Bisexuality

Heterosexual people dont go around confessing they are heterosexual..

Well yeah. Because being heterosexual is the norm. o.O

Look, before acceptance can happen there needs to be acknowledgement. Black people look black, fat people look fat, etc.

Despite what many people see/believe gay and bisexual people do not look gay unless they go out of their way to embrace sterotypical behavior and dress. So people will tell you they are whatever because they want to be accepted for who they are. You may not think that's important but it is. People don't want to hide who they are from the world they want to be themselves.

Have you seen the shyte bisexual people get from every turn. Gays look down on them because they "aren't really gay", straights either tell them "you aren't bisexual, you are confused" or think of them as being such sluts that they can't even limit themselves to trying to bang 1/2 the people, or just lump them in with "the gays"

Why on earth would anyone CHOOSE that? Bisexuals cannot help being bisexual anymore than I can help being straight

Amen!! So being straight is obviously fine, being gay, hell if it has to be, fine, but being bisexual is "curious" or "confused". That confuses me. Oh, hang on, maybe that means you're right! People fall in love. For some people, it doesn't matter what sex the person is they fall in love with. That doesn't mean they are confused. It means they love a person for who they are and not what they are. When I met my girlfriend, she blew me away (still does). Even though I had only had relationships with men until that point, I just knew she's the one. Haven't been curious about being/dating/sleeping with anyone else since :-)

It's funny though, my buddy Dave told me he was seeing someone and I asked him if the new guy played poker. He very casually said "I haven't asked her"

I paused and was dumbfounded but then finally said "TRAITOR!!!" then we laughed and laughed. He's married now, I'm not a huge fan of his husband because he won't give us this level of good natured ribbing or play rockband. We've tried and he just won't join in our reindeer games.

I'm really glad you have come to terms with this honey. I think people have left you some excellent advice. Try to build up your resources and networks. Look for LGBTQ resources in your area. If you are in school seek out "safe zone" educators to talk with. I want to leave a more resource-filled post for you but I'm on my way out. Hopefully I can come back to this thread later and elaborate. But anyway I just wanted to chime in and add my support.

Sometimes I find it hard to believe that in 2012 people are still concerned about sexual orientation. Meaning, parents, family, and friends who ostracize gay or bisexual individuals. Its very sad that some parents disown their children over something so small.

Have you seen the shyte bisexual people get from every turn. Gays look down on them because they "aren't really gay", straights either tell them "you aren't bisexual, you are confused" or think of them as being such sluts that they can't even limit themselves to trying to bang 1/2 the people, or just lump them in with "the gays"

Why on earth would anyone CHOOSE that? Bisexuals cannot help being bisexual anymore than I can help being straight

Amen!! So being straight is obviously fine, being gay, hell if it has to be, fine, but being bisexual is "curious" or "confused". That confuses me. Oh, hang on, maybe that means you're right! People fall in love. For some people, it doesn't matter what sex the person is they fall in love with. That doesn't mean they are confused. It means they love a person for who they are and not what they are. When I met my girlfriend, she blew me away (still does). Even though I had only had relationships with men until that point, I just knew she's the one. Haven't been curious about being/dating/sleeping with anyone else since :-)

It's funny though, my buddy Dave told me he was seeing someone and I asked him if the new guy played poker. He very casually said "I haven't asked her"

I paused and was dumbfounded but then finally said "TRAITOR!!!" then we laughed and laughed. He's married now, I'm not a huge fan of his husband because he won't give us this level of good natured ribbing or play rockband. We've tried and he just won't join in our reindeer games.

No not trolling at all.

Not attacking you my friend, but would you say that your friend chose to date that girl?

Choosing to date =/= Choosing the attraction.

Ok.

So I don't consider myself bisexual because there's a lot of heaviness involved with the label. I've dated women. I prefer women. However currently I am in a long term relationship with a man. So for all intents and purposes, I'm straight. I have never once told someone I'm bisexual even though technically I guess that's what I am.

I don't see a need to "come out" as bisexual unless you end up in a same sex relationship. Society isn't entirely accepting of change and there's still HUGE issues with homosexuality and then you throw another wrench in there and bisexuality gets frowned on from both sides of the fence. I'm all for loving who you will, but I don't see a need to announce it. People don't walk around going "I'm straight" or "I'm gay" and no matter what your sexuality will be defined by who you're dating at the time.

So to the OP....just chill. It'll be ok. Date who you want but don't put this intense pressure on yourself to make up your mind. That's what being young is about. You can't help who you're attracted to and you should be with whoever makes you happy. I just don't see the need to announce it when everything is still all back and forth.

I'm not so great at phrasing the things I think so this may come off differently than I intend.

Choosing to date =/= Choosing the attraction.

So I guess the question he's asking is, "why choose to pursue attractions to the same sex if you also are attracted to the opposite sex?"

You can't force people to accept who you are.

Last time I checked love wasn't a conditional thing

Agreed. But being bisexual instead of being straight 'gay', to me, would be more considered curiosity/promiscuity. Instead of telling your family who will judge you that you want to sleep with multiple people of different sexes, why not save something that big for the actual 'gay' presentation?

I'm sorry that you are so closed minded as to assume that bisexuality is something akin to a phase. Perhaps I should explain that to my ex-husband (male) whom I share 3 children with or maybe my current spouse (female); that I am just exploring my options because I am bisexual ... or better yet ... I should take out an ad in the paper professing my bisexuality and offer up my body to anyone interested that fits my preferred type for a man or a woman ... just so ... you know ... I can check out all my options before I decide to just be gay.

I'm usually not one to be negative towards other posters ... but please ... try not to be so damn shallow or stupid as to assume that bisexual preferences are just a stage of indecision or an excuse to sleep around.

Try to think next time, Jack-hole.

I don't think my post was worth your 'unusual'l menstrual anger attack - and its pissy fits like that that will get this thread closed.

How in the sam heck is saying that its unwise for someone who posts about coming out to their parents about being 'bisexual' which to them is pretty much just being gay - shallow and stupid? She hasnt dated women. She is flirting with the thought of it for less than half a year, and she wants to TRY it. She wants to come out of the 'closet' to an unaccepting family for something that she doesnt even know she wants yet.

If you were to drank beer once, would you run do your family and exclaim you are an alchoholic?

Have you seen the shyte bisexual people get from every turn. Gays look down on them because they "aren't really gay", straights either tell them "you aren't bisexual, you are confused" or think of them as being such sluts that they can't even limit themselves to trying to bang 1/2 the people, or just lump them in with "the gays"

Why on earth would anyone CHOOSE that? Bisexuals cannot help being bisexual anymore than I can help being straight

Amen!! So being straight is obviously fine, being gay, hell if it has to be, fine, but being bisexual is "curious" or "confused". That confuses me. Oh, hang on, maybe that means you're right! People fall in love. For some people, it doesn't matter what sex the person is they fall in love with. That doesn't mean they are confused. It means they love a person for who they are and not what they are. When I met my girlfriend, she blew me away (still does). Even though I had only had relationships with men until that point, I just knew she's the one. Haven't been curious about being/dating/sleeping with anyone else since :-)

It's funny though, my buddy Dave told me he was seeing someone and I asked him if the new guy played poker. He very casually said "I haven't asked her"

I paused and was dumbfounded but then finally said "TRAITOR!!!" then we laughed and laughed. He's married now, I'm not a huge fan of his husband because he won't give us this level of good natured ribbing or play rockband. We've tried and he just won't join in our reindeer games.

No not trolling at all.

Not attacking you my friend, but would you say that your friend chose to date that girl?

Because we rib each other about everything at every turn. We both thought it was funny and then we continued with "why won't you bring your significant others to poker?"