when others think your losing to much

It's common for a lot of people. It tends to be more common as a person gets to a "normal" weight in America and tells people that they want to be smaller. Since 2/3 of Americans are overweight or obese, if you start getting down to a lower weight, you can start looking skinny, even if you aren't really close to being underweight.

One thing that might be contributing to your friends' comments is the fact that your clothing is so baggy it could be making you appear that you're already getting "too skinny". Maybe invest in some clothing that fits and the comments will stop?

ETA: Aiming for a high school weight may also be too low for your adult male body-you'll have to figure that out as you get closer. My DH was scrawny in high school and didn't really put on any mass until he was closer to 30. Now, he's almost 40 and trying to lose a few pounds and said he wanted to get back to high school weight. There's no way he'd look good at that weight now since he does have more muscle mass than he did then. You may be the same way?

My advice...aim for a healthy weight for your height and age. I took a quick look at your profile and you stated that you wanted to be around awhile to watch your daughters grow up...I'm in the same boat; getting to a healthy weight substantilly increases your odds of just that.

I agree with weird_me2...a lot of people don't know what "healthy" looks like...they're used to seeing fat *kitten* all over the place. When I first started on this whole adventure, I was around 210 Lbs @ 5' 10" and 38 years old...I had a ton of people asking me why I was trying to lose weight...I looked perfectly healthy to them...even my wife was like, "don't lose too much." I actually showed them the numbers and that in fact, @ my age and height I was overweight and teatering on obese and needed to lose about 35Lbs. I was also starting to have health complications attributable to my weight...so here I am. I've also promised my wife 6 pack abs!

I also agree that investing in some new duds may help...getting ready to do so myself...started off at 210 and am now down to 198.8...ok 199 and I'm just on the edge of going down a pants size. If your clothes are baggy, it makes you look skinny in an "unhealthy" and unnatural way...it's simply not the best presentation. Unfortunately, investment in new clothing is something that just goes with this whole lifestyle change...but on the bright side, with properly fitting clothes, you can strut your stuff!

I think when you tell a person a specific amount of weight, they tend to think it sounds like more than it is (does that make sense?) like when I tell someone I have 20/25lbs to be at my goal weight, I get a raised eyebrow. but If I was to say my goal weight is 140/145 I get a different reaction.

It's common for a lot of people. It tends to be more common as a person gets to a "normal" weight in America and tells people that they want to be smaller. Since 2/3 of Americans are overweight or obese, if you start getting down to a lower weight, you can start looking skinny, even if you aren't really close to being underweight.

One thing that might be contributing to your friends' comments is the fact that your clothing is so baggy it could be making you appear that you're already getting "too skinny". Maybe invest in some clothing that fits and the comments will stop?

ETA: Aiming for a high school weight may also be too low for your adult male body-you'll have to figure that out as you get closer. My DH was scrawny in high school and didn't really put on any mass until he was closer to 30. Now, he's almost 40 and trying to lose a few pounds and said he wanted to get back to high school weight. There's no way he'd look good at that weight now since he does have more muscle mass than he did then. You may be the same way?

That last bit is really good advice. You're likely to have more lean body mass now as an adult than when you were in high school, so be careful trying to get back to that weight. 18-year-old boys aren't done developing! This especially applies if you've been doing strength training and increasing that lean body mass

Now, I'm not saying you don't have more weight to lose, but your ideal is probably somewhere in the middle. Just something to think about. Best of luck!

I started at 255, and by 220 or so people were saying the same to me. I look at my build and want to get down to about 160-170. They will say that is too low, but I can guarantee that if you lift weights while you do this and keep the muscle mass you have, you will look fine even losing those 50 more pounds. My advice, just nod and make a mental note not to tell them your goals ever again.

I usually judge people by their character, not their appearance - but when someone criticizes my body, then I check out theirs - and usually notice that the ones who think I'm skinny tend to have their own BMI in the unhealthy range....

To those that say you're losing too much, ignore them and carry on with your goals. As you get close to your goal you may end up changing your goal. At a certain point fitness becomes more important than the number on the scale.

People said the exact thing to me in my twenties when I got fit, and they are saying it to me now as well.

They are used to us looking a certain way. People do not like change. Actually getting to a weight that is healthy and ideal makes them have to evaluate there own body and fitness levels. If you were once thin/fit, you'll notice the people who knew you when you were thin are excited to see you becoming that way again.

It is the same as when you move from your hometown, many that you left behind are resentful and ask you how you could leave? Makes them question why they are staying.

And some good quotes to sum this up

“You don't need anybody to tell you who you are or what you are. You are what you are!”
― John Lennon

“We judge others instantly by their clothes, their cars, their appearance, their race, their education, their social status. The list is endless. What gets me is that most people decide who another person is before they have even spoken to them. What's even worse is that these same people decide who someone else is, and don't even know who they are themselves.”
― Ashly Lorenzana

None love the messenger who brings bad news.

Sophocles

“It is far safer to know too little than too much. People will condemn the one, though they will resent being called upon to exert themselves to follow the other.”

Samuel Butler quotes (English novelist, essayist and critic, 1835-1902)