirt, go up to him, squeeze his belly and say "awh its so cute." Say it in a way that maybe is a cutesy voice, but is probably making him feel bad.

You could also try doing things like, after a trip to the gym, say something like "man I saw this guy today on the bench press who was doing leg lifts at the same time, it was really impressive. some guys really know how to work out"

This approach is kind of mean, but if he's not taking you seriously already maybe you need to do some of that psychological ninja magic women are so good at.

You don't. They have to come to the conclusion on their own. Eat well, exercise and set the example. Talk about how great you feel and always be positive. Keep treats for yourself that you can eat. When my husband has ice cream covered in a cup of peanut butter... I eat some frozen yogurt. When he eats potato chips, I eat an apple with 2T of peanut butter. My husband is starting to come around and is making healthier choices... but I cannot change him... only he can do that.

Give your husband one night a week where he can order whatever he wants for dinner... and plan something special for yourself.

It's been a slow pace. When we moved in together almost 9 years ago, we both ate terribly. After about 6 months, I started cleaning up my diet. It took a while but he finally began to try out the healthy meals I would make and eat myself. I would say he's probably onboard for 90% of what I consider healthy and good-tasting, but some things he tried and said wouldn't do again (aka brussel sprouts, quinoa, to name recents). At least I am at a point that I know I can cook healthily and he will eat with me! He will still indulge in junk food more often than me, but I am good about just ignoring that and not letting it influence me to eat poorly.

truthfully? you CAN'T. But that doesn't mean you can't ask him to be a little more conscious of your needs as well.

I don't think it's to much to ask of him that he doesn't eat stuff that you don't want right in front of you.

but I'll say this, nothing good can come of you trying to force him to change, either subtly or obviously. He has to WANT to do it. And until he does, you will only create resentment by trying.

I dont think you can. If he is going to change his eating habits it has to come from him. You can explain to him that encouragement in YOUR quest is important to you and that you would like him to do that for you. That part can change - how he reacts to YOUR life change. But getting him to buy into the healthy eting or exercising or weight loss if he isnt willing or ready just isnt going to happen. If he wants a pizza and you are telling him no lets have something healthy - he may go along in the short run but in the long run he will resnt you for not letting him have his pizza.
The only thing, imo, that you can do is stay on track, flaunt your success and hope that he will jump on baord because of your SUCCESS!
On a slightly different note - you say future husband -- being married for a while I can offer the advice up front - he isnt going to change who he is right now after you are married....if he doesnt like to eat healthy now, it isnt going to happen in a few years....I dont mean anything bad by this but be aware of this before you get married...if you are heading in a healthy direction and he isnt this could be a problem later on.....again...just my opinion and I dont mean it offensively at all.

Or...on another note...tell him to cook for himself if he doesnt like what you SERVE! :-)

Just keep doing what you are doing. My husband complained also at first, but he is not complaining so much now.

Cook what you want to cook and when he sees you shedding those pounds.....well, he will feel like he needs to keep up with his wife if he wants to keep you around:) LOL.

Seriously...just be a good example, that is all you can do. Don't give in and he will grow to admire your will power:)

D-I-V-O-R-C-E or reconsider your choice. my husband would not exercise with me I would beg him to walk around the base with me or after dinner walk he never would. I would try to eat healthy and the more he would come home with all kinds of take out and when we would go out to dinner it was always some meaty joint. I would never be with a man who doesn't work out and eat clean atleast 80% of the time. They will drag you down and keep you from reaching your goals because they are selfish and can't realize that helping me is helping you. The sex will improve I will have more energy to laugh at your dumb jokes be more willing to please you in other ways bc you have showed me, You care about me about us.........If he doesn't have a big gut give him sometime it will grow on him my ex was always slim eat what ever he wanted not any more. he has a gut looks 13 months pregnant. I just look at him and say THANK GOD he is not mines. Only a man going in the same direction as I am or one with a better plan than I got will do. Exercise and eathing healthy............think about it love isn't everything. A piece of mind is priceless.....twistygirl

You cannot and should not try to force him in any way, that being said you should ask him to be more thoughtful and supportive. Once he sees you trimming up and looking hot he'll probably realise he needs to make more effort anyway :0)

lol to a lot of these responses. Mine wasn't on board until I pulled the "this is what I made for dinner - take it or leave it" card. And he was constantly offering me junk food until I SHOWED him this site and where my BMI was (Obese. :sick: ) and then it clicked for him. He's super supportive now!

You can't make him change his eating but you can get him to be supportive of your decision.