eating at the in-laws (gross).. what would you do?
mjoslin1990
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So here's el deali-o my in-laws seem like clean people, until you walk into their house. It's not like hoarders gone mad or anything, the floor is clutter free.
The problem is the kitchen table has junk all over it! The house smells like bug bombs (due to the German roaches they are trying to kill off with little success). The kitchen plumbing doesn't work (and hasnt for 7+yrs) and it's just piled with nasty dishes. (they eat out every night so those dishes have been dirty for quite some time).
Anyways the house grosses me out being there. My mother in law took it upon herself to decide for everyone that we are going over there for Christmas eve "dinner". She's making chili. Honestly I'm a little irritated that she just assumed I wanna be at her house after I get off work. My family was planning on us going my moms since she lives the farthest (my in-laws live 3 houses down from us)
So the question is would you eat her food? I don't want to be rude, but I'm not sure I'm going to have an appetite once I step into the house. Seeing the roaches alone grosses me out. I know she's got to really scrub those pans to even use them, and I don't think shes going to be bleaching them like I would.
Lately it's also been said that I'm mean to my in-laws. Honestly I'm not, they just talk ABOUT me nonstop so I choose to not see them unless I have to, which is hard since they live 3 houses down. I don't want to be rude by turning down the food, but I don't want to get a bowl and waste it by not eating it. What would you do?
The problem is the kitchen table has junk all over it! The house smells like bug bombs (due to the German roaches they are trying to kill off with little success). The kitchen plumbing doesn't work (and hasnt for 7+yrs) and it's just piled with nasty dishes. (they eat out every night so those dishes have been dirty for quite some time).
Anyways the house grosses me out being there. My mother in law took it upon herself to decide for everyone that we are going over there for Christmas eve "dinner". She's making chili. Honestly I'm a little irritated that she just assumed I wanna be at her house after I get off work. My family was planning on us going my moms since she lives the farthest (my in-laws live 3 houses down from us)
So the question is would you eat her food? I don't want to be rude, but I'm not sure I'm going to have an appetite once I step into the house. Seeing the roaches alone grosses me out. I know she's got to really scrub those pans to even use them, and I don't think shes going to be bleaching them like I would.
Lately it's also been said that I'm mean to my in-laws. Honestly I'm not, they just talk ABOUT me nonstop so I choose to not see them unless I have to, which is hard since they live 3 houses down. I don't want to be rude by turning down the food, but I don't want to get a bowl and waste it by not eating it. What would you do?
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Talk about how full you are from the pitch-in luncheon and snacks at work....0
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I would get a bowl and play around in it, but not eat it, maybe even pretend to eat it. Not getting a bowl will start drama, trust me.0
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Take along a side dish, like a salad, and only eat the salad. No one will notice and they'll appreciate spending the evening with you.0
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No. I would not eat. I like using the idea that you hoarded food at work and you're full.0
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i had the same issue with my fella when we first got together. he lived far away, so i only saw him at weekends. he's also a widower, so until a couple of years previously, his wife had taken care of the housework.
i tried the whole tactful thing, like offering to help with the cooking so i could clean too and know what my food had touched, and at one point i even blitzed the kitchen every weekend. However i was so annoyed when i'd come back the next weekend and it'd be a tip again - he even had slugs coming up the drain!
in the end, i told him i wouldn't be cleaning his house again til i lived with him. a week after that, he asked if i'd make him dinner for when he got in, and i did, serving him chilli in a collander with a ladle. i told him they were the only clean things i could find in his kitchen, and i wouldn't be eating anything from it again - i ordered take out for 2 weeks to prove my point, and he eventually got his act together.
ultimatley tho, i was only able to do this because our relationship is secure, and i knew he cared about me being happy. if you don't have that with the in-laws, the tactful approach, or throwing a sickie might be better
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Just get drunk or a little toasted before going. Get munchies and be in a good mood so you don't worry about little things. Everyone wins, you're happy, in laws happy, everybody happy!0
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So here's el deali-o my in-laws seem like clean people, until you walk into their house. It's not like hoarders gone mad or anything, the floor is clutter free.
The problem is the kitchen table has junk all over it! The house smells like bug bombs (due to the German roaches they are trying to kill off with little success). The kitchen plumbing doesn't work (and hasnt for 7+yrs) and it's just piled with nasty dishes. (they eat out every night so those dishes have been dirty for quite some time).
Anyways the house grosses me out being there. My mother in law took it upon herself to decide for everyone that we are going over there for Christmas eve "dinner". She's making chili. Honestly I'm a little irritated that she just assumed I wanna be at her house after I get off work. My family was planning on us going my moms since she lives the farthest (my in-laws live 3 houses down from us)
So the question is would you eat her food? I don't want to be rude, but I'm not sure I'm going to have an appetite once I step into the house. Seeing the roaches alone grosses me out. I know she's got to really scrub those pans to even use them, and I don't think shes going to be bleaching them like I would.
Lately it's also been said that I'm mean to my in-laws. Honestly I'm not, they just talk ABOUT me nonstop so I choose to not see them unless I have to, which is hard since they live 3 houses down. I don't want to be rude by turning down the food, but I don't want to get a bowl and waste it by not eating it. What would you do?
Wow. I just lost my appetite from reading this.0 -
Fake the flu, and stay home!0
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I like the idea someone above had of bringing along a salad, and just eating that. Tell them you're really trying to eat healthy, and saving your extra calories for Christmas Day.
I get the cleanliness thing though. People who don't live in FL, don't get our 'issues' with roaches. I'm OCD about cleaning and pest control, and am lucky not to have them in my house. I think if I saw one I might set the house on fire to kill it. LOL0 -
Eat before you go. Pretend you are eating what is cooked, then say that you are really committed to losing weight. So you must be choosy as to what you eating.
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Come down with a 3 hour flu?0
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I would refuse to go. That's just nasty. If it's dirty and there's bugs, there is no way in hell I'd go in there, much less eat in that filth. You can get sick. Don't let them make you out to be the bad person, you're not the one living in squaller expecting everyone to be okay with it.0
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Fake the flu, and stay home!
this!!! Say you've got the stomach flu and can't keep anything down. To risk infecting anyone else, you're being kind and staying home. Tell DH to bring a bowl home (which you will forget in the fridge for a week, then go for it and say "aaww shoot, I forgot about the chili, can't eat it now, it's bad!!")
If DH will be upset that you're faking, then take a glass of water to the bathroom, shut the door, make a "sick" sound, and dump water in the toilet.. see! you ARE sick...
(umm.. I didn't do this to get out of school, I SWEAR!!)0 -
Eat.
Smile.
Shut up.0 -
Oh no, far enough keep everywhere else dirty in the house, but my belief is the kitchen should be clean at all times. Your preparing food in there that's going to enter your body. I would just make an excuse saying I had a really big lunch and don't feel hungry, but I certainly would do everything to avoid eating anything there!!! x0
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Just get drunk or a little toasted before going. Get munchies and be in a good mood so you don't worry about little things. Everyone wins, you're happy, in laws happy, everybody happy!
Show up stinking drink with a couple of bottles of wine. They will join you, or ask you to leave.0 -
grossness.....
Ok that said....Looks like you're stuck going right? Any way out of it?
I like the eating before hand and "picking at a bowl" throughout the dinner hour.
I can't stand when my in-laws talk about me and I live 1900 miles away. But here's the thing....you've got to suck it up, plaster on a smile and go over and be all Merry Christmas.
)))))))))))
It's Christmas and it's your man's parents. My in-laws are boarder line hoarders but their plumbing works Their kitchen is clean so I can't complain there. But dang the feeling when I'm in that house just over whelms me. I just want to throw stuff away. It's claustraphopic. UGhhhhh
Pull on your big girl panties, head on over, take a bag to scoop it into so it looks like you ate. . and then all day tomorrow spend it with your family and relax
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Divorce ! :laugh:0
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tell them the truth, you were planning on going to your moms first so go there, tell them you'll catch up on boxing day. at the least it gives you another day or so to figure out a plan!0
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If you already had plans to go somewhere else, why did you change them?0
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I don't want to be rude by turning down the food, but I don't want to get a bowl and waste it by not eating it. What would you do?
Waste it. Get the bowl, play around, maybe nibble.. blame it on your "diet" that you're not eating as much as you used to .. or something.
Also, if there are non-cooked foods, like finger foods, fill up on those (as long as they are not super unhealthy)0 -
I wouldn't go. not to mention you could accidentally bring a roach home in your purse or something0
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Fake the flu, and stay home!
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wow I can't believe how many people are telling you go in a filth-house. gross.0
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So here's el deali-o my in-laws seem like clean people, until you walk into their house. It's not like hoarders gone mad or anything, the floor is clutter free.
The problem is the kitchen table has junk all over it! The house smells like bug bombs (due to the German roaches they are trying to kill off with little success). The kitchen plumbing doesn't work (and hasnt for 7+yrs) and it's just piled with nasty dishes. (they eat out every night so those dishes have been dirty for quite some time).
Anyways the house grosses me out being there. My mother in law took it upon herself to decide for everyone that we are going over there for Christmas eve "dinner". She's making chili. Honestly I'm a little irritated that she just assumed I wanna be at her house after I get off work. My family was planning on us going my moms since she lives the farthest (my in-laws live 3 houses down from us)
So the question is would you eat her food? I don't want to be rude, but I'm not sure I'm going to have an appetite once I step into the house. Seeing the roaches alone grosses me out. I know she's got to really scrub those pans to even use them, and I don't think shes going to be bleaching them like I would.
Lately it's also been said that I'm mean to my in-laws. Honestly I'm not, they just talk ABOUT me nonstop so I choose to not see them unless I have to, which is hard since they live 3 houses down. I don't want to be rude by turning down the food, but I don't want to get a bowl and waste it by not eating it. What would you do?
I wonder what happened to the original plan to visit your own parents on Christmas Eve????
You have other issues with getting along with these inlaws, it not JUST the dirty kitchen issue. Your husband should be standing up for you and tell them to stop talking about you. If they do it in front of you, as if you are not there, you need to speak up and tell them to stop. This can be done politely and kindly. Figure out what to say ahead of time.
If you must be there for dinner tonight, I agee with other posters, bring a big salad and some disposable bowls and forks. Take a bowl of chili and play with it but don't eat it. Go on about how good it is, if you are questioned, but make an excuse about not being hungry. Believe me, I feel for you. I'd have gone crazy if I lived that close to my in laws.0 -
I would honestly stay home.0
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i think if i were you i would eat before i go and just push my food around the plate saying i didnt feel well....
i had a similar problem with my outlaws they thought i was a snob and didnt like me much. i wasnt, i just wasnt a low life like them lol...0 -
GROSS! I would NOT go! That's ****ing disgusting. Sorry... I have to go to my in-laws' house tonight as well, but at least their food is somewhat safe. I just have to watch out for poison LOL0
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So here's el deali-o my in-laws seem like clean people, until you walk into their house. It's not like hoarders gone mad or anything, the floor is clutter free.
The problem is the kitchen table has junk all over it! The house smells like bug bombs (due to the German roaches they are trying to kill off with little success). The kitchen plumbing doesn't work (and hasnt for 7+yrs) and it's just piled with nasty dishes. (they eat out every night so those dishes have been dirty for quite some time).
Anyways the house grosses me out being there. My mother in law took it upon herself to decide for everyone that we are going over there for Christmas eve "dinner". She's making chili. Honestly I'm a little irritated that she just assumed I wanna be at her house after I get off work. My family was planning on us going my moms since she lives the farthest (my in-laws live 3 houses down from us)
So the question is would you eat her food? I don't want to be rude, but I'm not sure I'm going to have an appetite once I step into the house. Seeing the roaches alone grosses me out. I know she's got to really scrub those pans to even use them, and I don't think shes going to be bleaching them like I would.
Lately it's also been said that I'm mean to my in-laws. Honestly I'm not, they just talk ABOUT me nonstop so I choose to not see them unless I have to, which is hard since they live 3 houses down. I don't want to be rude by turning down the food, but I don't want to get a bowl and waste it by not eating it. What would you do?
Sounds like you have bigger issues to work on with your inlaws than whether or not you eat the food......0
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