i just ruined everything.

You ruined nothing cause tomorrow is another day! Everyone has set backs and today was yours. If you fall and never get up you will never move on. Funny thing I went over my calories today to for the first time in 3.5 months. Tomorrow will be better for us both.

ive been on MFP since March 16th, and i have eaten 1200 calories or under every single day, and going to the gym 5 times a week. today, i dont know what got into me but i just started eating... then a little more... a little more... till i couldnt stop!! i ate 4,216 calories today and im in tears. how could i let myself fail?? any support would be greatly appreciated. I feel like this weight struggle is never-ending.

Ok, I don't know what time it is there but it's almost the Monday a.m here. It doesn't actually sound like you ruined 'everything', sounds more like you feel your eating got out of control. YOU have the power to get back on track right now, drink some water, get ready for bed (depending on your time zone of course lol), brush your teeth but most of FORGIVE YOURSELF FOR BEING HUMAN and eating some unplanned food.

Oh heck Hon.. it could be a million reasons why you started unplanned eating today, PMS, boredom, being too controlling on your food menu's, not eating close enough to your 1200 cals (not over but not much under is the best way, preplanning meals can help on that ALOT) the point is it's almost a new day but even now you can grab back control and stop the eating NOW.

Is 1200 cals what MFP gave you to eat? Do you eat back any of your excercise cals at all? Were you hungry today or feeling deprived? Sometimes not eating back some excercise cals can make a person feel that way if they've been working out hard.

Ok, anything there help at all Hon? I do hope so...you haven't RUINED ANYTHING, you've had a bit of a setback. Probably not best to weight yourself tomorrow morning but just preplan your meals for tomorrow and the week if you can

Try not to deprive yourself, simply plan treats in if that's what started the ball rolling on the eating today. Some of us get soooo strict with ourselves at the begining and it's like we snap. Gosh who could blame us ya know. This is a lifestyle change..it's a process, something we are changing for our lifetime.

Looking forward to how you feel when you get up in the a.m and are back to planned meals. Forgive yourself Hon:flowerforyou: :flowerforyou:

That is the beauty of it...you are doing exactly what you need to be doing. Everyday you've given yourself purpose and focus. One day will not erase all you've done to bless yourself.

You are one step up admitting where you stand today. That should be commended and I am very proud of you. Remember this is a lifelong way of life. We are not doing this for the time being. We are looking to live this wonderful new life style.

Most days you were right on target. Even a trainer eats outside the target some times. Give yourself a nod and easy up a little...it will get easier.

Plan everything you're going to eat ahead of time, even snacks. Give yourself enough to keep you strong and not lacking....and when necessary give yourself permission to go over & don't beat yourself up. slow goes it.

Most of all...give yourself a big hug, because it's about this "moment" not the past 24 hours.

I'm proud of you!

I am so with the other posters.

STOP!!! BREATHE!!!

You have not ruined anything - you actually know what the calorie count is - people who blow it throw in the towel, stop counting and stop caring. You haven't. you're just facing your demons, which you can do now or later (now is way easier!)

People who've truly blown it wouldn't report in and say they've blown it. they'd give up and vanish very quietly. That's not you. You're saying, quite loudly and publicly. that you're struggling - that's very different.

So, take yourself off the hook. You are not required to lose any weight for the time being. You just have to check in here and tell the truth - as you have just done - everyday. Maybe several times a day. And you have to do one other thing - drink a glass of water after you post. That's all.

Do it and you'll be fine.

I think you're going to do fine, this is just part of your process.

You are doing fine one bad day is just that one bad day. Like everyone has said tommorow will be better and remember you have friends here who want nothing more then to support you on the bad days and remind you how great you are doing all the rest. Keep it up and remember to forgive yourself and enjoy a new day tommorow.

Forgive yourself. Next time tackle the emotions that set you to "binge." Really think about your eating - hungry or just filling a void? Sometimes your body does want the extra calories because it's afraid of starving. Maybe you should have 1 or 2 days where you eat 100 extra-ish calories more... You really shouldn't gain weight from adding in a few extra calories a couple times a week (at least I know an extra piece of fruit doesn't tend to add to my weight gain)

When I took an off day, ate whatever I wanted or missed, and didn't count calories... were the weeks I lost the most weight! The most. It jump started my metabolism. Taking a break isn't a bad thing. You can't deprive your body from everything you love and we all slip. No worries.

unfortunatly i gained 3 pounds from it.

You didn't really gain 3 pounds! It's impossible to gain 3 lbs from 4200 calories. (A pound is equal to about 3500 calories.) What you're seeing on the scale today is honestly just sodium (usually when we binge, it's not on fruits and veggies, haha! So the sodium is what kills you on the scale.) Honestly, just give it a few days of 'cleaner' eating and drink lots of water, and that 3 lbs will disappear.