Frustrations with friends

I am trying to friend people who eat well (most of the time-- we all have exceptions!) and exercise regularly. If my friends saw a negative trend in my diet, I would appreciate the check in, since I'd see it as a wake up call. After all, we're on here because we need support! I think you just have to read your post a few times before you send it because tone gets lost in emails/posts. As long as you're constructive, I think it's more than fine.

If I'm going to make comments about people's bad food choices I usually try to do it in a positive and constructive way. Something like "good work on staying under, how about a few more veggies in there/you probably should watch your sodium/are you drinking enough water" as opposed to "you are making bad food choices/you just ate crap all day". Try and encourage them to incorporate healthy things into their diet by positive suggestions.

Having said that if it's happening all the time and they don't really express a desire to change I would just stop commenting and not look at their diary. I suppose you could delete them if it really bothers you. If they are eating within their calories and still losing weight I guess it's each to their own. People are on here for different reason and losing weight even by still eating lots of crap is probably still improving their health. Just harder to stick to long term

I fail to see how their food intake affects your progress. I also fail to see how it is your place to judge their food intake.


If my friends have a good day, I tell them. If they ate nothing but crap, or they went over their caloric limit, I still tell them good job. Ya know why? Because at least they're logging.


Oh, and I lost over 100 lbs shoveling McDonald's, In n Out, Jack in the Box, Taco Bueno, and ungodly amounts of pizza in my face.


Judgy thread is judgy.

I fail to see how their food intake affects your progress. I also fail to see how it is your place to judge their food intake.


If my friends have a good day, I tell them. If they ate nothing but crap, or they went over their caloric limit, I still tell them good job. Ya know why? Because at least they're logging.


Oh, and I lost over 100 lbs shoveling McDonald's, In n Out, Jack in the Box, Taco Bueno, and ungodly amounts of pizza in my face.


Judgy thread is judgy.

well, for me, its simple. im not here to make "regular" friends. im here to lose weight, and if im going to have any friends on my profile, they are going to be friends who i consider "motivating"... someone eating a bunch of crap, to me, is not motivating. do i say anything to them? no, its not my place... but i do delete them. simple as that.

I fail to see how their food intake affects your progress. I also fail to see how it is your place to judge their food intake.


If my friends have a good day, I tell them. If they ate nothing but crap, or they went over their caloric limit, I still tell them good job. Ya know why? Because at least they're logging.


Oh, and I lost over 100 lbs shoveling McDonald's, In n Out, Jack in the Box, Taco Bueno, and ungodly amounts of pizza in my face.


Judgy thread is judgy.

These are foods I ate to get in shape too (except for Jack in the Box, cuz that shish is nastee), so people should be wary of what they think other people need to eat to lose weight. My "junk food" meals are probably better planned out than most people's "clean eating" meals and I hit my macros, stay at my calories, lose weight and get strong. All while enjoying the awesome free wi-fi at McD's.

I'll disagree with Lea on one little thing. This site is set up SO people can check behind other people, so if you want to check and comment, go ahead. If your friends don't like it they can delete you. Or you delete them if their Dunkin Donut habit offends you. I don't check diaries and while my is open to my friends I don't post it at the end of the day. That's the part of the site that just isn't for me, but to each his own.

I had a few people on my friends list quite a few mos. back that every single day was McD's and it was like throughout the day that I ended up deleting. My current friends I am fine with. We all have our days etc.. but I don't see any problems unless going over all the time. But it depends on the situation. Soo as of right now there really isn't anyone to call out on unless asking why they aren't losing weight and they are really always over.

and people r giving me **** for meal replacements its funny as ****!

If you're going to make a topic like this, your diary should be open.

Honestly if the person is in their Macro's and especially if their working out I think they deserve it. Like if my friend went on an 8 mile run and burned 900 calories then damn straight they get a Big Mac or a giant cookie or a bowl of ice cream if they want one! I just see it as them indulging in the things they want but still eating a reasonable amount. The people who limit themselves to very specific foods or refuse to ever eat certain things or only eat diet food are the one who will fail. You won't go your whole life without eating Mcdonald's. MFP for me is all about a life style change. Knowing what you're putting in your body and how much of it. If you're burning it off or eating less of other stuff through out that day and meeting your goals what does it matter what kind of food your're eating ?

I had Wendy's today, ate 1200 calories total and was under in all of my Macro's. I had a Snickers bar a few days ago and was way under on my Macro's, I had a 400 calorie double chocolate donut last week after a 10 mile run and I still had extra calories at the end of the day. You gotta treat yourself to things, the people who end up failing are the ones who forbid themselves from eating certain foods.

What I find MORE ridiculous and unacceptable is people who go around bragging that they have a negative net or they burned off all the calories they are or like OMG GUYS ALL THE CALORIES IA HAD TODAY WAS JUICE IM LYKE SO AWESOME then that **** is getting you deleted. I'd rather see someone eating Mcdonald's and Taco Bell and Dominios every day then see someone restricting

Judgey McJudgey-pants. This is exactly why my diary is locked down like Fort Knox. I am an adult and fully aware of when I don't make good choices. I don't need anyone else "calling me out" on it or suggesting that veggies would be better than a mcdouble. I also fail to see how the food I stuff down my throat impacts you and your choices.

As to doing it "all the time", before you start judging, consider that there may be things going on in their lives that make better choices just not realistic for a time. My parents were both in the hospital for 4 1/2 months. In that time, we also moved and renovated the new house (where we were living), we had to renovate my parents house so they could come home, I had to travel for work, and I got injured and had surgery. Perhaps I would have appreciated your suggestions for how to "cook" healthier meals when my house had no kitchen and I was getting home at midnight only to start renovation work so I could have a kitchen. More likely, I would have been annoyed that you had the balls to criticize my Pizza Hut super-supreme slices for dinner (and breakfast and lunch). I logged what I ate and know full well that my food choices weren't good. But given what all was going on, it's what worked for the time (several months). And while I certainly could have explained all of that to judgmental friends that criticized my eating patterns, I didn't and I shouldn't have to. It's my mouth, my health and my hips that suffered the consequences. I already have enough drama in my life without having to explain what I eat to my friends.

Please don't send a friend request-I don't need judgmental friends who think I'm not capable of determining what foods are and aren't healthy choices.