will it hurt me that much?

I'd like you to ask yourself this question and see the answer for yourself. Cake is usually bad though. Id say no. I passed up lots of donuts this morning and lots of chocolate. So I know you can pass it up. And you are at your calorie goal. So I say don't eat it.

Depends...thinking psychology here....Can you eat a bite or two and feel satisfied with that? If you eat it will it lead you into a binge?? If you don't eat it will you be especially proud of yourself??? You are you and will make the best choice for yourself. We are pulling for you. No one can make that decision but you. Let us know what you decided my dear.

take a piece home and make it fit in your goals for tomorrow

i say take a bite to try it and then leave the rest.

If you can do without it try and do without it...If you havent had any thing sweet in a while and you really want it, then dont deprive yourself of it, because over time, you may get tired of your eating habits and quit because you may have restricted yourself too much.

There are some people who can do without sweets all together, kudos for them...However there are someone of us that have a sweet tooth, and once in a while, we need to indulge.

So if you havent had a treat in a while, have a piece, you dont have to have a big piece, just take a piece and save the rest for a next time

Good luck with your choices

If you're asking us you already know the answer. What you're looking for is for one person here to yes, "Sure you can have it!" as justification to aswage your guilt. We know these tricks, because we all play them ourselves. Once we can step back and answer our own questions, and not look for an easy out, that is when we have begun to free ourselves from the grip of the food monster that has been pushed on us. Do you really need to ask us? Or should you be looking in the mirror and asking yourslef that question?? I know I need to ask MYSELF more often...:P

Good luck, and don't think we're not here for support. We are...but just like an underwire bra, it will be the support you need...it just might not always be that comfortable...;)

You all may kick my butt for this reply, lol so I will go ahead now and assume the position...bending over NOW!

Now this is just my opinion, and I have alot of personal experience on this particular subject, hehe.

Over the years after trying many different types of diets I have found the same thing happen, over and over...not just with me, but alot of the people who I chat with both online and off.
When I eliminated my favorite foods from my diet or have told myself no, no no, even those "not so good" one's say like ummm chocolate cake....I was ok with my decision at first but by the end of the month, because I had restricted certain types of foods that were deemed 'unhealthy', it was then that I would dive in to ALL my favorite foods....a complete lack of self control and an end of the month munchie attack. Talk about guilt..:sick:

It has taken me literally years to figure up that it's not the actual types of food that are neccesarily bad for us, it's the lack of control we have when it comes to the portion sizes we serve up.
If overall your eating healthier, smaller meals, then allowing youself these types of treats once in a while is not going to ruin your diet......and you will have better control when it comes to portioning your own slice at that time......

Telling yourself, no, no, no over and over again....well your only gonna tell yourself no so many times before you cravings take over and you ultimatly lose ALL control. That's not good and I'm sure many of you have been there, done that.
I know I have.

Again, this is just my opinion and portion control and learning how to moderate certain foods rather than eliminate them has really helped me stay on track.....and I don't get those all out "end of the month" munchie attacks no more for my favortie foods.

LOL allyKat...it took me half a page to write down what you were able to say in one sentence, hehe.

I have a horrible sweet tooth!! What I have found is that when I get a craving for something like chocolate cake (or a brownie) I tell myself I can have it "tomorrow" if I still want it, I choose a healthy alternative or drink a glass of water (and most importantly I don't have it in the house, so I'll *have* to make a special trip for it). And usually when tomorrow comes, I either don't want it or can wait another day.... so I generally get that brownie about a month after I originally decided I wanted it, but encourage myself to wait through the craving to make sure the urge will pass and then when I just have to have it, I've already given myself permission, but have also had some willpower to resist and made healthy choices to make up for it. Does that make any sense??