Realising my life is drifting on by

not digging into your trauma so here is what i feel might work. #1 TRY to look at glass as half full. you are losing weight, you have a boyfriend, you have goals, 24 is young. #2 figure out your interests. wanting to lose weight, certain TV shows and other things and find people who share these interests with you and try to first connect on internet and then look for areas in your community where people with these commonalities hang out. #3 be your biggest cheerleader. positive self talk in your head, leave positive voice mails you yourself and write positive things on post-its and leave them up around the house or on your bathroom mirror. you have to jump start the positive stuff like being on mfp and run with it! good luck!

Pop wisdom states: "When something bad happens to you, you have three choices. You can let it define you. You can let it destroy you. Or you can let it strengthen you."

From your description, it sounds like you might be a bit depressed. Talk therapy may help that. Also, don't try to change everything all at once, but rather take one step at a time out of the grey cloud. Make small changes, set some simple goals for yourself, and recognize when you've made progress with them. Start out with making a plan to go do something you don't usually do (visit a museum, or see a show) and make an effort with your appearance on that day. See how it goes, and go from there.

First, you are brave for writing this all out and putting it out there. I am around your age and I feel that I also don't have the social life I would like to have, and feel people don't "relate" to me. I don't have a boyfriend and most of my friends are home-bodies, whereas I would like to go out more so it leaves me feeling like I should just stay home too since it takes way too much effort to get everyone to pick a place, get ready, and then fight off losers who think that just becuase I'm there at a club I want them.
Second, it sounds like you don't have someone to talk to about you trauma, and help you overcome it and that's why you keep dwelling on it. Maybe it is a 1/4life crisis but just know that for now look for a distraction, find a fun run or 5k to train for so that way you are occupying your time, training and getting fit. Hope you feel better :happy:

You seem a lot like me, we are introverted. Once I realized what my personality type was, it really helped me go a long way with accepting myself for who I am. Instead of fretting over what I did or didn't have, I started trying to work with who I am. I realize and accept that there are times I just will be a homebody and have "no social" life, but I also realize that I crave and have a need to get out too. So I just enjoy the times I stay home and when I start to feel too couped up, I make a priority of planning something to do to get out.

I'm 35 and it's taken me years to figure this all out. It's definitely been a roller coaster of emotion. I've been through some pretty tough stuff and hard times and a few times have been pretty low and depressed. But each time I overcame it and learn to deal with things better.

You are really young, and you have the whole world out there! Everyone has given really good advice and they are all words to live by. There is no special point where you all of a sudden feel "grown up". I still don't feel like a grown up, I have lots of insecurities and doubts a lot of times. I think most people do, they just learn to suppress them and as Pomegranate said you have 3 choices...I try to become stronger and push through it. My current big regret is realizing here I am, 35, and been whining about my weight and size for my entire adult life...17 years! Why and what is stopping me from doing anything about it?? NOTHING!! Nothing but myself. So, I resolved to stop doing that For the first time in 17 years though, I feel like...actually I KNOW that it is not just some wish that I'll never get...I now KNOW that I will be thin, and it will happen within the year. Just KNOWING that has made all the difference!!

Really, life is a mental game. It's up to us how we play it. I've done the "woe is me, life sucks" game, and didn't like it. Life is too short!