Feeling very down today- but didn't soothe with food!

I AM SO SORRY! Merry hristmas to you and I am very proud of you! Please add me as a fiend.

Sorry for typing errors. I am such a bad typer. Life on my end arent perfect either but I found so much support on this site. I am full time nurse and mom and I finally decided to do something for myself. PS. I hope you didnt spend too much on him

i'm so sorry that sux make him sleep on the couch tonight

Oh wow, just wow - so sorry! Feeling the hurt. Sometimes relationships just suck. Congrats on not munching your way through though - that's a wonderful gift you gave yourself! Feel free to add me for more support.

Awww, I'm sorry. Men can be such butts!!!!! Awesome job on working out to cope!!!!! Return his gift and tell him you accidentally threw it way.

Beth

I buy myself presents! Been doing that for 12 years now. I am single, that might make a difference, but I don't see why it should. I did get a lovely gift from my 16 year old. She is a beautiful artist. But I got perfume and hair stuff and some makeup and toiletries, gorgeous necklace, etc. No one else is going to give me gifts, so why not treat myself to presents? I would recommend next year to give yourself lots of nice little gifts that you want. You are worth it!

Ok, tomorrow is a good day to go shopping, get out there and get yourself something cute!

Or go wild on Amazon today.

You are learning to take care of yourself by eating healthy and losing the weight and exercising (good for you, I plan on doing a little today, see if the plan takes fruition). Why not be kind to yourself in other ways too?

You working on your own health is the best gift to give yourself and your family. Good for you for working through the hurt!

Sorry you are feeling down but so proud of you for choosing YOU instead of food.

Friend me if you want to talk.

Well done for doing that.

Well, that just sucks. Not even a thanks for breakfast before he went back to bed?

Still, you proved yourself to be a stronger woman today by not eating though the hurt. Good Job on that front.

So, take some money outta his wallet and go get yourself something.

I was a a christmas party the other night and there were about 15 kids in the room opening presents. One little girl from out of state was there, nobody knew she was coming. While the kids were opening their presents she was sitting in the corner crying. I felt like crying too after that. I know how it feels to be left out like that :-/ but congrats! you didn't give in a eat

Oh how I know the feeling. We, as Mothers want to please our children and family. That maternal feeling we have. But, we are still human and have those normal feelings. Men do not think as we do. Call it programmed from birth - I don't know. Again, not that "presents" is what is "important", but your husband teaching your children consideration, caring and thoughtfulness at a time when they are influential makes a big difference.

You, however should be so proud of yourself. Look what you did.for yourself! How wonderful and proud you should be. I think you gave yourself the best gift anyone could have given themselves - caring about yourself.

On the other issue with hubbie, I'm not sure what "Phase" in your marriage you are in, but I do understand as my husband does the same. (He doesn't go to sleep), but he moves on with his day. Earlier in our marriage there were the little notes here and there, a single rose in my car after he cleaned it . But, 10 years later and we are in a new phase of our marriage. I can't say it's a good phase, too much complacency. Also, he works many many hours. I have to look at the pros and the cons. He's working hard for our future, he's loyal, he cares deeply for me and the children, which out weighs the cons.

Sometimes, when I'm very upset with a situation, I write him an email - since I'm unable to get the right words out verbally without crying. It also gets his attention without being diverted by seeing my emotions or putting him in an awkward defensive mode. Hopefully, some of these ideas will help. Kudos to you for caring so much about yourself. Also, feel free to friend me also, I'm here for moral support. God Bless.

Sorry to hear about not getting a present. We all l like to be valued. Then working out shows that you value yourself. Good on you. That's the headline here. Proud of you.

I'm not sure about going hog wild on Amazon, although I can relate. However, my humble suggestion is for you to find something truly special, hopefully on sale--that makes you feel treasured. it could be a cool hat or bath salts or gloves or sunglasses---why not be glam--so in the future, whenever you look at it your spirits will be raised.

You can't change your husband. You can only work on you. If he eventually comes along for the ride. groovy.

I say he owes you a trip to the spa for a facial, mani, pedi; why not ask for this for Christmas since he "forgot" to get you something? He could even just write a blank check with the name of your spa of choice and babysit while you go relax next weekend. Treat yourself. You deserve it......

I am so sorry, I know exactly how you feel, had way too many Christmas' just like that!! I am proud of you for not using food, that is WONDERFUL!! I wish I could say the same...I always used food... Stay Strong, be kind to yourself, Keep up the hard work!!!