Am I Being Rude?

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  • cmcollins001
    cmcollins001 Posts: 3,472 Member
    Upon occasion, I will go to my friends list, sort by last login and delete anyone 30 days or older.
  • Juliejustsaying
    Juliejustsaying Posts: 2,332 Member
    deleting seems like too much work. I never bother....
  • nessagrace22
    nessagrace22 Posts: 430 Member
    I don't think that's rude. I'm making a big commitment to change my lifestyle and want people on my friends list with the same goals.
  • CandaceHoweth91
    CandaceHoweth91 Posts: 288
    Nope, I just deleted all those people who have not been on for MONTHS
  • chubbygirl253
    chubbygirl253 Posts: 1,309 Member
    U are far more patient than I am. I delete pretty quick if you are inactive. I keep real life friends longer but not forever. You get a little leeway if you once communicated with me a lot, I have 2 that have been gone a week but I haven't deleted yet for that reason. I'll give them another week. People who dont talk to me anyway only get a week usually. I like to keep my friends list short so I can give real support.
  • MountainMamaMarissa
    MountainMamaMarissa Posts: 202 Member
    I don't think it's rude. I cleaned my list today as well. (Some were family members that I know have no intentions of coming back on) Anyone who hasn't logged in for 3 months or more won't care that you deleted them since they have apparently quit MFP.
  • RaeLB
    RaeLB Posts: 1,216 Member
    I delete people all the time for many different reasons. I do not think it is rude. You don't have to be friends with everyone, especially people you don't know. I do not think there is some special bond you are betraying.

    You can always delete them but leave them a message on their wall telling them they can feel free to add you back if they come back to MFP.
  • cwolfman13
    cwolfman13 Posts: 41,865 Member
    I don't pay that much attention...I'm pretty much worried about me. That said, I'm also not a great, "ada boy" type of guy either. For the most part, my posts with friends are of the joking around nature unless someone has specifically asked me for some sort of guidance.
  • bettacheckyoself
    bettacheckyoself Posts: 570
    what happened to "Out of sight, out of mind"? ...has it been changed to ..."Out of sight, out a friend" ???
  • LMT2012
    LMT2012 Posts: 697 Member
    I don't think it's rude, but what exactly is the big deal with how often friends sign in?
  • Dani_wants_to_be_fit
    Dani_wants_to_be_fit Posts: 550 Member
    I would say it's pretty fair after a few months since they may not be coming back. If you tended to cheer each other on maybe write a comment on their "...has not logged on for a month and may need some encouragement" thing. Should go to their email and if they plan on coming back they will reply (this happened to me), if not then you tried, so no harm in deleting.
  • silverburk
    silverburk Posts: 61
    It can be cluttering because your wall says "so and so has not signed on in Bla bla bla days, and they may need encouragement". I've had it repeat twice in the same day.
  • katy84o
    katy84o Posts: 744 Member
    I do this regularly. I accept all friend requests. However, I will delete someone within a few days if they don't interact or if they constantly post things I don't relate to or aren't interested in. I don't need to be friends with a hundreds of people on here, and if people think that I am rude for deleting, I don't really care and I never think about it again. I also don't mind if people delete me. If we don't mesh well, so be it. I don't stay friends with every single person I meet in my daily life, so why would cyber/virtual life be any different?

    So, no, I dont think you are rude at all. I deleted my "real life" best friend off of here because she never-ever logged. My mom to!
  • fightininggirl
    fightininggirl Posts: 792 Member
    I wouldn't think its rude. we all need to support one another. if they don't login in for a few months then it's a given they aren't going to return
  • supplemama
    supplemama Posts: 1,956 Member
    I don't think that's rude. I'm making a big commitment to change my lifestyle and want people on my friends list with the same goals.

    Right! This is how I feel. If you're not committed, we are not a good fit so...goodbye!
  • returntorural
    returntorural Posts: 339 Member
    Nope, not being rude. If they decide to come back, they can friend you again.
  • laserturkey
    laserturkey Posts: 1,680 Member
    I just recently deleted some friends who have been gone for two months and longer. The one absentee family member I left on because I want to know if/when he comes back so I can be supportive to him.
  • giggitygoo
    giggitygoo Posts: 1,978 Member
    This is what the "ignore user" feature is for. The little arrow on the left of every post. I would just ignore the family members to avoid drama and delete the rest.

    EDIT: Hover over it, and it says "hide" not ignore. oopsies.
  • nunep
    nunep Posts: 21
    go for it. They won't know unless they sign back up :)
  • FlaxMilk
    FlaxMilk Posts: 3,452 Member
    I wouldn't go so far as to call you rude, but I do think it's strange that people delete after a few days or weeks of not logging in. I have some people on my list that I really enjoy and for various reasons have gone long periods of time without logging in. It doesn't affect me at all. The only reason I would delete is if I was at the max friends limit; then I would delete those gone the longest. In the end, it's your friends list and you should use the site in a way that is useful to you, but since you're asking, I personally don't get why people care so much.
  • jennifer_417
    jennifer_417 Posts: 12,344 Member
    Some people get all butthurt over that kind of thing, but it's pretty individual. It's your friends list, it's your call.
  • ninerbuff
    ninerbuff Posts: 49,039 Member
    I have a lot of friends and if I see it's been more than a month, I delete them. They can always refriend me if they come back.

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