Jealous friends?

No one needs people like that in their life

They're just mad because your such a hot potato mama

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Hi Christy!
DITCH THEM! They are only contributing to the negativity in your life & transitions. Yes I have been through this, and sometimes still run into a few "downer friends" from the past. When you see them, be positive about yourself and how good you feel! Surround yourself with positive & great people that you know will only lead you in a good direction. Keep up the good work!
Aloha! Leilani

You've lost a lot of weight man!!!! You have reason to be proud. The reason for the jealousy is your weight loss has changed up the friendship dynamics of the group. Unconsciously everyone does it, even me. I have friends in certian boxes. E.g motivated one the shopping buddie, the takeaway and movie girl, the friend who I like but cant handle in large doses etc.... they are confused and jealous also I recon. If they cant accept you then get rid of that negativity, who needs it? ???

Thanks everyone. I DO have many friends and family that are extremely supportive of me and I treasure them. As well as all the friends I've made here These two in particular are childhood life long friends and it's a hard pill to swallow. We are in our mid 40's for crying out loud, this isn't high school lol. I think maybe the next time I have an issue I'll confront them. I've always been the one to back down and laugh at my own expense. Time to get a backbone right?

I am in the exact same situation as you right now with 2 friends that have been in my life for a very long time. I'm only 34 and I feel like I'm back in high school. I have also found that I have changed so much since I started this journey that I just don't have anything in common with most of my girlfriends anymore. I know I have to get rid of the negativity as it's causing me too much unhappiness, but it also makes me sad that I don't have many IRL friends that I have things in common with anymore I feel like I'm a new kid at school trying to find new friends!

When I lost 110 pounds, I experienced what you're talking about with certain people. The people fell into two distinct groups:

1. Strong people looked at what I had accomplished and said, wow, I want that for myself. They asked me what I was doing, and they started doing it, too.

2. Weak people looked at what I had accomplished and said, wow, I could never do that, and I don't like that she was able to do that. I need to try to shove her back where she was, so I can feel comfortable with her again, because now when I am around her I am confronted by my feelings about what I have not done for myself.

The only thing holding the weak people back was their own perception of themselves. Sad, really. I actually lost a "friend" over it, but I accepted that she just could not get past how my transformation made her feel about herself, no matter how I tried to discuss it with her. (She actually accused me of hitting on a guy she desperately wanted a relationship with; I wasn't aware of how she felt about him but even so, he was the one hitting on me and getting nowhere. It didn't make sense for her to blame me for that, but that's what she chose to do.) I had made so many changes in my lifestyle -- I couldn't afford to devote time to someone who was unsupportive. So I moved on.

Confront them directly, and see if a wake-up call helps. If it doesn't, it's time to take a break from them and re-evaluate the friendships.

I have had the same experience sadly I would say 90% of the people I know/saw me lose weight have been supportive and encouraging but that 10% is what gets me!

The one friend who sticks out with a poo poo attitude about my weight loss is currently the exact same weight I was when I started losing weight. She makes comments like: Girl you are shrieking away, do you ever eat? and my favorit are you ill? The way I figure it is she has only known me as "Big" and some people dont like change! She accuses me of "changing" and blames this on my weight loss. I can honestly say yes I have changed, I feel better about myself, I have more energy, and in general I have a more positive outlook on life! If that makes me a bad person so be it! I am still the same person I was a year ago, I am just a smaller version

I unfortunately had a similar situation when I lost 20lbs (before grad school ). My roommate and I (both full figured) were pretty decent friends, and when I first began dieting and exercising, she at first was supportive. However, as the weeks past, and I began to see the beginnings of results, she suddenly started cooking the most unhealthy food. She would constantly offer me some of the food. At first I thought she was just being polite, but then she began taunting me with it by saying childish things like, "look how delicious this is, mmmm it is good!" And once even waving a plate under my face, she said look what I can eat but you can't. Lucky for me she went away for a month and a half, and I was able to not have her pressuring me. However, when she came back the comments got snide, even commenting on my looks. We ended up having a falling out. We did make up, but we aren't as close as we used to be, and though she is better about the comments, I still get them from time to time. I would say if its people you genuinely care about, talk to them, but if they are people that you don't, I would put some distance from them.

Thanks everyone. I DO have many friends and family that are extremely supportive of me and I treasure them. As well as all the friends I've made here These two in particular are childhood life long friends and it's a hard pill to swallow. We are in our mid 40's for crying out loud, this isn't high school lol. I think maybe the next time I have an issue I'll confront them. I've always been the one to back down and laugh at my own expense. Time to get a backbone right?

I had a childhood friend who got progressively crazier as she got older. A good friend of mine had a childhood friend who started acting out passive aggressively when my friend had children because she wanted a family and was jealous.

Your friends might be pissy because you're no longer the fat friend. Or you're losing weight and they can't.

Sometimes your life changes and you have to let people go.

I have a couple of "friends" (and I use that term loosely) that seem to want to sabotage me or have a negative comment on everything I do or say concerning my appearance, eating habits, gym habits, the way I breathe...lol..kidding on the breathing but it's ridiculous! I'm not quite sure how to handle them as I don't want to come off as arrogant but at the same time I'm proud of who I am now and what I've achieved. I'm curious if anyone has this problem and how do you handle it?

I also have a few friends like this, idk why they do it but it makes me feel bad about myself so I have been slowly distancing myself from them.

Make their misery your joy!
And sever the connection.

I kind of keep my distance from negative people, but every now and then, one sneaks in. And it is usually someone I enjoy being around some times. So it is hard for me, just to say, dump them. But I have, after weighing pros and cons of the friendship. It's easier to pop your balloon than to blow up their own. If you want to continue the friendships in any capacity, you might have to draw a boundary around yourself when they start their popping.