Opinion about relationships
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I have moments where I'm an A because there are sometimes I think the argument is completely stupid and I'll ignore them till they want to start a new conversation with me. I can also be a B though if I know I'm right and they're wrong0
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Why must you always make me choose between impossible options? You always make things as hard as posssible. That's it, I'm leaving to cool down. I don't feel like talking anymore.0
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Tricky, tricky, tricky....
Personally, I'm not good if someone shuts me out and goes into silent mode. I end up going mad trying to work out what's wrong? / what have I've done? Round and round my brain goes.
I would prefer a good shouting match, get it all out in the open. Sometimes you do get hurt in the cross fire, but that's what the making up is all about...:bigsmile:0 -
Neither is good and my husband and I are both, im the one to stop talking and he goes off the deep end and yells...something we are working on.0
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B is worse. If someone feels that they can scream at me over something that can be discussed calmly and rationally then I will absolutely stop talking to them until they can behave and treat me properly. It's a matter of having self respect.
At least 'A' can go simmer and then talk with a cooler head.
At least 'A' is a lot less likely to say something that can't be taken back (you can't unring the bell) and make a bad situation WAY worse.
At least 'A' is less likely to cause 'civilian casualties' (kids, pets, visitors, etc.)
At least 'A' is less likely to get the police called in.
Thank goodness! I know it's just an online message board, but it feels really good to see one enthusiastic response to this in a sea of "A" answers.
Honestly, I think a lot of "B"s would look at what I wrote initially and dismiss it because they simply feel they know better than to listen and communicate with others who have opinions that differ from theirs. Also, yes, I can sort of see the irony in what I wrote there, hahaha.0 -
A is SLIGHTLY worse ...I'm slightly A b/c I'd say *kitten* it it's not worth my anger so I'd shut up and get about it till you get on your knees and beg (joking about the last bit!!) plus my life is too short to be screaming and prefer to calm down and discuss it in an orderly fashion...No body come to me screaming and shouting it doesn't end too well !0
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b might serve up more headaches but at least with them you will know the root of the problem and thus have an easier time solving said problem.0
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Definitely A. While I don't believe being brutally honest is the best way to communicate, it's more effective than being passive aggressive and not discussing things through.0
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Yell at least I might actually hear what I've done wrong .0
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Actually neither A nor B sound very good to me.0
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Im more of a B person myself. If someone is passive agressive towards me, I blow it. I hate that and I would probably leave right then and there because that is one thing that truly pisses me off haha. Yell and scream all you like. I'm deaf. Doesn't bother me.0
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I prefer B. Both the BF and exhusband were "shut down" types. I'm loud and a fast-talker. It increases during arguments. I find them cathartic and am comforted by the fact that a good shouting match means we are not ignoring the subject.
It must also be noted that I am an attention *kitten* who cannot stand to be ignored for five minutes.0 -
I have a hard time dealing with B types, too much stress for me. :noway:
i am more of an A person - although i can be pushed to category B on occasion :blushing:0 -
I;m B type.
Was raised in familly that resolved problems by throwing pots at the floor and unleashing Slavic Inferno (tm).
Having mild form of bipolar doesnt help. Having like best boyfriend ever that is C "calm rational and german" helps whole lot . He just waits out my shouts and tantrums and waits for the moment when i feel like complete idiot for leting my emotion swat out brain from equation.
I'm passive agressive on my way that leads to emotional tsunami.
If I had to choose I'd still go with B . Argument as long it doesnt turn to violence cleans up atmosphere faster than someone who just shuts you out and holds a grudge for days.0 -
I have trouble with both types so I would not do well with either. Passive-aggressive behavior is frustrating, manipulative and when they withhold affection and communication it's the worst. I have no patience for it. Confrontational-aggressive behavior is bullying and abusive and I do not tolerate it well either. Luckily, my husband and I are neither one of those extremes. He is from the super passive-aggressive family and I am from a super obnoxious in-your-face confrontational family. We have a little bit of those qualities that peek out from time to time, but we keep ourselves in check fairly well most of the time.
Ditto here neither. Was married to a man who was an A and a B both are toxic and will destroy any good stuff there is between two people. If you are an A or a B get help and deal with your issues. If you are on the receiving end of an A or a B type personality don't waste years trying to change them or waiting for them to change; it rarely happens.
Been there, done that, now happily divorced and crazy is no longer a part of my life!0 -
I've been both A and B at times in life, but crazy thankful to have my wife. It isn't that we don't annoy each other, but very rarely do we forget we're on the same side, so we hash out conflicts 99.999% pretty peacefully. When one gets the other too upset, we just tell the other we need a break (bike ride, read, watch a movie) calm down and look at the problem when cooler heads prevail.
It's such a mature way to handle it, it could never come from me, so thanks sweetheart, you're the best.0 -
My husband is A or B depending on how he wants to handle the situation and it is very frustrating. I am more calm and want to talk things out. If I get frustrated enough I just shut down and let him say what he wants and keep my thoughts to myself. I rather do that than go back & forth with him sometimes0
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