I'm so screwed>>> help

thoseblueeyes
thoseblueeyes Posts: 812 Member
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Okay guys so I need help... in more than one way ( haha) I want to know what do you do when someone your JUST started dating tells you he loves you . You really like him but don't love him? This is my situation .....I don't want to hurt his feelings and really want to keep dating him but I can't lie and say I love him when I don't......

Any suggestions how to let him down easy and still date him?
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  • BEERRUNNER
    BEERRUNNER Posts: 3,046 Member
    How long have you been dating....
  • Rum_Runner
    Rum_Runner Posts: 617 Member
    "Thank you"
  • FightingforFit82
    FightingforFit82 Posts: 179
    Tell him just that. You're not in love with him but still would like to date. You never know what the future holds.
  • mrs_schultz2012
    mrs_schultz2012 Posts: 395 Member
    just tell him that you really like him and are interested in dating, but feel it's too early to say i love you...
  • azzkikin
    azzkikin Posts: 458 Member
    "aww, aren't you a cute one. How about them Bears?"
  • felice03
    felice03 Posts: 2,644 Member
    if you can't communicate with him now, then there is no hope....so in the wise words of a certain MFPer


    Just Break Up.
  • JennaM222
    JennaM222 Posts: 1,996 Member
    Drink on your dates.
  • MidwestAngel
    MidwestAngel Posts: 1,897 Member
    if you can't communicate with him now, then there is no hope....so in the wise words of a certain MFPer


    Just Break Up.
    ^This
  • MikeyD1280
    MikeyD1280 Posts: 5,257
    "Thank you"

    hahaha... I said that! ...

    Honest is best. Be real!
  • MyPaperBleedsInk
    MyPaperBleedsInk Posts: 240 Member
    Similar thing happened to me.
    Thankfully since I left him an awkward pause, he brought it up later.... and I just told him that I thought he had said it too fast.
    Then the same thing happened again later.... only this time I didn't say it because it's just awkward... people in my family don't use the L word. Thankfully he brought it up this time too.

    But if your guy doesn't mention it, you should be the one to bring it up. Otherwise who know what he's thinking and stressing out over in his mind....
  • thoseblueeyes
    thoseblueeyes Posts: 812 Member
    about a month.... not long at all but we have been together almost everyday.
  • Chief_Rocka
    Chief_Rocka Posts: 4,710 Member
    "I think you're a nice guy, but my feelings aren't there yet."
  • MikeyD1280
    MikeyD1280 Posts: 5,257
    about a month.... not long at all but we have been together almost everyday.

    time is irrelevant... there are thousands of people who are married many years from "love at first sight". The question is, if you feel such a strong connection, are you putting a timeframe to say it?
  • thoseblueeyes
    thoseblueeyes Posts: 812 Member
    "aww, aren't you a cute one. How about them Bears?"

    Love this maybe I should use this...lol

    Thanks for all the wonderful advise sooooon who is going to tell him for me? Any takers?
  • UsedToBeHusky
    UsedToBeHusky Posts: 15,228 Member
    Simple... tell him you just feel that it is too soon to be moving so fast.
  • corn63
    corn63 Posts: 1,580 Member
    if you can't communicate with him now, then there is no hope....so in the wise words of a certain MFPer


    Just Break Up.

    Ditto.
  • drmerc
    drmerc Posts: 2,603 Member
    You should have just told me in person instead of asking MFP :(
  • Cliffslosinit
    Cliffslosinit Posts: 5,044 Member
    Baby just tell him the truth.
    You are NOT over me yet.
    We are still knocking the boots.
    Also tell him I appreciate him taking you out.
    It's cheaper on me.
  • MikeyD1280
    MikeyD1280 Posts: 5,257
    ut oh....

    Mx6kj.gif
  • sunsnstatheart
    sunsnstatheart Posts: 2,544 Member
    Good god, is he 16?
  • Pixi_Rex
    Pixi_Rex Posts: 1,676 Member
    "I think you're pretty nifty."
  • thoseblueeyes
    thoseblueeyes Posts: 812 Member
    about a month.... not long at all but we have been together almost everyday.

    time is irrelevant... there are thousands of people who are married many years from "love at first sight". The question is, if you feel such a strong connection, are you putting a timeframe to say it?

    No to be honest I just became single in Aug so really no time limit but I was with my EX for 23 yrs. I wanted to just date many guys and have fun.
  • thoseblueeyes
    thoseblueeyes Posts: 812 Member
    You should have just told me in person instead of asking MFP :(

    lol well you know I thought this way might be easier for you. sorry HUN!
  • thoseblueeyes
    thoseblueeyes Posts: 812 Member
    Baby just tell him the truth.
    You are NOT over me yet.
    We are still knocking the boots.
    Also tell him I appreciate him taking you out.
    It's cheaper on me.

    shhhhh he might hear ya.
  • corn63
    corn63 Posts: 1,580 Member
    about a month.... not long at all but we have been together almost everyday.

    time is irrelevant... there are thousands of people who are married many years from "love at first sight". The question is, if you feel such a strong connection, are you putting a timeframe to say it?

    No to be honest I just became single in Aug so really no time limit but I was with my EX for 23 yrs. I wanted to just date many guys and have fun.

    Rule #1 of dating, since you're new to the scene...

    If you want to date many guys, you don't hang out with one guy for a month straight every day. It gives them a false idea of WTF is going on.
  • MikeyD1280
    MikeyD1280 Posts: 5,257
    word. When me and my ex broke up, I didn't date for over a year. When I did decide to date, I just wanted to play the field. I wound up in love with the girl that I am with now. Wasn't my plan. Expect the unexpected. And if you are looking for casual dating, be UPFRONT, that doesn't not make you a bad person, just note that his reaction may not be what you see going through your mind...
  • nbhobbes
    nbhobbes Posts: 284
    A month really isn't all that long.. He may mean it but really how well can he know you after only a month. He may be confusing lust for love or he may just be saying it as he thinks it is expected. (Especially if your together every day.)

    I would tell him that your not there yet and wanna take things slow.
  • skinnyinnotime
    skinnyinnotime Posts: 4,078 Member
    You need to say "I love youtube" really fast!!
  • ShreddedTweet
    ShreddedTweet Posts: 1,326 Member
    about a month.... not long at all but we have been together almost everyday.

    time is irrelevant... there are thousands of people who are married many years from "love at first sight". The question is, if you feel such a strong connection, are you putting a timeframe to say it?

    No to be honest I just became single in Aug so really no time limit but I was with my EX for 23 yrs. I wanted to just date many guys and have fun.

    Rule #1 of dating, since you're new to the scene...

    If you want to date many guys, you don't hang out with one guy for a month straight every day. It gives them a false idea of WTF is going on.

    This!!! I think he has a different impression of what you're doing and why wouldn't he? If you want to date lots of men, date LOTS OF MEN. You've basically jumped from one relationship straight into another one...it's ill advised!
  • Molly_Maguire
    Molly_Maguire Posts: 1,103 Member
    I would tell him you don't lightly use that term, and you want to see where the relationship will go before you emotionally commit to him like that.

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