Moving for work

farmgirlsuz
farmgirlsuz Posts: 351 Member
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Just throwing this out there-my bf of 6 years just found out his company has been bought out and it is a distinct possibility that his job may be eliminated. He has a very industry specific type of job of which there are very few around this area, but there are other areas of the country where he could move to and find a new job.
Question I am posing-has anyone else out there had to do this? Any advise both for and against?
Me personally-I am always up for something new and a challenge, but this would mean leaving family behind. (Not always a BAD thing if you know what I mean!)

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  • DS04
    DS04 Posts: 48
    My situation is not entirely the same because I have a job but I have been moving about every three years with the military. Haven't lived around family in 16 years. Always exciting.
  • maqsmj
    maqsmj Posts: 697
    i moved almost 5 times for my job, even i changed whole countries for that, it just needs commitment and some sacrifice but it always worth it.
  • jamiem1102
    jamiem1102 Posts: 1,196 Member
    I'm the opposite. I moved across the country for school, and my bf was going to go with me despite the fact that for his industry staying behind was much better for his career. I guess my situation's a lot different as my move is temporary. In any case, I would suggest that if you're up for a new challenge, why not move and have adventures with your man? It'd be fun, and besides, if you really hated wherever he moved to... there's always the option of going back. Nothing has to be necessarily permanent, right?
  • FallingInLoveWithMe
    FallingInLoveWithMe Posts: 92 Member
    Moving can be fun... but I wouldn't move for someone who isn't permanently part of my life unless I just didn't have anything better going on career wise
  • Cindy873
    Cindy873 Posts: 1,165
    I moved multiple times for my last job, including moving out of the country. It was absolutely worth it! I met tons of great people, experienced different cultures, and made the break from my family - which allowed me to grow as an adult in ways that I couldn't when I was around them. It also made my marriage stronger, as my husband and I had to start over with just us and the kids and no support network with every move. When we got tired of moving and I was ready to change jobs, we had a better idea of where we wanted to settle permanently.
  • 31993703
    31993703 Posts: 1,144
    Has he not put a ring on your finger after 6 years? Time to move on.
  • sedwards9999
    sedwards9999 Posts: 160 Member
    Jobs are hard to come by now. I would move for a good opportunity if possible. He/you can always move back.
  • dcdemocrat34
    dcdemocrat34 Posts: 33
    Each situation is different, 3 years ago I loved to DC to be with my boyfriend (I live in Houston) We had been dating for 2 years, and I wasn't tied to my job. It was a fantastic decision, as I got to experience a new part of the US, and learn more about how tough I really was. Although I enjoyed the experience, it also made me realize how much I missed Houston, and my family, and friends. I ended up moving back within 2 years, and never looked back. The boyfriend is now my fiance, and he is moving here in the new year. Make sure you have a strong relationship, as you will depend on him for quite a bit, but it can be done. I am a firm believer everyone should live one other place besides where they grew up, or went to school.

    GOOD LUCK!
  • EvgeniZyntx
    EvgeniZyntx Posts: 24,208 Member
    I've moved for a job to other countries 3 times and various times within country.

    Only move TO a new and exciting situation, never FROM a bad position.
    Find it and commit.
  • Bahet
    Bahet Posts: 1,254 Member
    We started out in MI. DH was activated with the military reserves and sent to Iraq. His company laid him off when they found out it was very likely he'd go. (Yes, it's illegal but JAG wouldn't do anything about it since they weren't stupid enough to put it in writing.) So when he got back we had no job in MI so we decided to move to AZ. We'd been wanting to do that for a few years anyhow but hubby couldn't make even close to the same money there. By the time he got home from Iraq his field was drying up in MI so he wasn't going to be getting anything there anyhow.

    We lived in MI for 5 years when DH got a job offer that relocated us to Germany. It was supposed to be 2-5 years but great big huge ugly mess of stupid later and we were only there for 1 1/2 years. He got another job and we are now in VA and have been here for just over 2 years.

    My advice is have a job lined up before you move. Then you'll not only have income but you'll know where to target for housing. When we moved to AZ we picked an area we liked that was near enough to Phoenix that a commute wasn't going to be a problem. Unfortunately, DH's job was on the other side of Phoenix from our house so he ended up with a 42 mile commute every day. I'd also recommend having a good amount in savings if you are moving without a job and I also wouldn't move unless "boyfriend" was changed to at LEAST fiancee and preferably husband.
  • farmgirlsuz
    farmgirlsuz Posts: 351 Member
    Thanks for all the responses-definitely some things to think about.
    As far as not having a ring on my finger-that is a mutual decision. We are both adults and have been around a couple of times. Honestly-I can not think of a good reason to say "I do" at this point. "We do" and that is all that matters to us. Neither of us have a good amount of wealth, nor will we ever but we live a very comfortable life.
    Once again-thanks for the responses!
    Oh-anybody have any thoughts on Denver suburbs? Yay or nay?
  • EvgeniZyntx
    EvgeniZyntx Posts: 24,208 Member
    Thanks for all the responses-definitely some things to think about.
    As far as not having a ring on my finger-that is a mutual decision. We are both adults and have been around a couple of times. Honestly-I can not think of a good reason to say "I do" at this point. "We do" and that is all that matters to us. Neither of us have a good amount of wealth, nor will we ever but we live a very comfortable life.
    Once again-thanks for the responses!
    Oh-anybody have any thoughts on Denver suburbs? Yay or nay?

    See the image in my ticker? That is the Colorado Trail - so yay to Denver.
  • imchicbad
    imchicbad Posts: 1,650 Member
    Ive relocated 2 times because of my husbands job, for the first time next year in May it will be because of mine :). I love our family, but they dont pay our bills, and jobs and oppertunity do not grow on trees nor are there an abundance of either.
    Count your blessings and thank God for what you have been offered. family is always family. Like you said its not always a bad thing. Makes the family gatherings more fun and more memorable.
  • farmgirlsuz
    farmgirlsuz Posts: 351 Member
    [[/quote]

    See the image in my ticker? That is the Colorado Trail - so yay to Denver.
    [/quote]

    Your ticker photo is EXACTLY why we are thinking Colorado. (Well that and the b/f has a Jeep that is DYING to hit the high trails!)

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