Support from your family

My husband and lab, Sam (dog) eat fast food about 2 X a month. They eat it in front of me. They also eat cookies, ice cream and other assorted treats in front of me. But I am the one that has changed my eating habits. It is important to me that I get healthy. My husband is thin, has no issues with sugar. So, I am not going to make him change his whole life because I need to get healthy and lose weight. This is my thing and I don't see it as "not supporting me" if he eats things that I now choose not to eat. It was hard at first, but now? If I even smell a McDonald's cheese burger it makes me sick.

Decide how badly you want to eat healthy and then you will do it. Good luck! :drinker:

My husband has never had weight issues and can watch me work out and lose a couple pounds. With that said, he refuses to eat the same things as me. When he sees me eating something healthy, he is almost guaranteed to say it looks disgusting. I do all the cooking so I still have to make these delicious meals and cannot join him. I have to chew gum while I cook just so the smell won't do me in. Its hard but I just try to stay focused and allow myself a cheat day so I don't feel completely left out.

kind of. My husband was semi on board and now hes not. Hes supportive but not on board. My parents, more my mom are not one way or the other. I brought my own food to their house for Christmas and she made a comment. Ya know what though? I look at it this way- when i go on vacation with them next summer and im rockin a string bikini and shes in a cover up- well its because i busted my *kitten*.

My husband does try to support me but only within his limits. What I mean is when I want to go on my elliptical he wants me to snuggle and watch tv. Stuff like that. But I see it as a challenge more then as a destructive force. Society will try to derail us. If we can resist the pressure from within our own families it makes us stronger to resist society.

I get more verbal support than actual support; like so many others he doesn't think he needs "improvement" :laugh: But to get any support is helpful. You just have to realize you are doing this for your own physical well-being & to enjoy the moments of your life.

My boyfriend eats entire pizzas in front of me. It doesn't bother me. I'm trying to change my habits, not his. The world is not going to change just because you are, so we have to learn to live with temptation. I think the amount of temptation around me(my boyfriends eating habits plus working in fast food) has actually helped me more than it has hurt me.

With that being said, my boyfriend is very supportive of me. He never tries to talk me into eating things, and when I do eat junk he never questions or shames me. I doubt he would be as supportive if I told him not to bring chips into the house. He'd probably pack my suitcase :laugh:

Your trying to force your husband to restrict what he eats? Good luck with that one.

My husband is really supportive most of the time. He eats the healthy meals I cook. If he wants to have a snack later I don't mind. We don't usually buy crisps/biscuits/cakes etc. If we want something like a cake then we make it ourselves. My husband makes pancakes sometimes and I just don't eat one. He's ordered pizza a couple of times over the past few months and I didn't eat any at all.

When I visit my parents they always have healthy food. My mum always asks me what i want her to buy. She always makes healthy food anyway.

Do your family members support you in reaching your goals or make it harder? I'm trying to convince my husband not to buy any fast food, crisps and not to eat them in front of me. There is a little progress so far but not as big as I would like.

they don't intend to, but they sabotage you the whole way. I think my husband would go into shock if he had anything but fast food and soda, even if I make a nice healthy dinner, he'll find some way. load up on ice cream after or something. and of course, hes tall and skinny. my in laws... they know i'm trying to lose weight, even showed them an eating schedule I was thinking of, but if I don't eat like two full dinner plates of something, which I don't, they get offended and god help me. so, they make it harder. me and people on here, and my baby, that's my support group.

I just spent two weeks with my parents and they are very supportive, though possibly I have different expectations from you. I will preface this by saying that my family doesn't eat much junk food but we cook with cream and butter and have a lot of desserts and sweets. My parents work out a little bit (Mum does group classes at the gym and Dad does gentle gym practice) and are in their mid-60s.

I don't expect them to purge their fridge and pantry for my stay - I'm a grown up capable of my own decisions. In fact I bring them some chocolate and biscuits from abroad that I know they will enjoy.

I do expect to be allowed to give input on our main meal (lunch) and I offer to cook some of my food. I expect them t be supportive in trying some new foods which they are. For other meals I expect to be allowed to make my own choices within reason. Eg. I have porridge for breakfast when they have sandwiches or toast, and I might have scrambled eggs and ham for dinner when they have ham sandwiches.

I don't expect them to give up eating dessert (we always have dessert after lunch and often a little something with our evening coffee). I do expect to be asked before being dished up for and for my "no thanks" to be respected. I still stay at the table and socialise with my hot drink while they eat - I don't mind. They won't have something I really like unless I also have dessert so Mum saves that for a day when I have allowed for it in my calories.

I do expect them to be positive in relation to exercise. They kindly agreed to drive me to a nice trail for running multiple times during my stay and took the opportunity to take a short walk themselves. I really appreciated that.

I always make sure that there is a pitcher of water on the table for a meal drink.

:blushing: Having gained another stone (14 lbs)!!!!!!! I have today decided to have a serious crack at losing 21 lbs by Easter - or as near as I can reasonably manage. It has been a very bad couple of years with family illness and loss but we have to go on, so this seems a positive way to move forward. My daughter also has a (lesser)weight issue and is encouraging - she introduced me to the fitness pal site a couple of years ago. I will also get one or two minor mobility issues sorted to facilitate more exercise. Exercise alone often feels pointless if it hasn't a focus and I am not one for workouts or gyms, so I hope to get a dog in the spring which will make me walk more. I will also be VERY careful in using loads of left-over Christmas food as occasional treats - now mostly in the freezer to stop me grazing!

My family's very supportive but my mum wants me to come over for dinner so often that it's getting kind of problematic. The food she makes is generally pretty healthy (lots of veggies, low fat etc) but her portions are out of control so I always end up eating too much. During school time I try to visit them only once a week so I don't constantly over eat.

My mum and brother are supportive and my dad isn't supportive at all.

The house is full of chocolate, pringles, cakes, just everything I struggle to resist! Even the supportive members of my family still buy this stuff and it tempts me so much! x

There is always junk in my house, too.... it's very annoying. : ( I wish they would stop.