Single Parents

I went through a divorce. Not by my choice. My now ex decided she would rather have the clubs and party, rather than be a mom. We were married for 7 years. I was happy, I thought she was too. I was active duty in the Air Force, the career was doing well and I was getting prepared for my first transfer overseas. When suddenly she drops a bomb on my and says she wants a divorce. I thought my world was coming to an end. All I could think of was "how can you break up our family"? I kept hearing stories of others seeing her at the clubs, when I would be at work. I remember countless times waiting for her to come home late at night. I don't know, I kept trying.
The divorce was horrible, the fighting and all the accusations. And when kids are involved, it is even worse. She tried everything to hurt me, she even had me arrested for "offensive touching". That was dropped when she couldn't prove her case. And she couldn't, because I'm not that type of a person. It was the lowest point in my life, I can't tell you the times I cried going into a empty house. I would hear the voices of the kids echoing in the house. I would visualize where the coach was, where our Christmas tree was. I thought that my world had ended. I truly loved being married. I was scared to be alone. I thought I would never meet anyone again.
Any way I could write a book, but let me skip some chapters and say this.
I met a lady, who is now my wife of nearly 20 years. For every thing that happens, there is a reason. We may not know the reason at that time, but there is. If it were not for that horrible event in my life, I would never have met my wife.
Let me say this.
Right now, it hurts. And you are going to hurt. And that is ok. Recognize it. Face it, I know you can. You are a lot stronger than you think you are. Be there for your children, they will need you.
Eventually, you are going to meet the right person. And when you do, you will be in love again and you will move on. You can move on now, you don't need anyone in your life just now.
You are a human being, you are a strong woman. You are entitled to cry, you are entitled to hurt. But you are strong, and you will get through all of this.
I describe life like this, to people.
Do you remember when you were growing up and your parents would take you on a long road trip? You would sit in the back, bored and always asking..."Are we there yet?". And of course the parents would get tired of us asking.
Well, in life, I look at us being the kids riding in a big car we call life. God is our driver. Sometimes we just need to realize that life is going to come across bumpy roads. It isn't all smooth sailing. But we have a destiny, we have a purpose. And instead of asking God, "Am I there yet?". Just enjoy the trip, look out the window, and learn from each place we visit in life.
You are ok, you are going to be ok. Smile, look at that face in the mirror. You are a beautiful and attrative young woman with a HUGE heart of gold. You will meet someone who will treat you right. And when you do, you're going to look back on this experience as a closed chapter!!