3rd day, and I have bombed the first two!

Bulk cook and freeze your own ready meals (crock pot./ slow cooker is great for busy parents), research healthier choices at your favourite eating establishments ahead of time, choose a different restaurant, you don't have to always eat with your boyfriend.

You can do this!! First...gotta ditch the excuses. I counted 4-5 excuses in that small paragraph. As a fitness instructor I have people come up and ask me "what should they do" but the second I start talking they start spitting out excuses like nails. It's your life. You have GOT this! Believe in yourself. Secondly...PREP. Firefox was right. Buy a big ol' thing of chicken for example. Bake/grill it all and throw it in your fridge. Get a bunch of salad veggies, cut them up, put them in containers to grab. Steamable bags of veggies for the microwave are handy too. I'm as good as what's around me, so set yourself up for success and don't have junk in your house. After a super healthy day, and 2 classes my kids had pizza....guess who ended up with one in her mouth? LOL!

Also, 1490 may be a bit low if you have quite a bit to lose. I'd maybe bump it up a bit! :-)

It's okay....it took me several days to get into a routine with logging/eating right. So you slipped up for dinner? That's okay, do good for breakfast the next morning, and lunch and plan for dinner. Just keep planning to do good and logging everything and you'll be fine! Planning is everything. Write out what you want to eat for the next week, look up all the calories in the database. If you have no plan, you'll keep going off track.

You can do this! It's so worth it!

You're making excuses and that will get you nowhere. You made poor choices the 1st two days. You can't blame it on being short on time or going out to look at Christmas lights. If you WANT this, you have to make it a priority and make better choices. DO IT.

People don't quit a habit like smoking without relapses, why would food be different? You just need to realize that every day is a new day and you can't change the past. It will take some experimentaiton for you to find what ways work best for you as an individual to ensure you eat within your goals. Some prepare meals in advance, others eat small amounts throughout the day to keep theirselves in check, some always have granola bars etc on hand... so on so forth. Takes time to get into your groove, but once you do it'll go easier.

Too many excuses and something to remember is you have the control over what goes in your mouth. If there's pizza, have one slice. If there's a huge restaurant meal, eat 1/2 and either leave the rest, give it to hubby or have it boxed. You have to take the responsibility for yourself. Use this as a lesson in how you need to make changes and move on.

Okay, so let's be honest: it's absolutely easy to be influenced by the people we live with. My husband and I were MAJOR fast food addicts. I'm talking, three to four nights a week. We ate infront of the television (still do sometimes), and it was like if we didn't eat JUNK, we'd feel hungry until we got it. It didn't matter if we had a full healthy meal; we wanted junk. Our bodies thought we needed it.

Here's my advice: don't let your boyfriend affect how you eat. Easier said than done, I know, but for example last night my husband, one of our friends and I went to a burger joint. My husband and his friend ate -- wings, fries, cole slaw, the whole shabang. I ate nothing, but I sat and talked with them. I had already eaten at home, and because they were ordering, the waitress didn't care that I was just there to be social.

My husband isn't counting calories, but after me being 2 months without fast food (I became a vegetarian, and so aside from one time of ordering fries and one time of ordering a milkshake there has literally been no fast food for me), his habits are changing now, too. We eat together at home, and it isn't junk, it's food we're cooking. Granted, we still eat a lot of pasta and pizza and carbs, but at least we aren't stuffing our faces with greasy burgers and fries AND the ranch that usually goes with it!

It takes time to establish a new routine, but you have to do this for YOU. I've learned that I am not my husband, and he certainly isn't me. Sometimes we don't eat the same thing, but we still eat together, and honestly I don't miss the grease, the "food hangover," etc. He and I are making changes towards not eating out as often, so not only will our bodies benefit, but so will our bank account.

Trust me when I say it takes time and patience, but if you really want a lifestyle change, you can do it. And that's exactly what this is: it's not a diet, it's not "temporary", it's a lifestyle change. Once I read someone else's post who said that, it changed my world. This is not a temporary crash diet for me, this is my lifestyle. MY lifestyle, not OURS.

Feel free to add me as a friend if you'd like some support!

Its funny how people think they "bomb" a day.
I wrote the original "In place of a road map" because of those posts.
It really opens your eyes to how much you most likely burn vs what you consume.
After you do your own numbers you probably wont feel so bad.
For instance if your TDEE is 2400 and you are consuming appx 1600 daily for 2 weeks then have a day at 3500 did you fail?

The math:

2400x14=33600 burned

1600x13=20800 consumed
3500x1=3500

Total consumed 24300-33600=9300cal deficit for 2 weeks.

Not so bad is it?
http://www.myfitnesspal.com/topics/show/654536-in-place-of-a-road-map-2-0-revised-7-2-12

Quit ur *****in and get back to it!

OP: Do not fear!! You are establishing new habits and new ways of thinking. Ignore the nay-sayers. This is a process. You made progress just by being aware. It takes time to re-learn!

It took me years to lose the weight because of some medical issues but each day I told myself this.

"A year will go by no matter what I do. Do I want to be heavier or lighter. If I keep doing what I am doing I will be even heavier so today I am choosing to do something that will lead me to being lighter."

Watching what I eat for one day did not seem as daunting.

Never quit!! Just keep going and bit by bit it will get easier and more automatic.

I can remember walking in the kitchen picking up a cookie and taking a bite before I even realized what I was doing. I would always spit it out. It helped me remember...."Right!...I can't eat that....I am a skinny girl now!"

Good luck.

D

"Getting knocked down in life is a given. Getting up and moving forward is a choice."