Parentig Advice
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Oh I dont need any, im gonna gie it.
As a parent...its your job to be hard on them now....so lif isnt hard on them later. You're not their best friend.
That is all.
The world would be a much better place if everyone thought this way. You rock!
le sigh.
oh sure.
every child abusing **** face on this website is going to read this thread and think to themselves that what they are doing is just fine. Be a bit more specific about what you mean by being "hard on them now" lest some jerk who beats the crap out of his kids and tells them they are worthless thinks you are talking about *that* style of parenting.
Trust me, as a sociologist, people know that beating the tar out of a kid is not "parenting". Even those that are doing it know they are not justified...0 -
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well h them obviously does not mean beat your kid. It means setting rules, holding them accountable and not giving in to their every whim. Its our job t be firm and not necessarily be "liked"
I'm glad you said so. Because I happen to know quite a few parents who think that keeping a kid "in line" requires making them scared ****less of you. And the tactics used to create that sort of effect are damaging.
I agree with you then. No kid benefits from having parents who cater to their every whim or protect them from understanding harsh realities. Thats' why so many people love Atticus Finch.0 -
Oh I dont need any, im gonna gie it.
As a parent...its your job to be hard on them now....so lif isnt hard on them later. You're not their best friend.
That is all.
The world would be a much better place if everyone thought this way. You rock!
le sigh.
oh sure.
every child abusing **** face on this website is going to read this thread and think to themselves that what they are doing is just fine. Be a bit more specific about what you mean by being "hard on them now" lest some jerk who beats the crap out of his kids and tells them they are worthless thinks you are talking about *that* style of parenting.
Trust me, as a sociologist, people know that beating the tar out of a kid is not "parenting". Even those that are doing it know they are not justified...
I'd really like for you to meet my father. Your degree has no baring whatsoever on his world view.0 -
Oh I dont need any, im gonna gie it.
As a parent...its your job to be hard on them now....so lif isnt hard on them later. You're not their best friend.
That is all.
The world would be a much better place if everyone thought this way. You rock!
le sigh.
oh sure.
every child abusing **** face on this website is going to read this thread and think to themselves that what they are doing is just fine. Be a bit more specific about what you mean by being "hard on them now" lest some jerk who beats the crap out of his kids and tells them they are worthless thinks you are talking about *that* style of parenting.
Trust me, as a sociologist, people know that beating the tar out of a kid is not "parenting". Even those that are doing it know they are not justified...
I'd really like for you to meet my father. Your degree has no baring whatsoever on his world view.
Unfortunately, yes there are exceptions...0 -
crate train them. they'll never get out of line.0
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All I need is my duct tape
This^^^^^^^^0 -
Unfortunately, yes there are exceptions...
Yes. And those exceptions are not as few and far between as we all would hope they are.0 -
I agree.....my parents were "parents" growing up. I think my dad was TOO hard on me sometimes. However, NOW I love hanging out with them and I do feel like we're friends as well. My dad and I joke around all the time and my mom is just the best. So, whatever they did it worked and I feel pretty lucky (although, not at that time! lol but now I can see that it was for the best).0
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You want parenting advice? Don't home-school them.0
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Electric collars.0
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Nothing wrong with Homeschooling. There's some that are able to and some that should not.You want parenting advice? Don't home-school them.0
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My sister has two kids. One of her kids is the most spoiled little ****. That kid(my nephew) and I are only 5 years apart in age. This guy does what ever he wants, when ever he wants.
He never had a dad, and we(I) tried to be there as much as we(I) could but there's so much you can do before you're fed up with his ****.
Now, I don't hate him, he's my nephew, and he pretty much saw me as his older brother, but at times he needs to realize how fortunate he is to be able to have/do the things he has/does.
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You want parenting advice? Don't home-school them.
mmmm... really depends on the kid, the reason, and the method of homeschooling. I was homeschooled for a good portion so that I could be done earlier and in time to enroll in a program. I agree though that it can cause harm to many kids, it really just depends on the scenario.0 -
All I need is my duct tape
I lock mine in the closests.0 -
heh heh heh .. you said "hardon"Oh I dont need any, im gonna gie it.
As a parent...its your job to be hard on them now....so lif isnt hard on them later. You're not their best friend.
That is all.0 -
You want parenting advice? Don't home-school them.
That's really in poor taste. Although I wouldnt personally homeschool in extreme situations I can understand it.0 -
You want parenting advice? Don't home-school them.
mmmm... really depends on the kid, the reason, and the method of homeschooling. I was homeschooled for a good portion so that I could be done earlier and in time to enroll in a program. I agree though that it can cause harm to many kids, it really just depends on the scenario.
I didn't say any of that. My wife plans to home-school my son. I just told the OP not to because spelling is important.0 -
it is not my spelling that is the issue, it is giant fingers.You want parenting advice? Don't home-school them.
mmmm... really depends on the kid, the reason, and the method of homeschooling. I was homeschooled for a good portion so that I could be done earlier and in time to enroll in a program. I agree though that it can cause harm to many kids, it really just depends on the scenario.
I didn't say any of that. My wife plans to home-school my son. I just told the OP not to because spelling is important.0 -
Oh I dont need any, im gonna gie it.
As a parent...its your job to be hard on them now....so lif isnt hard on them later. You're not their best friend.
That is all.
I have 4, two age 33, one age 30 and one age 27, and I totally agree with this!! We are not meant to be their friends, we are meant to be their parents. If your kids sometimes don't like you, then you're doing it right! And believe me, they will someday thank you and tell you you were a great parent.0 -
I think it's funny that people think they have to give into their child's every whim in order for said child to like them. My daughter has boundaries she is a child and as her parents it is mine and hubby's job to teach her responsibility , respect, boundaries, compassion, how to make decisions, to consider consequences. To teach her to be a usefull member of society. We have expectations of her, we expect her to behave appropriately in any given situation and we have taught her how to behave and how to determine the appropriate actions in a given situation. We expect her to do her best in school, we have taught her to follow through with her commitments, she has respect for herself and other people. She knows that if she misbehaves there are consequences. She knows that while we have her back, we will not condone bad behavior.
And guess what she still likes us :noway: .
She is all of eleven and she has told me that she is glad that we are her parents because even though we expect a lot from her we are there for her. My husband and I both attend 98% of her events, be they sports, school related, girl scouts. We support her and her choices, as a coach I see many kids get dropped off and neither mom or dad bother to stay and watch because they are to busy. Both me and hubby attend her school conferences, christmas pageants, cheer leading, softball, soccer, science fairs, and anything else that is important to her.
That being said I think most people try to do their best but even when you do every thing right or wrong there is no guarantee , me and my brother grew up in the same house and we are totally different, I am responsible , self supportive, work hard and regularly. My brother is lazy, unemployed for years, still lives at home with our mom, and irresponsible, same parents same house and he is five years older than me. You never can tell.0 -
They look normal-sized to me.
it is not my spelling that is the issue, it is giant fingers.You want parenting advice? Don't home-school them.
mmmm... really depends on the kid, the reason, and the method of homeschooling. I was homeschooled for a good portion so that I could be done earlier and in time to enroll in a program. I agree though that it can cause harm to many kids, it really just depends on the scenario.
I didn't say any of that. My wife plans to home-school my son. I just told the OP not to because spelling is important.
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Oh I dont need any, im gonna gie it.
As a parent...its your job to be hard on them now....so lif isnt hard on them later. You're not their best friend.
That is all.
My kids are all grown and have to say, we were their best friends growing up. I coached every team my girls and son played on regardless how much I worked. I was always there for them and did we make their life easy and give them everything they needed? You're damn right we did! Totally disagree with your theory of parenting.0 -
well that turned **** fast.. I personally thought it was good advice..
Although I do think it possible to be both, I give my kids everything they need etc and we play etc like best friends but I also know when to switch into parent mode and make sure they use there manners, are respectful and considerate etc..
I think it's all about balance.0 -
Try telling that to my 19 year old who has friends who have "soft" parents. He thinks we're positively draconian! We won't buy him a car. . .he has to work and buy his own. We won't pay for his cell phone or plan (in fact our 13 & 14 year olds pay for their plans each month!). We won't let him have drinking parties in our home. We are the WORST PARENTS EVER. . .in his mind.
Granted, his actual mom (I'm stepmom) has a lot to do with that. She's quite permissive. We love our kids dearly and want to see them ready to truly take on the challenges life will throw at them. Giving them every little thing their hearts desire will simply set them up to be hugely in debt or completely disillusioned with life!
There's a lot of Love, but there's discipline, order, and accountability, too!!0 -
You want parenting advice? Don't home-school them.
mmmm... really depends on the kid, the reason, and the method of homeschooling. I was homeschooled for a good portion so that I could be done earlier and in time to enroll in a program. I agree though that it can cause harm to many kids, it really just depends on the scenario.
I didn't say any of that. My wife plans to home-school my son. I just told the OP not to because spelling is important.
You better get him started now or he'll be at a major disadvantage. Wait another six weeks, and it'll be too late.0 -
You want parenting advice? Don't home-school them.
Hey!!! I turned out just fine thank you! Just don't ask my how old the planet is and we will be fine and dandy.
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I bet if you used duct tape too, they'll never get out. LolAll I need is my duct tape
I lock mine in the closests.0 -
Oh I dont need any, im gonna gie it.
As a parent...its your job to be hard on them now....so lif isnt hard on them later. You're not their best friend.
That is all.
HAHAHAHAHAHAHA love it0 -
here my two cents...I have three kids and I think there needs to be a balance. I believe in rules and disapline but also a balance of love and compassion.0
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My parents were kind of strict with us when we were kids, although i think they relaxed a bit with my brother (he's the youngest of 3) and we all turned out fine! I get on really well with my parents.
I'm a teacher so I pity my poor kids :laugh: . My husband says I even use my 'teacher tone' with him! My kids are 3 and 1 so pretty young, although they are learning! My 3 year old was putting his lego man on the naughty spot earlier this evening for hitting his younger sister.0
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