eating at the in-laws (gross).. what would you do?

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  • gwicks54
    gwicks54 Posts: 201 Member
    I wonder how many people that are scared of bugs ever eat at restaurants?

    I worked as a restuarant manager, plus owned three of my own over the past twent years. We did not have a roach infestation. I am sure you can find some that do but any business that wants to stay in business wiil have a good pest control company making sure that any bug that comes in, dies & quick.
  • tigersword
    tigersword Posts: 8,059 Member
    I wonder how many people that are scared of bugs ever eat at restaurants?

    I worked as a restuarant manager, plus owned three of my own over the past twent years. We did not have a roach infestation. I am sure you can find some that do but any business that wants to stay in business wiil have a good pest control company making sure that any bug that comes in, dies & quick.
    This. I managed restaurants for over a decade, I can count the number of pest issues I had in that decade on one hand.
  • gwicks54
    gwicks54 Posts: 201 Member
    I wonder how many people that are scared of bugs ever eat at restaurants?

    I worked as a restuarant manager, plus owned three of my own over the past twent years. We did not have a roach infestation. I am sure you can find some that do but any business that wants to stay in business wiil have a good pest control company making sure that any bug that comes in, dies & quick.
    This. I managed restaurants for over a decade, I can count the number of pest issues I had in that decade on one hand.

    Most home kitchens would not pass the inspections our health department puts us thru. Even mine at home has towels on the counter and that is a point off.LOL
  • Bobby__Clerici
    Bobby__Clerici Posts: 741 Member
    Request a hard boiled egg and a coconut...something they can't get their filthy hands on....:bigsmile:
  • jenilla1
    jenilla1 Posts: 11,118 Member
    I'm a little late in responding, but for next time...

    Tell them you got food poisoning from the food at your work party. Say the people at your work are filthy and unhygenic. You took a risk eating their food but you wanted to be polite. So, you ended up sick. Most mild food poisoning only lasts a day, so you're good to go tomorrow. Since you're sick, your man can still go, or he can stay valiantly by your bedside :wink: , but you for sure get to get out of it. :devil:
  • keem88
    keem88 Posts: 1,689 Member
    sounds like my mom's house minus the plumbing, they have mice and ants instead of roaches.
    i would say you ate a lot at lunch and pick at stuff if you go.
    honestly though, i would just say you are ill and skip out
  • keem88
    keem88 Posts: 1,689 Member
    I wonder how many people that are scared of bugs ever eat at restaurants?

    I worked as a restuarant manager, plus owned three of my own over the past twent years. We did not have a roach infestation. I am sure you can find some that do but any business that wants to stay in business wiil have a good pest control company making sure that any bug that comes in, dies & quick.
    This. I managed restaurants for over a decade, I can count the number of pest issues I had in that decade on one hand.

    Most home kitchens would not pass the inspections our health department puts us thru. Even mine at home has towels on the counter and that is a point off.LOL

    i guess you guys have never been to perkins on the west side of cincinnati. the cooks used to kill cockroaches on the grill, and i found a dead roach in a muffin once. that place was ****ing nasty, and that nastiest people worked there (embarrassed to say i did during college). i will never eat at a perkins again
  • MinMin97
    MinMin97 Posts: 2,674 Member
    Only spend time with them if it's productive.
    No, you should NOT be obligated to spend the holidays with them
    You and Husband decided when and how and where you spend the holidays.
    It's always best if extended family are a part of your life in lots of meaningful ways. But if it gets to be bad for you, limit the time.
  • dayone987
    dayone987 Posts: 645 Member




    Lately it's also been said that I'm mean to my in-laws. Honestly I'm not, they just talk ABOUT me nonstop so I choose to not see them unless I have to, which is hard since they live 3 houses down. I don't want to be rude by turning down the food, but I don't want to get a bowl and waste it by not eating it. What would you do?

    I could be wrong but I would guess you talk about your in laws in a negative way as well. Maybe not to them, but maybe to your husband and in front of your child? They probably can feel your disdain for them.

    Take the advice from those that are telling you to go. Eat the food if you possibly can.

    In the long run, it's better for you and your family to get along and for you to show respect for your husband's parent and your child's grandparents.

    Be thankful that you have family that want to share the holidays with you.

    Hope this doesn't sound to harsh but I learned some of these lessons the hard way. I've been married for decades and I regret some of the pettiness that went on between me and my in-laws in the earlier years.
  • Improvised
    Improvised Posts: 925 Member
    I wouldn't go. not to mention you could accidentally bring a roach home in your purse or something

    We had someone bring a mouse to our apartment in their luggage once. Ugh. Soooo awful.
  • fit4lifeUcan2
    fit4lifeUcan2 Posts: 1,458 Member
    I wouldn't go. not to mention you could accidentally bring a roach home in your purse or something

    We had someone bring a mouse to our apartment in their luggage once. Ugh. Soooo awful.

    Better than the bedbugs someone brought over for a visit with us last year!! OMG took a month of steaming every day everything in the house to get rid of them. I'll take a mouse any day over bedbugs!!
  • lbesaw
    lbesaw Posts: 267 Member
    Hell NO----tell them you had a big lunch. Be cordial and get out as soon as you can. Good Luck.
  • coliema
    coliema Posts: 7,646 Member
    I would eat before I went, and then I would act sick the entire time I was there and only drink water.
  • sahm23ladies
    sahm23ladies Posts: 91 Member
    I like the idea someone above had of bringing along a salad, and just eating that. Tell them you're really trying to eat healthy, and saving your extra calories for Christmas Day.
    I get the cleanliness thing though. People who don't live in FL, don't get our 'issues' with roaches. I'm OCD about cleaning and pest control, and am lucky not to have them in my house. I think if I saw one I might set the house on fire to kill it. LOL

    I just pictured you taking a flame thrower to your "palmetto bugs". LOL
  • sahm23ladies
    sahm23ladies Posts: 91 Member
    to the OP... I know it's passed, but next time volunteer for overtime!
  • NoMoreJellyRolls
    NoMoreJellyRolls Posts: 142
    Fake the flu, and stay home!

    I was thinking a stomach virus but either works :)
  • Kath712
    Kath712 Posts: 1,263 Member
    Talk about how full you are from the pitch-in luncheon and snacks at work....

    THIS!! I also like the idea of bringing a side dish, and just eating that. I went through the same issue with my parents many years ago. You gotta do what's right for you. Don't apologize for not eating food that came from an unclean kitchen. You wouldn't eat at a restaurant that had such conditions in the kitchen - family should be no different. Be tactful, try not to hurt feelings, but do what's right for you. Good luck!!
  • TheRoadDog
    TheRoadDog Posts: 11,788 Member
    Don't go. I don't go anywhere I don't want to go and I don't want people coming to my home if they'd reather not.

    Life's too short.
  • mjoslin1990
    mjoslin1990 Posts: 142 Member
    to the OP... I know it's passed, but next time volunteer for overtime!

    haha I did volunteer! they did the dinner AFTER I got off work (about 7:30pm)
  • Improvised
    Improvised Posts: 925 Member
    I wouldn't go. not to mention you could accidentally bring a roach home in your purse or something

    We had someone bring a mouse to our apartment in their luggage once. Ugh. Soooo awful.

    Better than the bedbugs someone brought over for a visit with us last year!! OMG took a month of steaming every day everything in the house to get rid of them. I'll take a mouse any day over bedbugs!!

    Wow. We can agree on that! Mice are awful, but I can't even IMAGINE dealing with bedbugs! *shudders*
  • tigersword
    tigersword Posts: 8,059 Member
    I wonder how many people that are scared of bugs ever eat at restaurants?

    I worked as a restuarant manager, plus owned three of my own over the past twent years. We did not have a roach infestation. I am sure you can find some that do but any business that wants to stay in business wiil have a good pest control company making sure that any bug that comes in, dies & quick.
    This. I managed restaurants for over a decade, I can count the number of pest issues I had in that decade on one hand.

    Most home kitchens would not pass the inspections our health department puts us thru. Even mine at home has towels on the counter and that is a point off.LOL
    How often do you think home cooks wash their can openers?:noway:
  • gwicks54
    gwicks54 Posts: 201 Member
    I wonder how many people that are scared of bugs ever eat at restaurants?

    I worked as a restuarant manager, plus owned three of my own over the past twent years. We did not have a roach infestation. I am sure you can find some that do but any business that wants to stay in business wiil have a good pest control company making sure that any bug that comes in, dies & quick.
    This. I managed restaurants for over a decade, I can count the number of pest issues I had in that decade on one hand.

    Most home kitchens would not pass the inspections our health department puts us thru. Even mine at home has towels on the counter and that is a point off.LOL
    How often do you think home cooks wash their can openers?:noway:

    I don't think most people even think about washing the can opener or checking temps on foods, defrosting properly etc.
  • MinMin97
    MinMin97 Posts: 2,674 Member
    I wonder how many people that are scared of bugs ever eat at restaurants?

    I worked as a restuarant manager, plus owned three of my own over the past twent years. We did not have a roach infestation. I am sure you can find some that do but any business that wants to stay in business wiil have a good pest control company making sure that any bug that comes in, dies & quick.
    This. I managed restaurants for over a decade, I can count the number of pest issues I had in that decade on one hand.

    Most home kitchens would not pass the inspections our health department puts us thru. Even mine at home has towels on the counter and that is a point off.LOL
    How often do you think home cooks wash their can openers?:noway:

    I don't think most people even think about washing the can opener or checking temps on foods, defrosting properly etc.
    My can opener, not being the countertop version, but the handheld, I always put it in the dishwasher, if I've opened something that touches something other than brine from veggies. I just don't want something gunky to fall into future cans LOL. But the metal of the can opener is not likely to breed bacteria.
    But really, given the OP's in-law's standards, I might stick around just to see if I could help them clean up. Maybe they would appreciate that? I'd clean their can-opener.....
  • tigersword
    tigersword Posts: 8,059 Member
    I wonder how many people that are scared of bugs ever eat at restaurants?

    I worked as a restuarant manager, plus owned three of my own over the past twent years. We did not have a roach infestation. I am sure you can find some that do but any business that wants to stay in business wiil have a good pest control company making sure that any bug that comes in, dies & quick.
    This. I managed restaurants for over a decade, I can count the number of pest issues I had in that decade on one hand.

    Most home kitchens would not pass the inspections our health department puts us thru. Even mine at home has towels on the counter and that is a point off.LOL
    How often do you think home cooks wash their can openers?:noway:

    I don't think most people even think about washing the can opener or checking temps on foods, defrosting properly etc.
    My can opener, not being the countertop version, but the handheld, I always put it in the dishwasher, if I've opened something that touches something other than brine from veggies. I just don't want something gunky to fall into future cans LOL. But the metal of the can opener is not likely to breed bacteria.
    But really, given the OP's in-law's standards, I might stick around just to see if I could help them clean up. Maybe they would appreciate that? I'd clean their can-opener.....
    The can opener is far and away the number one health violation that health inspectors note. It's always the first thing they check. 99% of people have electric can openers, and don't even think about washing them. Also, it blows my mind how many people don't own kitchen thermometers.
  • zombilishious
    zombilishious Posts: 1,250 Member
    My in-laws house sounds similar, but you get a contact high from the weed being smoked in the back bedroom along with the filth. They keep themselves clean, but forget the rest. I took it upon myself years ago to ensure my kids and I didn't get violently ill or dead brain cells by always making sure well in advance that the holiday is at my house. They don't help me cook or clean up. It sucks, and I rant, but I'd rather do it and have a nice holiday than have to play nice and feed my kids from questionable plates and silverware!

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